We often hear comments like, "That person has such a high emotional intelligence!".”。However, many people have misconceptions about the term "emotional intelligence". They may only see it as a means when it comes to falling in love, however, the meaning of emotional intelligence is much more complex. Emotional intelligence, or "emotional intelligence," plays a crucial role in relationships, relationships with family and friends, and relationships between colleagues and bosses.
What we call intelligence quotient (IQ) usually refers to people's ability to learn and Xi, while emotional intelligence (EQ) symbolizes people's social skills and ability to handle various interpersonal relationships. If a person has low emotional intelligence in social communication, he will undoubtedly face more difficulties, since he will often anger others with his words and actions, even without knowing it. Especially in professional life, if three sentences are frequently on your lips, it is easy to arouse the disgust of others and put yourself in trouble. What are these three sentences?
First of all, these people with low emotional intelligence often say, "Who told you not to listen to me?".”。This sentence may seem harmless, but in fact it contains arrogance and self-righteousness. For those experiencing difficulties or setbacks, what they desperately need at this time is support and encouragement, not being ridiculed or scolded. If you say to them after they have been frustrated, "Who told you not to listen to me?".This is tantamount to adding fuel to the fire, which will only aggravate their suffering, and may also cause them to resent it. Therefore, we should learn to empathize with them and give them warm comfort instead of cold words.
The second high-frequency low EQ quote is: "What's my business". Many people, when faced with other people's requests or questions, whether out of indifference or evading responsibility, will Xi the habitual answer of "what concerns me". In fact, such a response is undoubtedly conveying a negative, selfish, and cold attitude. Even if something really doesn't concern you, we can respond to someone's request in a more positive and friendly way, such as making constructive suggestions or offering to help. In this way, we can not only avoid offending others, but also build good relationships.
Finally, the common low EQ quote is: "Don't worry about it". This statement, while frank, seems too cold and disrespectful. In life, everyone needs help and support from others. When others offer to help, we should welcome and thank them for their kindness, rather than rejecting or denying them with indifference. Even if we really don't need help from others, we should refuse with politeness and gratitude, rather than saying hurtful things.
Overall, IQ helps us acquire knowledge and understand the world, while EQ determines how we handle relationships and successfully survive and thrive in society. By avoiding these three low EQ quotes, we can better communicate with others and build good interpersonal relationships. At the same time, by improving our emotional intelligence, we can better understand and accept others, solve problems in interpersonal relationships more effectively, and thus gain broader life and career opportunities. In order to successfully "graduate" from the university of society, we must strive to improve our emotional intelligence.