A few days ago, a news was very popular, saying that in a high-end community in Qingdao, there was a conflict between the delivery man and the security guard, and the security guard stabbed the delivery man to death.
In fact, conflicts between delivery workers and security guards are not uncommon, mainly because the delivery workers are in a hurry, and the security guards cannot let their batteries into the community, which has caused various conflicts.
But compared with this incident, what is more concerning is that this delivery man is not an ordinary person, but an international student who has just graduated from Australia.
According to reports, he studied psychology, and his family spent millions of yuan on his tuition, and he owed a lot of debts, his father worked in a restaurant, his mother worked as a nanny, and the family's monthly income was only 7,000 yuan.
However, it is difficult to find a corresponding job in China, so after he returned to China, he first failed to start a business, and then used his spare time to deliver takeaways, but he didn't expect such a tragedy to happen.
While this incident is distressing, it also triggers people to think about whether it is worth it to go to school abroad, or even immigrate with the whole family
This is also a question that many, many people have asked me recently.
Let's talk about a few real things first, since it was Christmas + New Year's Day recently, many of my friends have come back from abroad, chatting with them, and telling you the information they have gotten.
The first one is Xueba.
Everyone knows that my classmates are all top students, their undergraduate degree is 985 in China, and the graduate student is full scholarship to go to the United States, and some people are even so strong that they have the strength to compete for the top prize in the Nanjing college entrance examination that year, and they are super geniuses.
At present, they are in their 30s, basically all of them have taken root in the United States, ordinary code farmers, more than 100,000 or 200,000 US dollars a year, marrying a Chinese classmate as a wife, blue sky and white clouds, free air, life is easy and stress-free, but their biggest pain comes from loneliness, and long-term separation from their families, which is also the place where they sigh every time they chat, and they still don't know whether they are doing right or wrong.
After all, the elderly are reluctant to leave their homeland and settle in the United States, they have their own relatives in China, and even their own parents, which cannot be abandoned.
And our most awesome genius classmates, on the contrary, are slightly disappointed, very few people can make a name for themselves in the business world, as CEOs, general managers and the like, after all, cultural differences and racial discrimination will always exist, most of them just stay in school to engage in academics, to be a screw in the scientific community.
Maybe these are also in line with their interests and hobbies, and the income is also very good, but in my opinion, compared to the high spirit of killing everything in middle school, it is still regrettable.
By the way, these classmates are basically well-off families, and there are no local tyrants.
The second is scumbags and ordinary people.
Friends around me, or friends of friends, there are always some children who do not study well, cannot be admitted to college, and finally take the road abroad.
In addition, in the past two years, for indescribable reasons, there have been many ordinary children, even the kind of children with average academic performance who are estimated to be able to take the second book exam, and have begun to ponder the way abroad.
It is said that the "international class" that some schools are engaged in now is a high school that conducts European and American education separately in China, takes IELTS and SAT, and goes to an institution abroad for undergraduates, the number of applicants has skyrocketed, and the quality of students and the score line have been greatly improved, behind which too many people want to go abroad.
These students often come from well-off families, ranging from the super-rich to the above-mentioned ordinary people who borrow money for their children to go abroad.
So what are their results?
It can only be said that there are many kinds of talents, after all, the qualifications and talents are different from the top students, only a few people may be due to luck, talent, or extremely wealthy families to stay abroad and live the life their parents want, and most of them eventually come back, just like the children above.
After all, a child who studies psychology is not good at speaking English, and he skips classes in college, how can he stay in the United States to do psychological counseling for foreigners?Don't you tutor foreigners into ***?
After these people return to China, most of their jobs are arranged by their parents, those in liberal arts enter the bank, and those in science still enter the bank, after all, now the company is also a chicken thief, and they all know what "foreign undergraduate" means, and it is not easy for ordinary children to find a good job on their own.
In fact, including many, many students from Nanwai, although they had the advantage of being familiar with the rules back then, and skillfully applied to a good university, even the top 50 or top 100 in the United States, but in the end, it depends on their true ability. Many of them finally returned to China to find a job, thousands of yuan a month due to poor strength or professional inconsistency.
The above may be the most likely result of studying abroad, so if you are not strong and forcibly send your children abroad, it is likely to be the result of returning to China to find a job.
Therefore, whether or not to send your child abroad is to be discussed by category, and you have to recognize your family situation and your child's academic performance before you can make a plan.
For example, if your child is a top student and follows the path of my classmates, then there is no problem, if you like to go abroad, it is easy to stay, and life is better.
For example, if you are super rich and send your children out just to moisturize, then... So what's there to say.
For example, if your family's conditions are very good, your child's grades are poor, and you can't get into a domestic university, find a way to take advantage of the rules, get a famous foreign university, mix your identity, and spend millions of dollars as a diploma, which is also very cost-effective.
What I'm most afraid of is that kind of middle-class family, who doesn't have much money and no sense of self, but thinks about rolling others every day, and others go abroad to eat and drink bran and drink bran by themselves, and then it's over. Because this will be a very cost-effective deal, undergraduate and graduate students this year, spend 200-3 million, Mao has not learned, and there is a high probability that he will not be able to find a job when he returns to China, that is really picking up sesame seeds and losing watermelons.
