Your child really needs to be taught

Mondo Parenting Updated on 2024-01-30

Some readers left a message to He Tian in the background, saying that after reading your article, it is easy to be excited and can't sleep.

Look at Dong Yuhui, who is very popular, but people would rather not make money.

If you want to live a simpler life, it is very satisfying to accompany the audience to read a book.

Wouldn't that be nice?

*He Tian specially searched and looked at it.

What Mr. Dong said was really good, and Mr. Yu should have been very moved to hear it.

During the period when Boya met his son, the person who was a confidant died.

But this appreciation and protection is extremely expensive.

From Mr. Dong's point of view, it is expensive because he wants to give up the opportunity to make more money.

He also said this in **.

From Mr. Yu's point of view, it is expensive because he wants to keep this sincerity, and the price is even greater.

Let's say you have a big orchard.

In the garden, every harvest season, the red and clear fruits hang all over the branches, delicate and beautiful.

Even if this garden has towering walls, thorns, and electric grids.

How do you keep the fruit within?

Why is it that no one will come to steal and rob just a fence?

Is it because the people who come to steal and rob know that there is a violent institution that surpasses all individuals to maintain order?

If there is no order, is it possible for your big garden to grow fruits in peace?

The peach orchard in the sky needs to be watched by Bi Ma Wen.

How much more the things of the earth?

Teacher Yu's care for Dong Yuhui, who is as tender as water, must be much more expensive than caring for the rough man Dongfang Xiaosun who dropped his mobile phone.

Why do so many people care so much about Dong Yuhui's wronged gossip?

Because the maintenance of the tenderness and simplicity of the heart is also the projection of the maintenance of one's own heart.

Why do you care about strangers thousands of miles away, but you can get by with the things at hand?

Because of other people's business, you just need to move your mouth.

After exalting himself, he got emotional satisfaction, and it was effortless.

But if it's your own business, you have to look ahead and look backward, and you have to pay and make efforts.

I also have to bear the possibility of losing everything but getting nothing.

It's too painful to think about.

It's better to worry about other people's business.

If he's good, I'll be happy, and if he's bad, I'll scold him, and it's over.

I get emotional satisfaction at both ends.

Think about it, isn't this exactly the same as tutoring your child with homework?

He did well, and that's my pride.

Whatever I produce, it must be a high-quality product.

If he doesn't do well.

came back and scolded him to relieve his anger.

And one more thing: how did I give birth to such a useless thing as you.

Isn't it very decompressing to listen to?

Why do parents tutor their children is like chickens and dogs, and they can even be so angry that they are hospitalized.

But the teacher tutors the child, and everything is quiet

When He Tian was in school, he worked as a tutor for a year.

One of the children, his father, said the first thing when they met.

Don't look at me as his father, I really can't control this child.

You look at it, you can teach him as much as you can, and I don't blame you if you can't teach him well.

At the end of the semester, the parents are quite happy, the children are also very happy, and they like the classes in Hetian very much.

What is the actual situation?

This kid likes to play chess, chess, flags, backgammon, checkers.

People are addicted to food, and in the end, they have two hours of tutoring and one hour of playing chess.

If I don't play chess in that class, I won't be able to play chess in a class.

If you can't play chess, you can change to backgammon, and if you can't play backgammon, you can change checkers.

He Tian said that he couldn't play checkers.

The young man said, that's just right, I'll teach you, I can't win you if I don't believe it.

Good guy, after a semester, his grades have not improved, let's say that He Tian has learned several kinds of chess.

The second student, after each class, has to pull the field to play badminton for an hour, and if he doesn't play, he won't go to class.

Later, I couldn't stand it anymore, and He Tian quit a month later, which was a waste of time.

After all, playing badminton doesn't pay for it.

What's even more interesting is that the third student has to pull He Tian to tell the story of his love at school every class.

What delicious food did I buy for my girlfriend this week, how to pass a small note to avoid being discovered by the teacher, and how to deal with the interrogation of my parents.

No matter how big or small, it's like reading a high school romance.

You can't listen to it.

What kind of conflict do you think this can have?

It's strange that chickens and dogs jump.

The purpose of a tutor is to give lectures, improve grades, and then get paid.

If you like to play chess, I will accompany you to play chess for a while, and after playing chess, we will continue to learn Xi.

If you like to play badminton, then we can play badminton after class.

But the purpose of parents is not to learn and Xi, but to live a good life in the future.

Children must develop morally, intellectually, physically, aesthetically, and laboriously in an all-round way.

I'll give you a lecture and you're distracted?

Still want to play chess and badminton?

My temper, do you have any perseverance?

Can you control yourself?

You don't have any longevity in anything, how can you mix in society in the future?

Parents want not only his grades, but also the emotional value that children provide them with a sense of control.

The parents' account is that I pay such a big cost of time and energy to tutor you to learn Xi, what a big price.

What's wrong with my point of emotional value?

The child's account is that I am doing such boring things, and enduring your verbal torture.

Can't you give some emotional value encouragement?

You're paying the cost and want emotional value feedback.

The child is doing boring things, and he needs emotional values to keep him going.

With only these two variables, that's an unsolvable problem.

The only solution is that parents spend money to have someone else provide emotional value.

It's all the same.

Senior partner, cultural tourism ambassador, is the emotional value, the most incendiary.

Even a 996 migrant worker most often says that there is no money that can be earned.

What's more, Mr. Dong already has an endless amount of money to spend.

For this spiritual thing, it is more addictive.

Hetian's first company has a large turnover of personnel, but the company's performance is booming.

Because every group of employees, although most of the capable ones are lost.

But there are always various reasons that will leave a part.

For example, the climate, such as liking comfort, or the hometown is here.

These are the benefits of the city that the company can enjoy without paying extra.

The company also knows that it doesn't need so many capable employees to do business.

Only a handful of elites are needed to build the structure well, even if the front-line employees are replaced like marquees.

There won't be any major problems.

As long as you grasp a few battle points, the company can also become bigger and bigger.

The ability is much stronger, the company is also uncomfortable, and the desires of these people are too difficult to satisfy.

It's all converted into wages, and the cost is too high.

Since the cost is too high, we simply take the cost route and screen out those who are not sensitive to money, but sensitive to emotional value.

Your emotional value needs are deductible for other people's costs.

Are there any other uses for emotional value?

Yes. For example, there is one of the tips for buying a house.

When talking about **, you can't just find fault with the house, it's easy to talk about collapse.

You have to say something good about the house and let the landlord know that you really want to buy it.

But this is a good thing to do.

You can't say that everyone can see that the landlord is naturally unwilling to lower the price for you.

You have to talk about that, this house, only you will have a unique premium.

It's the house that has a unique emotional value to you.

For example, you have a good friend who also lives in this neighborhood, and you want to live closer to him, so you would love to buy this house.

Or maybe you once had an unforgettable relationship with the neighborhood, and you wanted to buy his house.

Let the other party feel that the good of his house only has a premium for you alone.

If you change someone, you won't pay for it.

If you want to make more money, then don't ask for too much emotional value.

If you want to have a good time, then don't think about how much money you can make.

Welcome to pay attention to Hetian, link together, and move towards freedom together.

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