I am an old lady in her sixties, and my son has been married for more than ten years and has been living with me in an old house. These are the three houses that my husband left me when he was alive, although they are not big, they are very warm to live in, and there are memories of us everywhere.
My husband died early, and I raised my son single-handedly. In order not to let him suffer, I dote on him as much as I can, I stay by his side day and night when I am sick, I go to school to intercede if I don't do well in exams, and I want to take everything down. I know it's not good for my child's development, but I can't help but protect him.
When my son grew up, he went out to work and didn't come home to see me for a few years. I'm always lonely as an old man, and although the house is comfortable to live in, it's always too big and empty. I really want my son to come back, and the house will be lively.
One day, I suddenly received a ** from my daughter-in-law Pan Mei, saying that she was going to move from her hometown to live with me for a while. I was taken aback, and hurriedly said, "How embarrassing is this, I can't get used to you young people living in an old man's house." ”
Pan Mei immediately said: "Mom, it's a pity that you live alone in such a big house." We miss you too, just in time for you to see your grandson more, right?”
I was overjoyed and said excitedly: "That's good, I'm not lonely with you here, let's move over." ”
Two days later, the daughter-in-law came with her grandson. My grandson's name is Xiaoqiang, he looks like he is five or six years old, and he doesn't dare to look at me shyly after his mother. I was busy taking out the prepared fruit for my grandson to eat, but I felt a little disappointed in my heart, and my grandson was not close to me at all.
I let my daughter-in-law and grandson live in the main house, and moved to the east side house myself. They quickly packed their bags. I said to my grandson, "Xiaoqiang, look at what delicious food grandma has prepared for you." The grandson still hid behind his mother shyly and remained silent.
I sighed and prepared to cook a hearty meal, hoping they would be satisfied.
But after a month or so, her temper grew. Once, I burned a braised fish for them to eat, who knew that Pan Mei was very dissatisfied for some reason, pushed the bowl and said: "This fish is not cooked thoroughly, it can't be swallowed, Mom, you can't even cook?"”
I was surprised, so I quickly tasted it, and I felt that the fish was very soft and rotten. But he was still busy saying, "I'm sorry, I'm just not good at my craft, so I'll make something else for you another day." ”
Hmph, forget it, I'll do it myself. Pan Mei looked very disdainful, so I had to silently take the food and walk away.
Since then, Pan Mei has any opinions on what I cook. Either it's too salty, it's too bland, or it doesn't taste good. I've laughed and brought it, and I'll improve it next time. But there seemed to be no end to her harshness, and I gradually did not dare to go to the kitchen.
When eating, Pan Mei also began to pick and choose: "Mom, you look too ugly to eat, and you can learn from others if you don't have an education." "Mom, you know to bury your head and eat hard, don't gobble it too much. "I blushed and said yes, but she criticized me one after another, and my self-esteem hurt.
She never allowed me to say anything more to her grandson, and always acted like a child who wouldn't let anyone else touch her. I wanted to be close to my grandson, but she always held me back, and it made me sad.
On my days off, I go to the park to chat with other elderly people. If she came back a little late, Pan Mei said with a bad face: "You are an old man wandering around all day long, and you don't know how to cook at home." "I had to laugh, but I didn't feel good.
Gradually, I found out that Pan Mei was simply trying to drive me away. She was unkind and picky every day, and drove me out all day long. I feel very sad in my heart, but for the sake of my grandson, I can only swallow my anger, hoping that their mother and son can stay for a few more days.
I really miss my son and it would have been nice if he was there. I called my son a few times, but he always said that he was very busy with work and couldn't come back. I knew he was working hard, so I didn't bother him anymore. In fact, I really want him to come back, even if it's just for a few days, so that I can have something to rely on.
Finally one day, Pan Mei's temper completely exploded.
I woke up late that day, and it was almost noon after finishing my housework. I was cooking a few simple dishes in the kitchen when I heard shouts coming from outside the door.
Mom!What the hell are you doing!We're all starving!Pan Mei shouted.
I hurriedly brought out the food, smiled and said, "Come on, come on, let's eat, I'm sorry, I'm late." ”
It's annoying to have a mom like you!With a wave of her hand, Pan Mei knocked over all the food I had brought to the ground.
I was startled, but I still persuaded her softly: "Meizi, I was wrong, you and Xiaoqiang eat some first, and I'll do it again?."”
Be your big-headed ghost!Pan Mei shouted hysterically, "You know how to eat white rice all day long, and you are a big rotten person who can't be moved!."”
Move your mother!This is my house, who let you live there?Get out!Pan Mei seemed to have completely lost her mind, picked up a teacup and threw it at me.
I quickly dodged, and the teacup slammed into the wall with a clatter. I was completely stunned by her violent behavior, and I wiped my tears and rushed out of the door, my heart like a mess.
