Introduction.
In recent years, a kind of "filial piety" represented by "filial piety" has received widespread attention from the whole society. The main characteristics are: some college graduates rely on their parents in their families and find all kinds of excuses, especially for applying for civil service examinations and postgraduate entrance examinations, and do not take the initiative to participate in community work. This kind of practice makes parents feel very distressed and helpless. However, a mother yelled at her child, claiming that if he continued to participate in the public school and did not improve in the future, she would dissolve the father-son relationship with him. This move has been approved and approved by many parents and netizens. Behind this social phenomenon, why do some people "do not work at home" and "rely on their parents", and how can parents help them get rid of "dependence"?
The wind of unfilial piety. This emerging "unfilial piety" refers to the dependence on parents at home, and the lack of active integration with social work, often causes a lot of trouble. One to two years is acceptable, but if it continues for too long, it will have adverse consequences for the child's healthy development and self-reliance. For example, some children play games at home, surf the Internet, and give up their usual studies and exams, which are all a kind of evasion from reality. In addition, they will also have some signals, such as low mood, lack of motivation, lack of plans for the future, all because they are avoiding their career and life. In addition, due to a certain sense of self-discipline during school, as well as poor learning and lifestyle problems, they are under great pressure in the exam. Eventually, relying too much on their parents and not being able to take up their own obligations for their future will lead to the loss of their independence in adulthood.
Therefore, it is necessary to pay attention to the psychological condition of students when participating in the national public service, so as to facilitate the understanding and guidance of parents for students. Through paying attention to students' learning attitudes, time management skills, living habits, etc., we have in-depth communication with students, understand students' inner emotions, and give students the support and guidance they need to get rid of "avoidance" behaviors.
Mom's strength.
Recently, a mother openly said to her child on the Internet, if you don't do well in the exam, you will break up your friendship. As a mother, she knows that having nothing to do at home and relying on her parents will have a great impact on their future growth and self-reliance. Throughout the morning, she talked to his child, encouraging him to get out and about and see the world and not be trapped in a small county town. The mother's behavior was understood and approved by many people, who said that her determination was out of consideration for the future of her children, rather than just leaving the future of her children to herself.
As far as he knows, this college student in his 30s, who studied computer science in college, is not difficult to find a suitable job. However, he still has no specific plans and no purpose, which is to rely on his parents at home. During the conversation, the mom mentioned one of her 25-year-old daughters, who was jealous. However, her child, who went to college, couldn't find any reason for herself, which made her mother very helpless. In the end, she said that if he continued like this, she would go out to work, and she would be no different from a useless person.
Understanding and support.
Unexpectedly, my mother's persistence was understood and approved by many people. Parents believe that instead of making them overly dependent on their children, it is better to take the initiative. After all, by the time he reaches his 30s, he will be able to afford all the expenses of the family without having to rely on their parents anymore. Parents feel that the mother's approach is very reasonable, and it is necessary to let the child come from the comfort zone of being sheltered by the family** to meet the real life and bear his own future.
At the same time, the employment difficulties of college graduates are becoming increasingly prominent, and the career planning and psychological counseling of college graduates need to be strengthened urgently. Although many college students are now preparing to take the public exam, some people still avoid other responsibilities and challenges in the name of coping with exams. Therefore, parents should be more sensitive to these signals so that they can better understand their children's environment and formulate countermeasures accordingly. By paying attention to their children's attitudes and time control, parents can help them set a clear purpose and plan and supervise their implementation. On the other hand, parents should help their children realize the importance of choosing a career and be able to meet the challenges of the future with a better attitude in their future lives.
Conclusion. In recent years, the "three filial pieties" have become popular among college freshmen, which has attracted the attention of the whole society. College students are "not doing their jobs" at home, and their dependence on their parents makes their families feel very distressed and helpless. This problem has a negative impact on children's development and independence. Therefore, parents should take the initiative to guide their children out of "dependency" and help them solve practical problems. Only through effective communication and support with their classmates can they understand the importance of participating in public service, and then make positive arrangements for their careers.
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