I don't know if you've noticed, I don't know when those rural areas with simple folk customs and quiet life started"Earth-shaking" changes have taken place.
With the steady improvement of people's living standards, men and women in rural areas have moved to big cities.
Those who continue to stay in the countryside are nothing more than old people, young children, or idleness."Older singles
Some of these older single young men have not married a wife at the age of nearly 40, and they live every day.
Solving the marriage of these rural singles has become an issue that has attracted much attention in society in recent years.
However, the problem of singles has not yet been resolved, and the "five strange phenomena" have appeared in the rural areas, which can be described as quite unfavorable to the development of the rural areas.
So, what exactly has changed in the countryside?What do the "Five Strange Phenomena" refer to?
I don't know if you have noticed that now the countryside likes to build big houses and buy cars.
To say that these things are necessities of life, they can be used when they are covered and bought.
However, many people have prepared these things and then left them idle and don't need to put them on a show.
In fact, the reason can be summed up in two words - face.
Nowadays, no matter where you are, as long as you have a little money in hand, you will continue to buy houses and cars.
And this phenomenon also appears in rural areas, where houses do not need to be bought, but need to be rebuilt.
There are many rural people who do not hesitate to spend a lot of money to build a small villa on their homestead for the sake of their own face in the village.
The built house looks tall and magnificent, and the family's wealth can be reflected from the outside.
However, there are obviously few people in the family, but there are nearly ten more rooms.
Moreover, there are not many job opportunities in rural areas now, and more young people are reluctant to stay in rural areas.
For most of the year, they are adrift, returning to the countryside only for Chinese New Year reunions.
As a result, new houses that cost a lot of money to rebuild have been left idle for a long time.
A house is one thing, but every family in the countryside bought a car, and the neighbors around it began to buy it one after another.
Even if you don't have any money, you have to buy a car and put it at your doorstep, just to save face among the neighbors in the village.
In this way, it is useless to put a new car in the yard, but the daily cleaning and insurance premiums are not less.
Therefore, it is very strange to build a house and buy a car in the countryside but sit idleUnnecessary waste of resources for the sake of vanity.
I believe that everyone can feel more and more the pressure of young people getting married now, and the parents' life savings may be enough to help their son marry a daughter-in-law.
Regardless of whether you are in love with each other or know each other on a blind date, you must not be able to escape the "three mountains".
The three mountains are: the car, the house, and the bride price (deposit).
As long as these 3 things can be done, the woman's parents will happily marry their daughter.
If the conditions for mutual affection may not be so harsh, but if it is a blind date, these 3 things must not be less.
However, most of the young guys in the countryside are now likely to embark on the road of blind dates.
This may happen as a result, and a family living in the countryside can only marry a daughter-in-law after emptying their family.
In this way, marriage should be a sacred relationship, but it has unconsciously changed its taste.
Therefore, under the constraints of these three mountains, women often do not look at the man's ability, character, and three views.
As long as the bride price is enough and the family's financial ability is qualified, they will blindly marry each other.
After the family finally did their best to help the children start a family, the first goal was to give birth.
After all, traditional Chinese culture".There are three unfilial pieties, and no queen is great"Put it here.
The older generation always wants to take their grandchildren with them while they are still young.
As a result, young people in the countryside will begin to receive wave after wave of spawning offensives.
On the other hand, today's young people, the elders will prepare for pregnancy immediately after birth, which is basically impossible.
Many young people are not in a hurry to have offspring right away and feel too much pressure after having children.
But this is true, and now young people are carrying mortgages and car loans, and it is a problem to support themselves.
If you give birth to a child, then the expenses will increase by a large amount.
Children's milk powder, daily necessities, preschool, interest classes, etc., a series of huge expenses.
This will make the situation worse for families who are not wealthy in the first place, and reduce the quality of life of the family.
Therefore, in today's rural areas, young people are not so keen on having children, and they want to live a good life now.
If you want to talk about the current social trend, it is".The marriage rate is low and the divorce rate is high
finally can enter the palace of marriage, often because of trivial conflicts to the point of divorce.
In the old society, people in the countryside married for a lifetime, and they had to endure for a lifetime.
Because of the fear of others pointing fingers behind his back, it is better to continue to live his life than to gossip.
However, times have changed, and now there are a lot of divorces in the countryside, and there are more and more of them every year.
The main reason is that people nowadays pay more attention to their feelings in marriageIf you meet on a blind date, you have no emotional foundation, and you have a greater chance of finding it inappropriate after marriage.
As a result, there will be a situation where both parties have just been married for two or three years, but both parties can't stand the existing life, so they divorce decisively.
In addition, people's quality has generally improved, and they are more tolerant of divorce.
Therefore, more people are in favor of this view of "timely stop loss" and separation if it is not suitable.
To say that the biggest change in the rural areas is the mentality of the people, and they feel that the human touch is getting weaker and weaker.
Imagine the old countryside of the last centuryThe whole village helped when the family was in trouble.
Every time there is a funeral, it is all the help of the whole village, and the neighbors are even more enthusiastic to help take care of this and that.
The scene was lively and joyful, and the whole village was chatting and drinking, full of human touch.
But with the change of the times, this human touch has gradually been washed away, and it is not even felt anymore.
In fact, in the final analysis, the social structure has changed, and it is no longer the traditional one".Clans"Lord.
In the past, there was an old ancestor in a village, and it was a family for generations.
The role of the clan is very large, it can restrain people and help people, such as helping to find jobs and errands.
However, with the development of the commodity economy, most of the young people have gone out to work, and the clan cannot help in this regard.
Therefore, the so-called "human touch" has gradually faded, after all, I don't need to ask the people in the village to find a good job.
And there is a consensus among young people nowadays that they generally don't go to others for help when they have nothing to do.
When I encounter problems, I choose to spend money to find professionals to do it, so I can feel that the countryside is becoming more and more "urbanized"!
The times are developing rapidly, and the formation of these five strange phenomena in the countryside did not happen overnight.
All this is the inevitable result of social development to a certain extent, and we must adapt to its development.
Nowadays, in addition to the problem of singles, these five strange phenomena in the countryside are also very prominent
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