Marriage occupies 2 3 of life, and everyone wants marriage to be a supplement to their future life, not a burden.
Women, in particular, want to find a partner who they can rely on for the rest of their lives.
However, some men are not suitable to be husbands, and the more they want to get married, the more carefully they need to be when choosing a partner, and they must be screened before marriage.
Some men, no matter how handsome they are and how rich they are, just can't get married.
The first type of man: emotional instability.
Seneca said: Men are emotionally unstable, their attitudes are prone to ups and downs, sometimes gentle and sometimes savage, and they are incomprehensible to women.
When a person's attitude is uncertain, it is tiring to be with such a person, it is easy to lose more than it gains, and it is also easy to get hurt.
is like An Jiahe in "Don't Talk to Strangers", due to emotional instability, when he saw his wife talking to other men, he fantasized that the other party had done something sorry for him.
After returning home, he was beaten by his wife, and after the beating, when he saw his wife's appearance, he remembered the scene where the two once loved each other, regretted it, and apologized in a gentle tone.
The emotional ups and downs again and again made Mei Xiangnan completely disappointed in the relationship and finally divorced.
Men who are emotionally unstable often lack self-control and will act impulsively when they lose control, and women are bound to be hurt when they are with such men.
The second type of people: negative and pessimistic.
A distant cousin of mine is very handsome. When she was young, she married her cousin despite her family's opposition, thinking that the two would be very happy.
After a long time, I found that my cousin is a very negative and pessimistic person, who is only willing to passively accept it, and is not willing to take the initiative to fight for it.
Uncle was fired by the company, and people with low eyes know that this is usually the result of uncle's passive work, but Uncle feels that it is because others have a relationship, but he can't fight;
In order to make more money, Aunt Cousin found a part-time delivery job, and ran outside to make a list after work, but Uncle Cousin was not satisfied, thinking that Aunt Cousin was doing this to save face, and insulted Aunt Cousin that there were already people outside.
In fact, it is not the days that are sad, but the fact that I am with a negative person and lose the determination to move towards a better life.
Washington Irving said
If a man is too negative and pessimistic, then his worldview and expectations for the future are dark, and with each other, the good days will get worse and worse, and the bad days will never get better.
The third type of man: irresponsible.
Fromm said: But irresponsible men never look at the gains and losses of others, only focus on their own interests, and the same is true with their lovers.
Just like my second uncle, whose name is the husband of the second aunt, but since the two got married and had children, the second uncle started to stay at home at night and leave the children to the second aunt alone.
Because she needs to watch the children, the second aunt doesn't have any income, and the second aunt asks for money, but the second aunt not only doesn't give it, but also accuses the second aunt of too much.
It didn't take long for the second aunt to find out that the second uncle had betrayed her and lived with another woman, and she was very sad.
The second aunt wanted a statement, but the second uncle didn't care, he said that there was no statement, and if he had to quarrel, it would be good to divorce directly.
The second aunt was like being punched, and she was powerless to refute, so she had to silently accept the reality and accept that she had found an unreliable man.
An irresponsible man will not give for the woman and the family, but will bring the wind and rain of life to the woman, making the woman feel lonely and helpless.
Marriage is for the achievement of the other party, love is for the nourishment of the other party, what kind of man to choose to spend the rest of his life depends not only on the climax at the moment of hormonal secretion, but also on the reliability of the other party.