Everyone has times when things don't go well and they need to ask others for help. This is also a common situation between friends and lovers, and we can lend a helping hand when the other person is genuinely in need. However, if we find that the other person is not really in need of help, but sees us as a gullible person, who has been getting the benefits they want from us, and is not willing to reciprocate our kindness at all, then we should immediately distance ourselves from such people. Especially when a woman borrows money from you again and again, but never mentions repayment, and always finds all kinds of excuses to cheat you, then even if the relationship is good, you should resolutely refuse her request. Because such a woman has bad intentions and is just trying to destroy your good fortune. We should never think that we can win her heart by spending a little more. We have to understand that desire is a bottomless pit, and no matter how much money we spend on her, it is still not enough for her. Instead of being grateful to us, she will be even more insatiable in asking for us.
Further, in addition to monetary loan requests, we should also be wary of other forms of loan requests. Some women will use the excuse of being lonely and in need of care and companionship to ask us to listen and offer time to spend with us. However, if this woman is clearly a lover, knows that we are lovers, or is married, but still asks for our time and listen, or even begs us to lend our shoulders to other men, we must immediately reject her. Whatever the reasons she makes, she has bad intentions, she wants to destroy our good fortune, and the green hat she wears on our heads is her goal. We don't have to easily believe in the so-called pure friendship of the opposite sex, but anything that is too close, involves an ambiguous relationship, and has had physical contact is inadherent without exception.
In interpersonal interactions, we should learn to protect our own happiness. We don't need to sacrifice our own interests for the needs of others, especially those who are simply not trustworthy. If a woman only uses us as a loan tool and keeps asking us for money without ever getting anything in return, we should decisively cut off the relationship with her. In the same way, when a woman clearly has a lover of her own or knows that we already have a lover or is married, but still asks for our time and companionship, we should decisively refuse. We must firmly believe that such a woman will only bring us distress and pain, but not true happiness.
When dealing with this situation, we need to learn to say "no" firmly. Not only to protect our own good fortune, but also to preserve our own dignity. We need to be clear about our position, reject their requests for loans, and keep our distance. We must believe in our own value and believe that we are worthy of being affirmed and protected. Don't let others greedily take our wealth and time, and don't let others abandon our feelings and needs. We must learn to stick to the bottom line and protect our happiness in order to live a truly good life.
In interpersonal interactions, we often meet people who will only take and not give back. Women, in particular, may borrow money, shoulders, or even our time and energy from us for no reason, but give us nothing in return. We must be vigilant against such people and decisively refuse their requests. We need to understand that these women do not really want to associate with us, but out of selfish motives, and they only use us as tools to satisfy their own desires. We must not allow others to ruin our good fortune, and we should learn to protect our happiness from those who take it and do not return it. Most importantly, we believe in our own worth and do not sacrifice our own interests and dignity in order to meet the needs of others. Only by sticking to the bottom line and protecting our good fortune can we achieve true happiness and build healthy, equal relationships.