The issue of "three filial pieties" has aroused social concerns.
At present, a new phenomenon of "unfilial piety" has emerged among young people in China, especially college students. It is embodied in: some college graduates have relied on their parents for a long time, are too comfortable at home, and refuse to participate in work on the grounds of participating in the public entrance examination. This practice is a headache for parents, but there is nothing they can do. Some parents are not aware of the negative impact this can have on their children's healthy development and independence. In their view, this is a kind of arrangement for their children's future, and parents should support and understand.
However, the undesirable consequences caused by the phenomenon of "gnawing at the elderly" and the serious waste of the state's public education resources have attracted the attention of many people. The longer this continues, the more it hinders personal growth. This phenomenon has aroused the suspicion and criticism of many people, who point out that it is not only a waste of social resources, but also hinders the healthy development of individuals. The need for career planning and psychological counseling is also becoming more and more prominent.
The social repercussions caused by the mother-child dispute.
A mother's "nervous breakdown**" has been going viral lately. She openly spoke up for her biological son, and said that if she continued to apply for public office without a plan, she would decide to break off the mother-son relationship with herself. The mom recounted in detail what her child had been through since she went to college. It is reported that his child graduated from school three years ago and claimed to be at home preparing to participate in the public *** but was not admitted. In the end, the mother spent the morning chatting with her children all afternoon, persuading her children to go out and wander, no matter how comfortable life in the countryside is, it is impossible to live well all the time.
This mother's realization is very touching, because she does not leave her future completely to herself like traditional parents. Unfortunately, however, his children could not meet her requirements. I heard that my child is studying a computer, and it is not difficult to find a job, and I can study while preparing for public service, at least I will not be out of touch with the current society. But now that he is nearly 30 years old, he still doesn't have a clear plan, this is to use his own parents as ATMsWhat's more, his parents are both elderly, so how can he have so much time to accompany a group of college students. The mother said she was envious of her neighbor's 25-year-old child who had given birth to two children. And her son, a college student, is constantly exculpating himself and excusing himself. In the end, my mother couldn't take it anymore and said to her, "If you don't leave, we're going to move." "So, how are you different from trash?
Many people agree with this mother, thinking that she is doing the right thing, and she can't let a college student stay at home so comfortably and waste a lot of good time.
The evasive nature of college graduates taking public service examinations.
As a student, as a student preparing to participate in the public service, parents must be keen to observe and pay attention to several signs so that they can better understand their children.
First of all, in school, if students are addicted to games and social networks, and ignore their usual academics and exams, it is a kind of avoidance. Parents should pay attention to the student's learning mentality, master their own time, and let them devote themselves to the exam.
Secondly, when they show that they are depressed, unmotivated, and unplanned, it shows that they are avoiding real work and life challenges. At this time, what parents need to do is to communicate with their children, understand their inner emotions, and provide necessary help and guidance to their children.
In addition, the lack of self-discipline in the family and the inability to develop a good study and lifestyle are all worrying phenomena. This may indicate that they are not under the pressure of exams. Parents should supervise their children's implementation when they have a clear purpose and plan, so that they can develop a good learning attitude.
The third is excessive reliance on parents and lack of autonomy for future development, which is to avoid the independent obligation of **. Parents should guide their children to realize the importance of choosing a career and guide them to take the initiative to embrace new social opportunities.
Through paying attention to them, parents can better understand their true state of mind when preparing for the father-in-law, so that they will not miss their own growth and development because of avoidance. Nurturing children's inner potential through communication can help them develop an optimistic attitude towards life.
In short, the new "filial piety" of "unfilial piety" has become an issue of general concern to the whole society. Long-term dependence on parents and lack of active participation in social work make parents feel helpless and distressed. Parents should be aware of the signs that their children want to flee and provide the help and guidance they need. By building effective communication channels, we can mobilize children's inner potential and guide children to develop in a better direction, which is conducive to the healthy development of children.