c.Problems arise with**.
In recent years, we have often heard the phrase:"If you are not filial, you will have no children and grandchildren"。This shows how important family ties are. However, with the development of the times and society, the issue of filial piety has become increasingly prominent. For example, after leaving school, some college graduates use various excuses to make a living on their own and do not want to participate in social activities. In particular, those students who apply for the civil service or graduate school entrance examination are too dependent on their parents at home and cannot actively integrate with the community, which makes their parents feel infinitely distressed and helpless.
We all know that the competition for national civil servants is very fierce, and candidates spend a lot of time and effort to revise. However, some students have not achieved good grades after a long time of preparing for public office at home. They stay at home for two or three years, or more, but with little success. This situation has aroused suspicion and criticism, which they accuse it of being both a waste of the country's resources and an obstacle to the individual's own development. Parents are also gradually realizing that it may not be a good way for their children to apply for the national civil service, and they increasingly expect their children to go out more, have more contact, have more contact, and become more self-reliant.
Recently, there was a news of a mother and son quarreling on the Internet. It is reported that the mother has been waiting at home for her child to take the civil service exam, and finally chose to break with him. The incident has received widespread attention and support from netizens. Everyone thinks that this mother is doing the right thing and can't let college students waste time doing nothing at home. They hope that parents can lead their children to the outside world to meet all kinds of trials in this world, so that they can not only give full play to their abilities, but also give back to society.
Parent-child relationship breakdown.
We were impressed by the rupture between mother and son. As can be seen from the report, the mother had a long talk with his child, expecting him to realize the importance of family affection and let him face life bravely. However, his child did not follow his mother's advice, but insisted on staying at home to prepare for the national government*** When she saw that her child did not listen to her mother's advice at all, she could not bear it anymore, and she was determined to break with him.
In the whole process, a very important phenomenon is that in order to make the child realize his mistakes, the mother uses this way to punish the child. However, if the relationship between mother and child breaks down, not only will it not solve the problem fundamentally, but it will also lead to more conflicts. The relationship between mother and son is deep and cannot be measured or dealt with by a rupture. When there are some conflicts between husband and wife, husband and wife should communicate more, understand each other more, and do not use radical means.
The root of the problem.
What's going on?Why do some college students prefer to prepare for exams at home rather than step out of their own families and integrate with society as a whole?There are several reasons for this phenomenon.
First of all, college graduates have a feeling of being overwhelmed due to the huge social competition they face. Today's society is a world full of competition, and employment is so cruel. At present, many college graduates are facing problems such as difficulty in finding a job and finding a job. In this context, some college graduates have begun to apply for the civil service examination, hoping to find a job for themselves in a relatively safe job, and enjoy a variety of rights and interests in the process.
Secondly, parents' attitudes towards their children's education will also be affected by the expectations of the family and parents. Some people want their children to stay at home, be admitted to the civil service, go to graduate school, and live a comfortable life. Parents also want to provide their children with a better future and development opportunities. However, at the same time, it also causes some students to lose themselves in a warm family atmosphere and lack the ability to learn independently and participate in social practice.
Fourth, the personal choice and mentality of college graduates are also an important factor that leads to the difficulty of college graduates in finding employment. Some college students don't have a clear plan for their careers, don't have a clear goal in life, and don't have enough confidence. They can't be sure of their career direction or have a clear life plan for themselves. In such a situation, they have to take the exam according to the established plan, hoping to cope with their own development problems.
Responses and recommendations.
How can we deal with this?How can we lift them out of poverty, gain their own value, and promote their social development? Here are a few proposals::
First of all, parents should give them more freedom and freedom. While parents want their children to have a stable job, they also need to understand their children's growth needs and their own thoughts. Parents should encourage their children to get out of their own houses, out of their own lives, realize their dreams, and stop relying on their families.
Second, it is necessary to take the initiative to participate in social practice activities and expand one's own qualityDuring the school study stage, students should actively explore their hobbies and ambitions, and actively participate in various social practices and internships. In such a social environment, they can better understand themselves, recognize their own value and potential, and lay a good foundation for their future career development.
Third, it is necessary to establish a correct professional concept and value orientation. Taking the test is just an option, it doesn't make or break it. College graduates should start from their own hobbies and abilities and make reasonable employment plans. If you want to grow in the long term and achieve greater success, you must have a suitable choice.
At the same time, it is also necessary to strengthen support for college graduates. Schools and schools should pay attention to the guidance and training of career design and psychological counseling, so that they can understand the needs of themselves and society, and find a suitable direction for their work. At the same time, it is also necessary to provide more development opportunities and development space for college students.
All in all, we should not only know the criticism and condemnation of the problem of "gnawing the old", but also analyze its causes from different perspectives and put forward corresponding countermeasures. It is necessary to enable college graduates to give full play to their own value and promote them to play a positive role in the development of the whole society.