When Zhou Bingkun learned from his son Zhou Cong that Cao Debao was among the people who maliciously denounced Zhou Bingyi, he angrily shouted at his son: "This is nonsense!".”
At that time, he was already over fifty years old. He couldn't believe that his old friends for decades would break their promises, which was undoubtedly a heavy blow to a person like Zhou Bingkun, who was extremely loyal and affectionate.
He verbally warned his son not to believe the gossip. However, he knew that his son would not deceive him, and that angry roar was only the last dignity he left for Chunyan and Debao.
He knew that Debao would act so ruthlessly, and the relationship between Chunyan and Debao was inseparable. Judging from Chunyan and Debao's long-term voice in the family, the leader of the matter is likely to be Chunyan, who has called himself "godbrother" for decades.
I've been thinking about what caused Chunyan, who was once frank and sincere, to become so willful, selfish, and arrogant
Perhaps in addition to the personal changes brought about by the ups and downs experienced by Chunyan's mother, her "example and words" also played a considerable impact.
He was a thoughtful man.
In the original work, Chunyan's mother is a thoughtful character.
We can clearly feel this from the scene where she first "designed" Chunyan and Bingkun Shengmi to cook rice together with Bingkun's mother.
When Chunyan learned that she had a crush on Zhou Bingkun, her mother first tried to win Zhou Bingkun's support. But when Chunyan told Zhou Bingkun that she didn't like her, she took the initiative to reach an agreement with Zhou Bingkun's mother that "Chunyan dedicated".
You have to understand that in that historical period, for a young woman, losing her life before marriage was undoubtedly an extremely disadvantageous thing. Because, if she is not careful, she will lose the most important person in her life - her own parents. As a mother, although she knows this, she is still willing to risk potentially damaging her daughter's reputation, regardless of whether Zhou Bingkun is willing or not, and is willing to plan Zhou Bingkun's plan.
Of course, she knows very well that as long as something really happens, the old Zhou family, who values family traditions and fashions, will not refuse to admit it.
As for why Chunyan's mother admires Chunyan and Zhou Bingkun so much and does not hesitate to use any means, the reasons behind it can be mainly attributed to the following points:
First of all, Chunyan clearly expressed her love for Zhou Bingkun, and Zhou Bingkun is an honest and strong Chunyan who will never suffer.
Secondly, during that period, Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Rong did not rise to prominence as they did later, but the Zhou family had an obvious advantage, that is, their old house was the largest of the all-light character films. Because the people in the light word film are all men, they can find their own place on the light word film. Chunyan was born into a predominantly bare character family and worked in a bath, which meant that her chances of wanting to marry someone higher were relatively small. Therefore, considering the situation of the entire light word piece, the Zhou family is undoubtedly the most suitable choice.
Looking back on the past, Zhou Zhigang was the only third-line worker in the light word film. Whether it's his current salary or his future retirement income, he's the best in the light of the word. Coupled with the fact that Zhou Bingyi and Zhou Rong have performed well since childhood, most of the Zhou family's future resources will tend to support Zhou Bingkun.
This also explains why, despite Chunyan's difficulties in her work, her mother kept saying that it was great to marry the old Zhou family, and why she was still with Debao, who "eats soft rice".
However, fate did not go as one hoped.
When Chunyan's mother learned that it was not her favorite old Zhou family Zhou Bingkun who spent the night with her daughter, but the little-known Debao, she immediately clashed with Zhou's mother, who had always been close to her, and angrily expressed her dissatisfaction to Zhou's mother:
This happened in your Zhou family, and the mother-son relationship between your Zhou family is close!If the matter escalates to the court, your mother and son will also become defendants. ”
At that moment, she suddenly realized the urgency of the situation and quickly blamed all the blame on the Zhou family, disguising herself as a victim.
There are people who, when it comes to their own interests, can become indifferent to even the best of relationships.
However, at that time, Chunyan was a very frank girl, and she firmly believed that the person she really liked was Debao. Thanks to the joint efforts of Zhou Bingkun, Zhou's mother and others, Debao not only married Chunyan, but also became the inverted son-in-law of the Qiao family. Chunyan's mother, after careful consideration, thought that it would be a good thing to have half a son, so she decided not to worry about Zhou's mother anymore.
This matter is just the tip of the iceberg of Chunyan's mother's foresight.
In the plot of the play, when Chunyan finds that it is difficult to get in touch with Zhou Bingyi, the owner of the bathing center, Chunyan's mother immediately comes up with an ingenious strategy - using the fox to fake the tiger's power.
She suggested that Chunyan use the connection with Zhou Bingkun and use Zhou Bingyi's influence to achieve her own interests.