When I got to the park, I sat on a bench for a long time. It turns out that my son, whom I have always doted on, married such a violent and unreasonable woman;My grandson, who I have always taken care of, will also follow my mother's example and hurt me. I felt that I was such a failure, and that a lifetime of hard work would be on such two incompetent people.
As night fell, the park was gradually deserted. I remembered when my son was seriously ill when he was a child, and I stayed by his side. At that time, I just wanted him to survive, and I was willing to give anything. Now that I think about it, my doting on him has developed a problem with his dependent character, and it has caused him to find such a vicious wife.
I looked up at the sky and the stars were bright. It dawned on me that I couldn't waste my life's work on impulse. For the sake of my grandchildren, I will still go back and endure their arrogance, because only in this way can the children grow up well. As I passed by the church, I prayed in my heart that God would bless our family.
Mom, you were scared yesterday, didn't you?I'm sorry, I was so hungry and dizzy. Pan Mei said embarrassedly.
I smiled as much as I could and replied, "It's okay, it's okay, it's not good for me, I shouldn't have starved you." ”
At first, I was a little skeptical, worried that this was just another ploy of Pan Mei. But in the days that followed, I was surprised to see that her attitude had really changed.
When eating, she is no longer picky about my food and manners;I came home late, and she didn't question me again;One time I accidentally broke a vase, and she just smiled and said it was okay.
I wondered how she had changed, but I also knew that it wasn't an option to continue to live with trepidation. So I decided to take the initiative and be more considerate of her.
One day, I deliberately made Pan Mei's favorite meat bun. She happily said, "Wow, Mom, how do you know I love this?"”
I smiled and said, "I'm your mother, how can I not know my good daughter-in-law?".”
Pan Mei smiled from ear to ear and devoured it. I was relieved to see that she was able to eat vigorously.
After eating, I offered to help her wash the dishes. Pan Mei readily agreed. I quickly washed the dishes and cleaned up the kitchen.
Mom, you're so capable, the kitchen is so good. Pan Mei exclaimed.
That's as it should be. You and Xiaoqiang can play outside, don't keep staring at the kitchen. I said with a smile.
From that day on, I tried my best to take care of the housework on myself so that my daughter-in-law could spend more time with the children. I will also take care of Xiaoqiang temporarily when she is out.
One day, Pan Mei suddenly talked about the property in my name and muttered what she wanted. I knew her personality and transferred the house to her without saying a word.
Pan Mei was very surprised, she repeatedly confirmed: "Mom, you really gave me the house for free?."You're not calculating anything, are you?”
I shook my head and said, "I've always wanted to leave my property to you and my children, and now I'll just give it to you." Don't think too much, just be happy. ”
Mom, I'm so impressed!Pan Mei was very happy, hugged me and said, "I promise to treat you and Xiaoqiang well!."”
After that, she felt like a different person to me. Take me out shopping and buy me clothes and jewelry at every turn. She came with Xiaoqiang to eat with me at every meal. After eating, she also took the initiative to clean up the dishes and chopsticks so that I could rest.
I was very relieved to see her like this. My daughter-in-law is like this, but after all, she is still my flesh and blood, and I shouldn't hold a grudge for too long. Since she has been so kind to me, I am grateful, and it is the right way to live this old age well.
I came to realize that I should have treated her with tolerance and understanding from the beginning. A home is like a puddle of water, water evaporates when it is hot, and melts away when it is soft. I can't get angry at her one-sidedness, it will only make her more rebellious. The way to get along requires wisdom and tolerance.
During this time, I got along with Pan Mei and realized that there were many problems with my attitude towards my family before.
I thought about it and decided to talk to Pan Mei and apologize.
One day after dinner, I said to her, "Meizi, come, Mom will talk to you." ”
What's the matter, Mom?She looked at me with a smile.
Pan Mei was surprised when she heard this, and after a while she relieved herself and said, "Mom, why do you apologize to me?"It is true that I used to have a bad temper and often make trouble. You're not wrong. ”
Pan Mei said with red eyes: "Mom, I'm sorry, it's me who is not good." I promise to listen to you in the future and stop being vexatious. Let's get along well and be a harmonious home. ”
I also had tears in my eyes, and the mother and daughter hugged each other warmly.
Since that day, Pan Mei and I have had a much better relationship. I will be considerate of her thoughts, and she will no longer be unreasonable.
Looking at my grandson's happy smiling face every day, I feel warm in my heart. My son has recently started coming home to see us a lot, and the time together as a family has been so good.
I think that relatives don't need to say too much to each other, as long as they understand each other with their hearts, they will naturally feel love. I will pass on this forgiving love to my family in my lifetime, so that they will feel peace and contentment for the rest of their lives.
That's my ultimate goal in life. I knew I was running out of time, but I was determined to make the last moments so that there would be more harmony and less discord between my family.
