In every aspect of our daily lives, we are inseparable from interacting and interacting with others. In this process, it is inevitable that there will be human exchanges. For example, borrowing money from others or giving gifts are very common phenomena in our lives. Especially in terms of gift-giving, housewarming, full moon wine, wedding banquets, white events and other occasions are important moments for us to express our emotions and pass on blessings. However, this is not to say that all gifts need to be given. As the saying goes: "There are 3 things you don't borrow money, and 3 things you don't follow when you give gifts." "When faced with other people's requests, we should not easily agree just because of good face, but learn to refuse at the right time. Otherwise, we may end up losing. So, what exactly does this refer to? Let's find out!
"Money has 3 do not borrow":
1. Do not borrow: Do not borrow from the untrustworthy.
In life, there are always such a part of people, when they need help to come to you to borrow money, they will promise to repay the loan on time. However, when the repayment deadline really comes, they will find all kinds of excuses to delay, or even directly lose contact and find no one. For this kind of person who has no credit, we must keep a clear head, because integrity is the basic criterion for a person's life. Most of these untrustworthy people have no bottom line at all, and when you have value to use, they treat you as a friend, and if you are at a low point, he will stay away from you. Therefore, for this kind of untrustworthy person, it is best to avoid having a lending relationship with him. After all, lending money to people who don't keep their promises is tantamount to making yourself unhappy.
2. Don't borrow: Don't borrow people you don't know.
We must be vigilant about the kind of people we just know and don't know very well to borrow money from you. Due to our limited familiarity with these individuals, we are unable to fully understand their character and credibility. If you lend them money easily, you will probably not get it back. And if this kind of person asks you to borrow money when he is not familiar with you, it means that he may be approaching you with some purpose. Therefore, for this kind of unfamiliar person, we should not lend him money easily, otherwise the money may not be returned.
3. Don't borrow: Don't borrow people with bad habits.
In life, there will also be some people with bad habits, such as alcoholism, gambling, drug abuse, and the like. These people spend their days loitering around and doing nothing. When we meet such a person, we should not lend him money. Because you lent him money, he will only spend it on some bad habits. They don't have the economy, and if you lend him money, most of the time you won't get it back. Therefore, when you meet someone with bad habits, don't lend money easily, after all, your money is also hard-earned.
"There are 3 gifts that do not follow":
Don't follow a gift: Don't follow a gift that can't be returned.
If we want to have a long-term relationship with people, then we must pay attention to courtesy and exchanges, and there are contacts to make the relationship last. However, there are some mavericks and different people in life. For example, if a relative or friend is running errands, then we need to be there in person, warmly congratulate, and give a gift. But when they came to our house to do errands, the relatives and friends who received the gifts did not return the gifts. For this kind of gift that can only be returned, then the next time they do something at home, we don't want to go with the gift, and we can directly refuse it euphemistically. When such a person associates with him, he will appear to be wronged.
2. No courtesy: No invitation to the courtesy.
Under normal circumstances, if the family needs to hold a banquet, they will invite relatives and friends to come to the banquet by distributing invitations, or **, text messages, and will also tell the invitees about the matter, place and time. And if we receive an invitation, we will send a gift based on the message. But if we don't receive an invitation and learn about it from someone else, we don't want to give money for such a gift. Because the owner didn't invite you, it means that he didn't plan you to go, whether you forgot, or don't want to have a relationship with you, we don't need to send it, it's always embarrassing to be uninvited, and others don't invite to go on the pole to send money, it's too shameless.
Three rites do not follow: the purpose of the impure rites do not follow.
In life, there are still some people who regard banquets and gifts as a business opportunity, no matter how big or small, they have to put on the banquet and invite others to come and give gifts. For example, I have seen on the Internet before, what kind of funny feasts such as sows giving birth, calves holding full moon wine, etc. But sometimes, when I receive such an invitation, I can't help but go because of the relationship between relatives and friends. But in fact, the proprietor just wants to collect money by receiving gifts. Therefore, there is no need for us to go to this kind of ritual with impure purpose, otherwise it will encourage the arrogance of others and make it even worse. If today's article is helpful to you, then click a follow, a like, and thank you for your support.