Therefore, in order to raise the company's rent, Chunyan decided to take her mother's advice and invite Zhou Bingkun and the owner of the bathing center to her new home, and deliberately showed her closeness to Zhou Bingkun as a way to show their unusual friendship.
Although Zheng Juan and Zhou Bingkun, two honest and trustworthy people, were used, they were always in a state of hoodwink.
This incident allowed Chunyan to experience the joy of success, and she realized that friends are not only used for spiritual communication, but also a tool that can be used, which lays the groundwork for Chunyan's gradual darkness in the future.
Inability to see the good in others.
Chunyan's mother is the kind of person who can't accept the kindness of others, no matter how close the other party has been to her in the past, but when they are stronger than her own family, she will not think about the reasons behind them, nor will she send blessings to them, she will only feel the imbalance in her heart, and even curse them for suffering misfortune earlier.
After Zhou Bingyi, the eldest son of the Zhou family, married Hao Dongmei, the daughter of the vice governor, Zhou Rong was promoted to associate professor at the university, while Zhou Bingkun left the soy sauce factory and became the editor of the newspaper.
Regarding the discussion of the Zhou family, almost everyone has a negative opinion.
In addition to what reason, it is to criticize Zhou Rong's private life, curse Bingkun's literary and artistic career failure, and scold Zheng Juan for being a "little widow" with an unknown background...
Among them, you can also see the figure of Chunyan's mother.
In the original work, Chunyan's mother once told Chunyan with jealousy and sourness:
Yan, don't go to your godmother's house in the future, it's different now, people are different from our family. ”
On the occasion of the Chinese New Year, Zhou Zhigang led his family out to pay New Year's greetings, and Chunyan's mother was full of jealousy. "People say your son is capable, but you still say that?I think he's going to be compared to you in the future!In order to fight for some dignity, she boasted with Chunyan, who has become the deputy director of the District Women's Federation. But after receiving the blessing of the Zhou family, she was not satisfied, and began to question the origins of Zheng Juan and Nan Nan, making it clear that Zhou Nan was not a descendant of the Zhou family, which made Zhou Zhigang feel very angry.
It must be understood that the Zhou family has always claimed that Zhou Nan is the biological son of Zheng Juan and Zhou Bingkun, and even Zhou Nan and Zhou's mother, who is completely unaware, do not know. Chunyan's mother casually slandered Zhou Nan behind her back without knowing it, which was a harm to the Zhou family, Zheng Juan and Zhou's mother. The reason behind all these things is simply because she is jealous that the second generation of the Zhou family is more promising than her children.
Of course, there is also a trace of regret hidden in this, because it was not Chunyan who married Zhou Bingkun at the beginning, otherwise all the relationships of the Zhou family would be used by themselves.
As for Chunyan, although she doesn't always feel unbalanced like her mother, she knows that a closer connection with Zhou Bingkun will bring unexpected benefits to her. "I am a farmer and I think I have to find a suitable job for myself to make this happen!Therefore, when Chunyan learned that Zhou Bingyi was married to the daughter of the vice governor, her first thought was to eagerly search for her relatives:
Brother God, do you know what kind of person Bingkun is for me?That Zhou Bingyi, do you know that he is my godbrother?Therefore, Bingkun's sister-in-law is my godsister-in-law. ”
When Zhou Bingkun tried to explain that something didn't match her original idea, she retorted: "Whoever doesn't want us to be a member of this family business has ulterior motives." ”
Greed is not enough for a snake to swallow an elephant.
People's hearts will never be satisfied, this is the character of Chunyan's mother.
Zhou Bingyi did not immediately support her in the process of large-scale transformation of light word films, but has been thinking about how to get more economic benefits. In the process, she and her friends went through many twists and turns. After the completion of the new building, everyone witnessed the dawn of beauty and hope, but her heart became anxious again, and she used friendship to kidnap Zhou Bingkun and Zhou Bingyi many times.
Considering the size of Chunyan's house on the light word piece, they can usually only get a slightly larger house, but this does not satisfy Chunyan's mother's greed.
She first insisted on living on the ground floor, and then expressed a desire for her courtyard to be more spacious. Because he said that he lives closest to the community. Zhou Bingyi followed these two instructions and handed over the largest courtyard in the new district to Chunyan's mother.
However, Chunyan's mother did not act when she saw a good situation.
She found Zhou Bingkun again and put forward a new request in a combination of soft and hard ways:
Chunyan and her second sister live with us as an old couple, and if they don't provide a house for their second sister, it's not allowed!Bingkun, you have to tell your brother that if this condition of my family is not met, we may choose not to move and see how he treats us. After all, our two families have had a deep friendship for forty or fifty years!”
Chunyan's mother was convinced that Zhou Bingkun was a person who valued love and righteousness, and she also knew that Zhou Bingyi must successfully transform the light character film, so she had no scruples and acted beyond the boundary.
