If you live to be thirty years old, don t be too stubborn, people who don t know how to be flexible

Mondo Social Updated on 2024-01-19

Text: Ghost Valley Letter.

Many times, life is a collection of choices. What kind of choice you have, what kind of destiny you will have.

People always have to suffer the consequences of their choices.

For example, in life, choosing to be a hero or a hero is a very important life choice. This question is a question worth pondering for you, for me, or for Cao Cao.

One. Cao Cao's life had a very important watershed. Before the age of 30, Cao Cao wanted to be a hero, with a beautiful dream, and when he worked in the court, he was selfless and straightforward, never caring about personal gains and losses, but he was hit by reality and looked for teeth.

When he was young, Cao Cao was the enemy of eunuchs and magnates everywhere, and he was not ambiguous at all, and he was ruthless everywhere. As a result, he did not get the approval of the leaders, but two ups and downs, tasting indifference and the cold world. Even so, he sticks to a bottom line:

I'd rather the people of the world bear me than the people of the world. This is the generous tragedy of the hero Cao Cao.

Even in the face of adversity, he insisted on the improvement of hard power, cultivated himself into a hexagonal warrior, and wanted to have knowledge, to have power, to have power, and to have literary talent. In addition to being a little uglier, Cao Cao seems to be waiting for success next. But this is not the case, Cao Cao, who is both civil and military, is very depressed in the workplace and is still depressed, so he wrote "Cover yourself with muddy water and avoid guests". It doesn't matter if he said this to others or not, he did it anyway, and chose to live a reclusive life at a young age.

Although we can know from historical data, Cao Cao's hibernation cycle this time was two years. But he didn't know it at the time, but the only thing he could do was to stay up.

Boiling is the basic consciousness of a small person in the workplace, and it is obviously a helpless move, otherwise if you can go up, you will go up a long time ago.

This person has the opportunity to be beautiful, so he naturally has to show his ambitions. If you don't have the opportunity, you have to endure loneliness!

During his time in seclusion, Cao Cao keenly captured a key message, as if the world was about to change.

It just so happened that at this time, he also received a letter of appointment and became one of the eight lieutenants.

At this time, does Cao Cao want to enter the workplace again?Cao Cao's answer is of course yes!Seclusion is a last resort, there is a chance to go up, and there is no chance to create a chance to go up.

Picking chrysanthemums under the east fence, leisurely seeing Nanshan" life is more suitable for the elderly, Cao Cao is in the year of fighting, how can he lie flat.

The choice of life is nothing more than one advance and one retreat, in fact, the key lies in the advance and retreat. Otherwise, it's actually just a tendon.

It's not a moral issue, it's a pattern issue.

Two. At that time, Emperor Ling of Han hung up, and the little emperor Liu Wei ascended the throne. Subsequently, his cousin He Jin and the eunuch group began a brutal struggle. This is actually not the point, the point is that Cao Cao found that Yuan Shao's figure had been flickering in the struggle, and it seemed that some unspeakable thoughts had also moved in the heart of the family gatekeeper.

When Cao Cao heard that He Jin had listened to Yuan Shao's suggestion and brought in foreign aid to prepare for a final battle with the empress dowager and the eunuch, Cao Cao realized that a bloody storm was coming. The reason is also very simple, the eunuch is indeed bad, but you He Jin only needs to send someone to control the leader of the eunuch, why bother to mobilize the people?Introducing military generals into Beijing, I'm afraid you won't be able to control it. Eunuchs, queen mothers, gate valves, military generals, can He Jin, who was just a butcher, really control so many forces?The most terrible thing is that you dare to show your cards in such a big move, which is tantamount to self-destruction.

Therefore, Cao Cao came to a conclusion: In the current of turbulence, He Jin will be defeated!

Sure enough, as expected, He Jin and the eunuchs died together. made Dong Zhuo pick up a big bargain.

To say that this person's growth is actually forced out. Cao Cao saw through the deceit of all parties and was mercenary. even met the best of the best, Dong Zhuo.

