Author |Mr. Nai (ID: renshengxiuxing).
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I often say to the people around me that you must not gamble your life on the character of others.
And don't put your future on someone you can't see through.
Rabindranath Tagore once said: Hypocritical sincerity is more terrible than the devil.
No matter who you associate with, a truly long-lasting relationship must be mutual sincerity.
As the saying goes, knowing people and knowing faces but not knowing hearts, in interpersonal communication, we have to distinguish those who are not pure in mind.
People with impure minds always like to ask these three questions when dating, and they must be careful when they meet.
Cross-examination of family background
Although it is said that this world is strong, everyone likes to make friends with people who are stronger than themselves.
But there are always some people who have bad intentions in their hearts, and they nod their heads and bow to those who are stronger than themselves, and make all kinds of gestures of goodwill.
For those who are weaker than themselves, they will bully the weak and ignore them.
They will always ask you what you do in your house and who you are.
Through some of the information you say, find out if you can bring him benefits.
Finally, according to your family situation, consider your attitude towards you and the way.
The best thing to do when meeting such a person is not to tell everyone unreservedly.
No matter who you are for, you have to have reservations, say three points, and seven points for those who can have deep friendships.
If, in future interactions, you think that this person is indeed of good character, it is okay to tell him about your own situation.
Ask about your income
I have to say that in today's society, we often meet such people.
They will always ask you how much you earn and how you got it, and of course someone will not mind saying it.
But how much you earn will affect how others perceive you and how you get along with you.
Either they will hold you and say something nice, or they will belittle you to say cool things.
Or give you some life advice or something, which seems to be for your sake, but in fact it is thinking about how to dig up the places that can be used in you.
Knowing what other people are saying can tell you if they are encouraging you to behave irrationally, or if they really care about you.
Selfishness is hidden in human nature, so we need to make rational judgments and discern the meaning of others.
As the saying goes, more is better than less, try not to disclose your income level, so as not to cause unnecessary trouble.
Ask your object
This is also a very common problem, but many people don't take it seriously.
You must know that when it comes to falling in love, women are always on the weaker side.
When someone asks you about your relationship status, if you say everything, it will also allow others to affect your emotions.
It's obviously a relationship problem between the two of you, but he, as a bystander, says that your relationship is not good, or that there is something wrong, and he is alarmist.
If your partner is very good, it will also make him feel jealous or a sense of crisis, and make him feel that his life is not as good as yours.
As the saying goes, if you are not afraid of thieves stealing, you are afraid of thieves.
It's not that this person may hurt your feelings, it's just that in the future, when you are inadvertent, he may affect you with his negative views on feelings.
So about things like feelings, try not to say anything about it, after all, the future is your own business, and it has nothing to do with others.
Whether a person is sincere or hypocritical is felt through association.
Faced with these three questions, you need to answer them carefully.
At every stage of life, the people you meet and are close to are different.
We should protect our privacy and live a stable life so as not to fall into the trap.
Only by valuing the importance of privacy can you earn the respect of others.
As we get older, we need to learn more about the complexities of human nature.
People must have enough wisdom to be able to prevent problems before they happen and live a more comfortable life.
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About the author: Mr. Nai, a post-95 freelance writer, seeks to correct the three views than the facial features. Here you will feel that life is just a practice, and you must always maintain mindfulness, righteousness, and infect the people around you with positive energy. Here you will find the charm of words, and a heart full of sincerity. Here, you'll have a friend to talk to.