I still remember when I was a child, the first time I got on the Trojan horse. That day, I told my mom expectantly that I was going to play the "Trojan Horse", and she smiled and nodded, wiped my motorcycle "forehead" a few times, and watched over me carefully. I happily rode on the wooden horse and felt a different kind of happiness. However, this kind of pampering should be moderately positioned in the process of growing up, and excessive pampering will make children lose the courage to challenge and difficulties, which in turn will lead them to become "giant babies".
The love of parents is unquestionable, and they are eager to see their children grow up happily "without disasters and difficulties". However, the real world is not so perfect, and everyone faces all kinds of difficulties and setbacks. If parents always pass on their worries and fears to their children, pay too much attention to trivial problems, and even constantly correct and intervene in the educational process, then it will be difficult for children to learn independent thinking and problem-solving skills.
A student's growth requires going through setbacks, and it's a way to grow. When facing setbacks, students need appropriate support and encouragement from their parents, rather than excessive shelter and intervention. As experts say, moderate setbacks allow children to learn to overcome difficulties, develop self-confidence and the ability to cope with setbacks, so that they can better adapt to the needs of society.
In the process of students' growth, parents should give them the freedom to grow, let them face challenges and difficulties, and allow them to make mistakes and failures. It is only in failure that they learn how to correct their mistakes and how to learn from them, which is part of their growth into independent and self-reliant people.
In the traditional concept of education, over-pampering a child is regarded as a spoiling behavior. Doting parents tend to be overprotective of their children, paying too much attention to their children's every move and not allowing them to make any mistakes. This kind of coddling often has a negative impact on the child. For example, the child lacks self-reliance and is unable to deal with problems independentlyLack of ability to resist setbacks, easy to give up when encountering difficulties;Lack of self-confidence, doubts about one's own learning Xi and ability, etc.
Parents' over-protection of children's growth is a kind of harm to children. For example, in schools, parents focus too much on their students' performance and don't allow them to make any mistakes. As a result, many students gradually lose their initiative and creativity in their academic Xi, and they only care about catering to the expectations of their parents, and constantly pursue the so-called high scores and good grades in order to get the approval of their parents, while ignoring their own interests and personalities.
In addition, the difference between the family education environment and the school's educational philosophy and method has also brought some confusion to parents. Some parents want their children to receive a "frustration" education, but in schools, educators often give students too much attention and protection, making it impossible for parents to plan their children's development.
Therefore, parents should pay due attention to and guide their children's growth, so that they can learn to solve problems independently, overcome difficulties, endure setbacks and face failures, and be able to achieve all-round development in all aspects.
The impact of excessive pampering on students is obvious. Excessive pampering makes children lose their ability to make independent decisions and solve problems, resulting in poor self-discipline, poor patience, poor emotional control, poor social skills, and decreased academic performance.
In addition, excessive pampering will also cause children to have the problem of "psychological naivety", that is, let children fall into situations that adults should not bear too early, they lack the ability to deal with complex interpersonal relationships, solve social problems and other problems, and are prone to anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, dependence and other psychological problems.
Finally, excessive pampering by parents can also have a negative impact on school education. School is an important place for children's growth, and the interference of parents' excessive pampering on school education will make it difficult for school education to play its due role, and even lead to the waste of educational resources and the decline of educational effectiveness.
Parents should maintain appropriate pampering and guidance when educating their children. They can give their children enough attention and love, but they should not interfere and shelter them too much. Here are some things parents should be aware of:
1.Respect your child's independence and individuality: Every child is a unique individual with different interests and talents. Parents should respect their children's choices and opinions, give them the opportunity to think and make decisions independently, and provide appropriate guidance and support.
2.Cultivate children's self-confidence: Parents should encourage their children to actively participate in various activities, provide recognition and encouragement for their academic Xi achievements, and cultivate their self-confidence. At the same time, it is also important to teach children to persevere in the face of setbacks and failures and learn from them.
3.Establish a good family atmosphere: Family is the first classroom for children's growth, parents should pay attention to family education, and create a positive and healthy environment for their children's growth. Family members should respect, understand and support each other, and establish a good family communication atmosphere through active and effective communication.
4.Establish appropriate rules and discipline: Parents should educate their children to abide by rules and discipline and guide them to establish correct values and codes of conduct. At the same time, it is also necessary to learn to give children a moderate amount of autonomy at the right time, so that they can learn self-discipline and self-management.
5.Give children appropriate responsibilities and independent space: In family life, parents can appropriately give their children some housework and responsibilities, so that they can learn to deal with problems independently and take responsibility. At the same time, children should also be given a certain amount of independent space to think independently and solve problems.
6.Maintain good communication with the school: Parents should maintain good communication with the school, understand their child's performance and needs in the school, and actively cooperate with the school's educational work. Parents can participate in parent-teacher conferences and communicate with teachers to promote the all-round growth of their children.
7.Set the right example: Parents are role models for their children, and they should lead by example and set the right example. Parents should pay attention to their own words and deeds, cultivate good moral character and behavioral Xi, so that children can Xi and imitate from middle school.
In short, parents should pay attention to appropriate pampering and guidance when educating their children. They can give their children enough attention and love, but they should not interfere and shelter them too much. Help children grow up healthy and become independent and self-reliant by establishing a good family environment, cultivating their self-confidence, educating them to follow the rules, giving them appropriate responsibility and independent space, and maintaining good communication with the school.