Cao Cao was really not easy, the leader was Jian Shuo first, and he was killed by He Jin. So it was replaced by He Jin, but he was killed by the eunuch again. So it was replaced by Yuan Shao, but Yuan Shao ran away again.

At this time, he found that there was a person not far away who gave him a hideous smile, and that person was Dong Zhuo. Cao Cao actually wanted to make a paste at the beginning, for example, if you beat you, I will not offend anyone. At that time, Cao Cao's workplace mentality was: go out of the mountain but not stand in line. Even if you come out to work, you will never rush to stand in line when you can't see the situation clearly.

However, Dong Zhuo supported Liu Xie, the Emperor of Han Xian, and forced Cao Cao to stand in line, and in order to win him over, he was even promoted to the rank of captain of Xiaocai.

How should Cao Cao choose?This is like a dilemma that people in the workplace often encounter. During the meeting, the first and second leaders had conflicts, forcing the people who originally ate melons to choose.

You choose not to offend the number one, and the second-in-command is your direct boss. You choose not to offend the second-in-command, and the first-in-command is in charge of your future and destiny.

So, what to do?

As a person who has come over, Ashin has also had a headache. So here's a piece of advice for all fellow Daoists: If you really don't want to offend anyone, then what you can do may be to offend yourself.

How to understand it?For example, you can take the initiative to admit that there are areas that need to be improved in your work, and hope to accept criticism from the leader.

I believe that many smart Taoist friends can understand that this is actually a completely helpless move, but they also try to avoid the problem of openly choosing a position. In the workplace, if you don't have enough ability, you can still grow. If there is a problem with the position, then it is tantamount to digging one's own grave.

Of course, there is impermanence, and Ashin's advice is only a suggestion, whether it is to criticize the leader or self-criticism, you still need to decide for yourself.

How did Cao Cao choose?He chose not to go to Dong Zhuo's thief ship, nor to get on someone else's thief ship, and after self-criticism, he took advantage of the night to leave without dust.

On the way out of Luoyang, I think Cao Cao will definitely look up at the starry sky, and then sigh with emotion, the world is not worth it.

The city of Luoyang behind him has become a purgatory on earth, but Cao Cao is powerless, he realizes a fundamental problem, heroes cannot save the world.

So, just after the age of 30, the hero Cao Cao died, and the hero Cao Cao silently recited, "I'd rather bear the world than teach the world to bear me", and came to life.

The vicissitudes of the sea show the true character of the hero.

Across the seas, the means are used to the extreme.

Three. I believe that each of us has a dream of being a hero. Actually, it's a good thing that people have dreams. However, it is also necessary to fully recognize the difference between dreams and reality. In the face of the harsh reality, all you have to do is live.

Before the age of 30, if a person still regards himself as an ignorant teenager, subjectively believing that love and kindness can solve all problems, it is actually understandable, after all, he is thirty years old. However, if after the age of 30, we still cannot face up to the cruelty of this objective world, it will be difficult to adapt to the rules of the game in society.

Of course, Ashin is not a pedant, and he doesn't want to educate anyone, after all, everyone has the right to choose their own destiny, I just want to send a sentence of Guiguzi's words: The way of a saint is not only faithful, benevolent and righteous, but also upright.

We believe in loyalty and advocate righteousness, but this is not all, the saints follow only the righteous way.

I believe that many people will question this view. Let's think about it: Can you really forgive the eunuchs who did a lot of evil in the late Eastern Han Dynasty and were the ten permanent servants of the eunuchs who brought disaster to the world, He Jin and Dong Zhuo?

Love is a precious emotion, so please give love and kindness to someone who deserves it!

If love doesn't solve the problem in adversity, what does?

Cao Cao's choice is to be a wise man, a wise man who can turn the tide and turn the tide of danger. Ashin calls this kind of epiphany the conscience of the left hand and the conspiracy of the right hand.

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