Tao Yong, the winner of the "Chinese Physician Award" who was violently injured by a patient with a knife, made some demands on his daughter on her birthday. At first, her daughter did everything she asked for dishes, but she strongly refused to "wash the dishes", which caused huge controversy, and related topics quickly rushed to the hot search. (November 25, The Paper).
In contemporary times, the most "headache" for young people is to eat with their elders, so that "they dare not eat at the table without some talents" has become a kind of ridicule for eating with their elders. Dr. Tao Yong's request for his daughter to "wash the dishes" on his daughter's birthday also made netizens talk about it
Some netizens believe that the birthday should be based on the happiness of the daughter: "Can't you usually let your child wash the dishes?."Is it necessary to fiddle with the sense of ritual on the day of the birthday?"Birthday is the most important birthday, and Dr. Tao Yong's approach is indeed inappropriate. ”
Another part of netizens believes that it is normal to do housework at home, and there is no need to go online: "Today's children are always pampered, and there is no problem in learning housework." "Doing housework is about developing children's ability to live independently. ”
Reflecting on why such a common social phenomenon has erupted in Dr. Tao Yong, the reason is the blessing of Dr. Tao Yong's identity "halo". Dr. Tao Yong's own brightness and kindness have stereotyped the public, putting him in the "spotlight" and making people always strive for flawlessness.
The spotlight "reflects people's hearts." In the spotlight, everyone sees their inner self in the other. A mistake, an encouragement, or a reward from a celebrity in the spotlight makes us empathize with us and see ourselves at one moment or another. Just like Dr. Tao Yong, many young people saw in his daughter that they were "embarrassed" at the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner table because they were asked to perform their talents. We see in well-known people the reluctance of our own hearts, which becomes the cause of controversy.
The spotlight "gathers people's anxieties. In the spotlight, everyone feels the stress of life among the well-known, creating anxiety. But anyone with a "well-known" title is quite prestigious in a certain field, and there is a sense of pressure of "other people's children", and the Internet has opened up the distance between them. Therefore, we will always have more or less anxiety about life, and try to restrain the lives of celebrities, and amplify some controversial events.
The spotlight "illuminates people's minds." In the spotlight, our words and deeds begin to be deliberate, driving our own thinking to improve. On the one hand, the digital age has promoted the communication between the public and breaking time and spaceOn the other hand, the transparency of the Internet also makes the public think about what they have to say. Such an environment promotes the public to constantly improve their thinking in communication, which contributes to the formation of the public sphere.
Chase the light and meet, bathe in the light. Everyone is in their own spotlight, which makes them more demanding of others and themselves. Often the slightest mistake will bring about self-defeat, but in fact, it is just the water of the fight. We should chase the spotlight in order to make a qualitative leap forward, rather than blindly arguing about the people in the spotlight. It's time to break the "spotlight" in your heart and chase the direction of your own light.
*: Red Net.