Going to school abroad is expensive.
I have a friend whose child goes to school in the UK, and their apartment is rented on a weekly basis, 400 pounds a week for a normal week, and 1,000 pounds a week for a good one.
What is the concept of £1000 a week rent?The rent alone costs 500,000 yuan a year, not to mention the outrageously expensive tuition and living expenses.
Of course, these are all rented by the rich second generation, which is enough to show that going abroad is a blind man's elephant, and they think that what they see is the whole world.
The local tyrant desperately tried to Amway you, saying that there is a lot of freedom to go abroad, but you can only deliver food when you go, which is the result of blindly going abroad.
Therefore, before you send your children abroad, you must figure out your own situation and why others want to go abroad, and don't follow the trend without knowing anything.
There used to be a joke called:
The old man left Foxconn and went to Shandong to find Lan Xiang.
Lanxiang graduation package is distributed, and it is still Foxconn at first glance.
Studying abroad in desperation can also be a result of this:
The old man didn't want to fight his father and mother, so he went to college in the United States.
The U.S. imperialists are not assigned after graduation, and they have to fight for their parents when they return home.
So what is "blindly following the trend", and what is "figuring out why others are going abroad"?This brings us to the next topic: why do so many adults want to go abroad?
In the past two years, my friends have been asking me if I want to immigrate, and I answered him like this
If you have more than 100 million assets, you can go;
If you don't have 100 million assets, but after the whole family is wiped out, you can continue to make money in the country, and earn enough 100 million before retirement, then you can also go;
If you only have 50 million, no follow-up income, and you can only sit and eat after going abroad, then it is better to stay in China honestly, and domestic life is much cheaper.
What can you do when you emigrate?Can you still get a job?In the end, I can only go to food delivery and open Didi.
Don't laugh, these two industries are currently popular in the Chinese circle in the United States, they are all Chinese Runren people, and you don't have the ability to be a code farmer, so what can you do if you don't deliver takeaway?
There are even many Chinese immigrants driving trucks in the United States because of the high income of trucks...
Even if you have a deposit of 50 million yuan to bring to the United States, first buy a house of 2 million US dollars, and then the whole family will sit on the mountain for the rest of your life, and the annual medical insurance and real estate tax expenses will be scared to death, you will definitely panic, who can guarantee that this money will be enough for a lifetime?Will prices be inflationary in the next 50 years?Will there be an economic crisis?
So if you don't have a hundred million, don't keep thinking crookedly.
Then the question is, are there 100 million people who are out now?
Coincidentally, the other day I was chatting with a fan who is from Nanjing, but works as a real estate agent in North America, mainly in Canada and the United States.
He said that he has a lot of customers in recent years, and many of them have sold their houses in Nanjing (understand who is smashing the market in Hexi?).But in the past few years, he was a rich man, but in the past 2 years, the middle class has increased, and his purchasing power is not very good, and he himself doesn't understand.
In fact, there are only two types of people who run, one who has money and the other who has no money.
The real middle class with no money is really miserable, and it will definitely become a "middle miserable" in the United States in the future, just like I said, you have no savings, no job, why do you run out with the trend?It must be miserable...
And those who have money run for a common reason, that is, they are afraid of liquidation, so whether I have 50 million or 500 million, I will run first as respect. Speaking of which, if you have assets of more than 10 million and are not from speculation, you will smile, after all, how many local tyrants can guarantee 100% cleanliness now?
It's not that you must have killed people, set fire to and bribed **, but that many people's money came from the sidelines, took advantage of loopholes in the rules, came to say hello, and couldn't stand scrutiny, so why did many people run away in the past 2 years, even Shanghai, the richest and richest people in China, and the top hao** have collapsed, that's the reason, I won't expand it specifically.
So it's still the same sentence, whether you are a child going to school or running as a family, you must have a full reason, you must understand your real situation, there are 10,000 Harry Potter in 10,000 people, and you must not follow the trend.
So is the US imperialist so good?
It just so happened that several of my friends had come back and talked to them, and they were generally worried.
It's not the U.S. economy that's worrying about it, the U.S. economy is really good, it's hiring workers everywhere, it's consuming everywhere, prices are rising, wages are rising, it's rising, housing prices are rising, whatever you buy with your eyes closed, it can go up, in stark contrast to the back side of the earth.
But now the American society is so divided, the law and order is so bad that you are afraid, and many of my friend's white colleagues have put guns in their cars, just for fear of being killed by strangers.
And if you are walking on the road, or in McDonald's, you can often meet that kind of mentally abnormal black brother, crazy to do some strange things to you, and they are also very sensitive, but whenever you show dissatisfaction with the black brother, they will feel that you are racist and want to fight with you, let alone Asians, white people can't stand everything today.
But their current society is like this, it is still deteriorating, and life may not be so happy.
So it's still that sentence, different people's purposes are different, Chinese people will have a lot of trouble settling abroad, some local tycoons know that there are tigers in the mountains and prefer tiger mountains, not because he loves the mountains and rivers there, but because he knows that if he does not face the iron fist of the black brother, he may face the iron window, then...
And you are a three-no-one, no money, no ability, no crime, why do you have no brains to follow the trend?