Chunyan's mother at this moment has a striking resemblance to the kind of person described by Cai Xiaoguang in the original book:
When it comes to personal interests, the great benefits of the tip of the needle are also used to fight for it, and even the insignificant ones are not exploited!Some people are even more disgusting, they are obviously against everyone, including themselves, and the slightest dissatisfaction will fan the flames, create chaos, and make good things messy.
Such people are born spoilers. Their mindset is, I want to eat a big piece of cake, isn't someone deliberately not letting me eat it?Then I'm going to pull a ball of on the cake so that everyone doesn't want to take a bite. ”
If Chunyan's mother's needs weren't met, she probably wouldn't have considered the so-called decades of friendship she was talking about. All she values is the emotional and emotional support her daughters have given her, and what her interests have been protected in the process. She cares about her own interests, and she submits her feelings to get more benefits, and affection is basically an excuse used to cover up her greed.
In the end, Chunyan's mother not only moved to the first floor as she wished, but also obtained the largest unit courtyard in the new district, and Chunyan's second sister was also assigned another one-bedroom apartment.
Despite this, Chunyan's mother still has some complaints about Zhou Bingkun's attitude, and she will talk non-stop every time she meets him:
This is a once-in-a-century opportunity, and finally waited for a rare moment in life, your brother once again has a huge amount of power, what is his trouble, don't you assign a set of two rooms to Chunyan's second sister?”
In this room division incident, Chunyan's mother's greed was vividly displayed.
With a mother, there must be a daughter.
The influence that parents have on their children is something we cannot afford to underestimate.
If the values of the parents are upright, then the likelihood of the child going off track is greatly reduced, and vice versa.
Just like the selfish Yueyue in the original book, similar to her mother Zhou Rong, who also only cares about herself, Chunyan was also deeply influenced by her mother to a large extent.
Thanks to Chunyan's mother's teachings and personal practice, Chunyan gradually showed a more mercenary side. Her mind is also getting more and more, more and more detailed, and deeper and deeper. Whether it's strategically, seeing others better than herself, or being overly greedy and power-seeking, Chunyan has a strong connection with her mother.
In the original work, when something goes wrong with Yu Hong's work unit, National Day and Catch-up are seized in order to protect Yu Hong. Zhou Bingkun pleaded everywhere, while Chunyan held Cao Debao's hand tightly, fearing that he would be implicated in any way.
When Debao's father's hospitalization reimbursement documents were lost, Chunyan forced Cao Debao to go to the newspaper director with whom Zhou Bingkun had a strained relationship, or to ask Zhou Bingyi for help, in short, she hoped that Zhou Bingkun could find a solution no matter what.
After Zhou Bingkun was released from prison, he had the idea of starting a business and borrowed money from them. At the dinner table, she unabashedly "opened her eyes and talked nonsense". Although Bingkun felt a little indifferent in his heart after seeing all this, he was still willing to understand them.
For Chunyan, as long as it has nothing to do with her own interests, everyone is a close friend. But when it comes to her own interests, even if it is just a risk, she will immediately cut off the relationship with others. This also means that she will not easily give up her principles when interacting with people. For her, the word "affection" means that she can be used at any time, should not be turned away, and should not ignore the plight of the other person.
This also indicates that Chunyan may eventually break with Zhou Bingkun.
When her maiden family has brought her great benefits and care, Chunyan uses affection as a quid pro bo to find Zhou Bingkun again, hoping that he can buy a property beyond the family's standards.
You have to understand that at that time, Chunyan already owned two properties in her name.
Zhou Bingkun rejected the strongman's request, but Chunyan and Cao Debao were disgruntled by it, and they reported Zhou Bingyi with their real names. At the same time, Chunyan's family also left the new area, changed to a new mobile phone number, and cut off contact with Zhou Bingkun and all his friends.
She was deeply dissatisfied with Zhou Bingkun because he didn't see her as a friend, but did she really see Zhou Bingkun as a friend?Who are her friends?If Zhou Bingkun can really be like Yu Hong's family, there is no place where he can settle down, he will never sit idly by.
However, she needs just too much, and what she really lacks is not property, but greed that can never be satisfied.
Some people believe that selfishness and self-interest are human nature, and everyone is doing it for their own benefit. So, just how serious is egoism?I agree. The purpose of self-interest is to obtain maximum profits and maximize returns, which is a law that no one can resist. However, the basic premise and bottom line of pursuing personal interests is not to harm the interests of others, nor can we blindly ask others to make sacrifices for their own interests.
Living according to one's expectations is not a selfish act, it is a right that everyone should have, and allowing others to do exactly what they want is a truly selfish act.