The relationship must be able to be managed well, and if something goes wrong, it must be that the emotional value that two people can provide to each other is not in place. or the gap is too far, and the frequency difference is serious;Either the ability to manage emotions between each other is too weak, or they are too lazy to operate, or they can't operate.
This is true for couples, and it is also true for other relationships in marriage.
Russell said: The harmony of married life requires the wisdom and tolerance of the wife.
A happy marriage requires the joint efforts of two people, but sometimes the role of the woman is more important.
A wise woman, in front of her in-laws, never takes the initiative to say these words, which is a kind of wisdom.
You're using me.
The most essential relationship between people is that each person gets what he needs.
This is especially true of marriage, which is based on taking and giving.
Therefore, when a man's family is worth more than he can give, he begins to complain, feeling that the other party is taking advantage of him. Having such thoughts in your heart and saying it out of your mouth often makes a man's family hold a grudge.
Because of family relationships, it is impossible to distinguish right from wrong, because of one or two behaviors, I feel that I have been wronged and deprived, and there is a kind of other people using their own minds, and this kind of relationship is not very comfortable.
Before I married my husband, I was scared to be the mother of another family, waking up early and coming back late to cook and clean the house.
I've never been exposed to marriage, and I see it as a disguised form of being exploited and dispossessed.
After real experience, I have learned that if I want to have a family and beauty, it is important not to care, as long as it does not violate the principle of getting along, the unequal giving and gaining between two people is often not as important as the harmony and stability of marriage.
My family is better than yours.
Marriage is not a matter of two people, but of two families.
When two people live together and have become a nominal family, it would be good if the other party did not have their own original family, subconsciously denying the other party's family, that is, not recognizing or even looking down on the other party's family rules and upbringing.
Emotional retention and pickiness can easily make the integration of the relationship no longer so harmonious, and even maintain a state of "distinction" all the time, and you can't find a sense of security when communicating.
Carnegie said: Smart people avoid expressions of hostility because they only bring more hostility.
Russell also said that smart people don't make comparisons between predicaments, because that only creates separation and hatred.
People who like to compare their mother-in-law's family with their mother's family are shallow and stupid in their hearts, and the more they show a sense of superiority, the more they will feel that you look down on your family, which will deeply damage the relationship between the two families.
If you can't overcome it, get a divorce.
Divorce represents the complete end of the relationship between two people and is an expression of negativity.
In real life, some women grab men's hearts, let the other party listen to their own or their own good, and always bring up the word "divorce" as a threat.
Can you divorce, when you say it for the first time, there will be a deterrent effect, if you say too much, there is no deterrent effect, and it may even make the other party numb, then in your heart, your attitude towards marriage and him is very sloppy, and even you are not afraid of his divorce.
The story of the wolf coming, it is enough to tell it once, and the more you tell it, not only will no one believe it, but the feelings of both parties will be consumed.
If you want to have a good relationship, don't always let your partner have emotional pressure, and smart women will not talk about "not going to divorce".
True possession and maintenance is not about pushing the other person away and pulling the other person to your side, but about intimate management.
A good wife is the foundation of a family.