People, after all, will return to the basics. I believe that as long as we have good intentions, we will stay together for a long time.
As time went by, I felt like my body was getting worse. Although my daughter-in-law and grandson are filial to me, I know that I, an old man, always delay their mother and son's life.
One day, I asked my daughter-in-law that I wanted to move to a newly built nursing home nearby.
Mom, aren't you happy living with us?It's because I haven't taken care of you yet, have I?The daughter-in-law said in surprise.
Daughter-in-law, I live very happily with you, but I just think that my old bones are better to go to the nursing home professionals to recuperate. I smiled and said, "You and your children are in the prime of their youth and have their own lives, and I, an old man, will inevitably restrain you." I'm moving to a nursing home, and you're going to have it easier and you can live your own life. ”
That's okay, Mom, as long as you're happy. "Although the daughter-in-law was a little reluctant, she agreed.
On the day I moved, my daughter-in-law brought her grandson to help me pack my luggage. "Grandma, I won't have anyone to play with me after you're gone. "My grandson clings to me and refuses to let go. I laughed and teased him: "Grandma went to a new home, and Xiaoqiang often came to see me." We can watch TV together, and grandma will tell you bedtime stories. ”
My grandson reluctantly said goodbye to me, and my heart was sour. But I know it's the best arrangement for all of us.
After moving to a nursing home, I was able to live a regular life. There is a special person to take care of daily life, and there is also a doctor who regularly checks the body. I've also made new friends, and we sit together every day to talk about family life, but it's also very relaxing.
My daughter-in-law often brings her children to visit me, and sometimes we have dinner together at a nursing home. I let my daughter-in-law not have to be chained to me all day long, and her life is obviously much easier.
One day, my son came back to see me out of the blue. I hugged him excitedly and cried bitterly, and he also said that he missed me with red eyes. We snuggled up together as we did when we were children, telling about our thoughts and love over the years.
Mom, I'm sorry I haven't been able to come back to see you more than I have been all these years. The son said guiltily. I stroked his back and said softly, "Silly boy, Mom's happiest thing is to see you live a good life." I'm proud and proud of you for everything you do. ”
Since then, my son has come home to see us every once in a while. The family is back together. My daughter-in-law and grandson are also very filial to me and often come to talk to me.
I feel satisfied. As I grow old, it is the happiest thing in my life to be able to re-release my past suspicions and share the joy of family with my family. My only regret is that I didn't understand the importance of family harmony sooner. But it's not too late, I will pass on this precious insight to my children and bless them to live in warmth for generations to come.
It is a kind of happiness to be able to understand and tolerate in life. I hope that all people will not experience indifference and pain, but will be surrounded by love until the last moment of life. That's what I want to do in the world.
Time flies, and in a blink of an eye, I have lived in the Juyuan Nursing Home for two years. For these two years, I have lived a peaceful and contented life.
A new friend, Mr. Cao, came to the nursing home, and he lived across the street from me. Mr. Cao is warm and cheerful and often comes to chat with me. He had two daughters, both of whom had gone out of town and occasionally came back to see him.
My wife passed away early, and the children were not around, so life was really lonely. Fortunately, when I meet you, a good neighbor, and someone to chat with every day, I won't be lonely. Mr. Cao said to me with a smile.
I also like this friend very much, so I often ask him to go out with him. We would jog in the yard to exercise, or play chess together, talk about life, and the days were warm.
On this day, Mr. Cao said to me, "I heard from my son that their family is preparing to emigrate abroad. If I go to live with them, I can help take care of the grandchildren. Do you think my old bones are worth immigrating?”
I thought for a moment and said, "We are all people of this age, and the most important thing is physical health and spiritual satisfaction. Since you are Xi accustomed to living here, and you have old friends with you, I suggest that you should not go abroad and suffer from it. The right time, the right place and the most precious person, you can enjoy the moment. ”
Mr. Cao breathed a sigh of relief after hearing this: "I think so too." The kids have their own lives, and I just want to simply get through the rest of my time. With you as a good neighbor, I'm already content. ”
I smiled and nodded, and touched the teacup with Mr. Cao.
Enjoying the moment, being content, this is the state of my life now. Talking to friends, reuniting with family, and providing three meals a day in nursing homes, I spent my old age in peace and had no regrets.
Sometimes I think about the meaning of life. After all these ups and downs, I suddenly realized that we are all the same. Rich and poor, they all want to be happy. And happiness is also very simple, it is to live a long and healthy life, reunite with the family, eat without knowing the taste, and be accompanied by like-minded people.
Now I'm not greedy for more. I believe that fate has arrived, and it will come naturally. For the rest of my life, I only wish to be kind, grateful for life, and hope that everyone can find their own peace. When I close my eyelids gently, my heart will be filled with blessings and gratitude for the world. In this life, there are no regrets and no complaints.