Easy to say can also cause unnecessary trouble. Building a relationship isn't easy, but it can be destroyed in an instant.
After a truly intelligent man and woman establish a deep relationship, they will cherish each other's existence and will take the initiative to hide three things.
First, hide criticism and don't easily talk about the other person's shortcomings.
I've seen such a short **.
In **, a man and a woman quarrel over a trivial matter, and in the end the man gets angry and accuses the woman of always liking small things and big things, and also likes to go around talking about the private affairs of the two.
The man's words reminded both of them.
One day, after a man gets off work, he hears a woman and a guest say how sloppy the man is at home, he doesn't wash his feet at home, he always throws his socks into the washing machine when he takes off his socks, and when he washes his clothes, the washing machine smells.
Such small things happen from time to time, but every time a man hears a woman's shortcomings as a joke and shares them with others, it is embarrassing and uncomfortable.
Everyone will get along with each other with their own shortcomings, but the exposure of shortcomings is not to become a talking point for others, but when two people are together, they can easily be themselves.
Smart men and women do not satisfy each other's shortcomings, but learn to tolerate and accept each other's imperfections.
Second, hiding quarrels is not easy to lead to conflicts.
Although it is said that a really good relationship is not that two people never quarrel together, but that after a quarrel can be a lifetime, quarrels will more or less affect the relationship.
My husband and I have been married for 5 years. Although we get along very well now, we have to admit that I have some scars in my heart.
When we first got married, he liked to play games, and I wouldn't let him play, and then we had a big fight, and he stood up and pushed me hard, and at that moment I was scared of him.
Afterwards, he took the initiative to apologize to me, but years later, the scene of that night is so vivid that when I get along with him, I no longer dare to be as willful as before, but will take into account some of his feelings.
Don't believe that two people will reconcile after a quarrel, it will be as easy as it was in the beginning.
Any contradiction in a relationship is inevitable, and if you don't deal with it, but talk about it everywhere, you will only make the contradiction expand.
Relationships are all about doing things the right way, not just being emotionally blind. Instead of arguing and amplifying arguments, find a solution, hide the arguments, and communicate amicably.
Third, hide dependencies and reduce the burden of getting along.
Love is a sweet burden, two people will enjoy this feeling when they are together, willing to let each other do something for themselves, and willing to pay for each other in the process of getting along.
Over-reliance can turn into stress.
is like Wang Baichuan in "Ode to Joy", he has always liked Fan Shengmei very much, regards each other as his goddess, respects, loves, and pampers each other.
Fan Shengmei wants a big house, and Wang Baichuan works hard to make money;Fan Shengmei faced her original family, and when she was a little helpless, she hoped that Wang Baichuan would help her solve it.
Wang Baichuan became more and more annoyed from his original enthusiasm, until he found out at the request of the other party that the woman who regarded herself as a life-saving benefactor needed him to be responsible for her life, and such a responsibility was too great for Wang Baichuan to bear, and finally gushed out the intention of resigning.
Fortunately, Fan Shengmei also found her own shortcomings in this relationship, over-relying on the other half, thinking it was love, but in fact, it was like a person who fell into the sea, grabbed a floating lifebuoy, and did not distinguish between love and love.