There is such a question, can men and women continue to be friends after a breakup?
Some people say no, because if two people have loved each other deeply, how can they look at the person they once loved from the perspective of a friend and be with someone else?
Some people say that it is entirely possible, because two people who have loved each other do not want to lose contact completely, so they can return to the position of friends and be accompanied by another identity.
In fact, there is no fixed answer to this question, and all of our views that favor one side are just one extreme after choosing.
Whether a man or woman can become friends after a breakup depends on the depth of the relationship and their rationality.
First, love too deeply and it's hard to be friends.
The philosopher Hegel said:
It takes time for feelings to settle to reason before they can be sublimated again.
If two people love too much, it will be difficult to become friends after a breakup.
Just like Meng Yun and Lin Jia in "Top Three", they have been in love for many years, and finally chose to break up because of poor running-in. But I didn't come out of the closet for a long time after the breakup, I didn't dare to contact, I didn't dare to meet.
I didn't even dare to say goodbye to my face, but checked if the relationship was really gone by looking at the other person's signs.
When they decide to really let go of each other, the choice is not to be friends, but to never see each other again, from the cape horizon.
If you love someone deeply, it's hard to accept the fact that they become friends.
Because the relationship is deep and long-lasting, it is easy to have the sequelae of instability. Just seeing each other is enough to get excited. Looking back on the beauty of the past experience, how can you be willing to get along from the perspective of a friend?
Second, the resentment is too deep, and it is better not to be friends.
Not all breakups end well. Sometimes two people are obviously in love with each other, but when the relationship ends, they can't accept it, so that their heads are broken, and all good things cease to exist. What remains in the memory of the other party is unwillingness and resentment.
If two people break up and get into too much trouble, it's best not to be friends so as not to continue internal friction.
Just like when the female star Alyssa Chia (Alyssa Chia) and her ex-husband Sun Zhihao (Sun Zhihao) broke up, there was a lot of noise. In order to compete for her youngest daughter Wu, Alyssa Chia did not hesitate to chase after her pure image and cried bitterly in front of **.
No matter how sincere you are when you fall in love, when you break up, you really pick up a knife and poke each other's hearts. When you love each other, you are sincere. Once you don't love anymore, you're going to be especially ruthless.
When the two of them set the tone that they were destined to be enemies, they insulted each other together, not wanting to see each other feel better. Instead of trying to be friends, say goodbye to each other, be A, B, C, D in the crowd, and don't keep in touch.
Third, don't insist and leave the relationship to time.
After a breakup, what kind of trend the relationship will be is not forced, and the natural pattern of getting along with time should be let little by little.
Don't insist, in fact, for people who have loved each other, this is the best opportunity.
Just like after Chen Junsheng and Luo Zijun divorced in the first half of my life, for the sake of their children, husband and wife will get along very well. However, Luo Zijun held a grudge in his heart and couldn't accept and abandon Chen Junsheng, who married her, as a friend.
It wasn't until Luo Zijun accepted the reality that their relationship was completely broken down and was willing to start a new life, so that he wouldn't complain so much when facing Chen Junsheng, that he slowly became friends with Chen Junsheng in the process of getting along.
After a breakup, it is difficult for many people to accept the disillusionment of their relationship, thinking that they can change their identity from the perspective of friends and get along well, but sometimes such a relationship change is really difficult to accept.