Did you know?The antonym of love is not hate, because hate also has emotional overtones, because where there is love, there will be hate, and when the hate disappears, there will be love.
In fact, the opposite of love is not love, it is choosing to let go from the heart, and truly accepting the relationship that ends with the other person from the heart, and never expecting anything.
First of all, the real letting go is a complete turn.
The philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche said: All external forces for change come from internal determination.
A woman's heart is really dead, and she decides not to love. In fact, she has never shown much energy, and she will not announce that I want to hack you with great fanfare. Instead, she wakes up on a dull morning, eats breakfast comfortably, focuses on her work, and no longer thinks about anything about men.
It's like the moment when Lees decides to let go.
When they broke up, Li Si was really miserable. She can't accept that the man who once existed in her life has suddenly become a stranger. But when the recovery didn't work, she had to come to terms with the reality.
Therefore, she no longer waits for news from her boyfriend, and no longer thinks about what irreparable mistakes happened between the two of them, which led to the end of this relationship.
She let go of all expectations, moved out of the cottage she once loved, and decided to give herself a fresh start.
True letting go has nothing to do with what kind of action to take, but the ability to turn over the present life completely. It's an inner force, and scaring people is not a bluff.
Second, embrace a new life and let go of the past.
It is said that the best way to forget a person is with time and new love.
Rather than forgetting the old love with a new love, I'd rather let time come out of all the pain and really start a new life and let go of the past completely.
is like Lin Jia in "Top Three", who has fallen in love with Meng Yun for many years, or destroyed in the endless hustle and bustle day after day. Lin Jia always thought that the two of them could go back, so he was reluctant to start a new life.
Until, seeing a woman who likes Meng Yun appear, she was not calm, knowing that she couldn't go back, she gave up completely.
She decided to let it go. According to the original agreement with Meng Yun, she bought a bunch of mangoes that made her allergic and used her allergy as a memento of her feelings. After she was ready, she stopped reading and falling in love. Peaceful, always like their own man to get married and live a plain life.
If a person is always dwelling on the past, he will never go far.
If you really don't love and want to let go, you should add something new to your life. The focus of your life has shifted, and the past is the past.
Third, adapt to a new life and find a new rhythm of life.
In fact, sometimes I can't let go of that person, but I can't let go of the habitual lifestyle, which is why the two people are entangled to the point of irretrievability, and once they break up, they will still be sad.
Because breaking up means stepping out of your comfort zone and breaking all your habits again.
But if you really want to get out of a love that no longer belongs to you, you have to force yourself to step out of your emotional comfort zone and adjust to a new life.
Schopenhauer once said that life is in rhythm, and rhythm is in life.
Don't be too discouraged when you feel like it's painful to leave someone, because all endings mean starting over. What we need to do is to get out of the mess of life, sort ourselves out, adjust ourselves, and quickly resume the rhythm of study, work, exercise, and social life.