Introduction:
A parent's love for their children is certainly a good feeling, but if they are too spoiled, it will affect their children. As the saying goes, "There is no greater love for children than this." "Parents value their children's development very much, they are afraid that their children will lose something, and they don't want their children to be bullied or frustrated. However, there is always a gap between reality and imagination, and every child will encounter various difficulties and setbacks in the process of growing up. If parents are overly worried and interfered, it will not only cause their children to develop bad Xi, but also make teachers disgusted. Recently, the term "my family Zihan" has become popular on the Internet, and netizens have said that it is "too ridiculous", and teachers also feel embarrassed. Through the narration of the "My Family Zihan" incident, this paper makes an in-depth analysis of the consequences of parents' doting and the dilemma of teachers, and puts forward corresponding countermeasures.
The harm of parental doting.
Excessive pampering is detrimental to the healthy development of children. Parents often spoil their children and take too much care of them, rather than allowing them to face various challenges and difficulties. However, such spoiling can easily cause the following problems:
1) The cultivation of the mind of giant infants.
Parents spoil their children too much, so that they can respond to everything without much effort, and in this way, they will form a "giant baby" mentality. "Giant babies" are a kind of **, they can't handle daily difficulties and frustrations well, they use coquettishness, cheating, and even tantrums to deal with problems. Such a state of mind can have a negative impact on a child's relationships and career development.
2) Impairment of the child's ability to be independent.
Over-indulgence can lead to dependence and lack confidence in what they do and what they make and what they make. They have developed the Xi of relying on parents to guide and make decisions, rather than thinking and solving problems on their own. When encountering difficulties and setbacks, they cannot handle them well, and they are likely to be anxious and slack.
3) It has a negative impact on children's social interactions.
Children's social skills are crucial to their personality development, but over-indulgence can lead to lapses in interpersonal relationships. They tend to be self-centered and do not care about and understand the needs of others. Such practices hinder normal friendship and collaboration between children and others.
About "My Family Zihan".
My family Zihan" has become a hot topic and has aroused heated discussions among many people. The incident originated when Zihan's mother asked a teacher in a WeChat group why Zihan was bitten by mosquitoes instead of other children. Netizens said it was "ridiculous" and created a lot of hilarious jokes and phrases. For example: "Mentor, why is our family still single?".”
However, we have to look at this meme in a different way. Every parent wants their children to grow up safely and well-being, so they pay special attention to the little things in their children's lives. Parents' concerns often stem from their love for their children. The question now is how we should give proper attention and intervention.
The dilemma faced by primary and secondary school teachers and their countermeasures.
Faced with the dilemma of parents' doting, teachers also have to have a way to deal with it:
a) Maintain a good level of communication and collaboration.
Teachers should have good communication and cooperation with parents. Communicate with parents regularly to enhance their understanding of teaching work. In this process, teachers should take the initiative to listen to parents' views and concerns, respect their authority, and discuss with parents how to better promote their children's development.
2) Cultivate children's thinking ability and cultivate their thinking ability.
Teachers should cultivate children's thinking and problem-solving skills. In teaching, attention should be paid to the development of children's autonomy and innovation ability, so that children can analyze and deal with problems independently and independently Xi. In addition, teachers can also use group cooperation and role play to train children's cooperation and communication skills.
3) Actively guide parents to establish a good concept of parenting.
Communicate with parents through parent-teacher meetings, parent-child activities and other means, and actively guide parents' educational ideas and experiences. Teachers can share their experiences with parents in children's self-learning and development, so that parents can realize the shortcomings of doting, and propose the right ways and methods for parents to raise children, so that parents can better educate.
4) Be in a stable mood and establish a good image.
Teachers should be calm and actively respond to doubts and doubts from parents. As a teacher, you should truly love teaching and treat your students with kindness and positivity. Although the salary of teachers is not high, it is a great pleasure to be with children. At the same time, you should also establish your own personality charm, make yourself a member of the minds of your classmates and parents, and avoid becoming a "free babysitter".
Conclusion: It is good that parents pay enough attention to the development of their children, but excessive concern can cause dissatisfaction among others. Parents also need to reflect on their actions, to get to the root cause of the problem, and to learn better ways to teach their children. Therefore, when teachers are faced with doubts and doubts from parents, they must adopt appropriate measures to defuse the conflict. In the process of teaching, it is necessary to pay attention to cultivating children's independent thinking and problem solving, and provide parents with scientific parenting concepts. In order to ensure the healthy development of young children, it is necessary to start from both teachers and parents.