I wanted to update it earlier today, but because I went to see a friend, it was delayed until now.
This friend was just 40 years old when she divorced, she wanted to continue working in Beijing to earn money, and her ex-husband wanted to go back to his hometown to plant greenhouses, and the two had a big difference. After more than a year, it ended in divorce.
Only half a year after the divorce, she suddenly told me that she was getting married. A month before she remarried, we had dinner together, and she told me the details. The other party is 59 years old this year, has a rural household registration in Beijing, and his home has been demolished, and he has three apartments and more than 1 million yuan in savings. The two sons in the family are already married, have their own property, the man has a job and salary, and he will retire next year and will have a pension. It sounds like the conditions are good, but the age gap is a little bigger.
I looked into her smiling eyes and didn't dare to ask her if she would regret it. I just asked her if the families of both parties knew about it, and the man's children objected?She said that she knew everything, and the man's children had seen it. The family objected, but she wouldn't listen. A month later, on the day she got married and invited us to dinner, I happened to be on a business trip to Weihai and didn't see the man. Later, they were all WeChat contacts, and they basically never met.
The first two years of marriage were quite fine, the man's health was good, and he was not short of money, but my friend stopped working. After learning the car book and buying a lot of jewelry, the man knows her cold and hot, and she is quite satisfied. After the man retired, the two went out to play all day long, and they were very happy. And so it went on for five years.
Last year, the man fell ill and the situation took a turn for the worse.
She said that before they got the certificate, the man held a family meeting and said that they would have three houses, one small one for themselves, and one for each of their two sons with a similar area. 1.7 million yuan for demolition, 500,000 yuan for each of the two sons, 300,000 yuan for decoration and furniture, and the rest for their retirement. If the man dies before my friend, and the rest of the money and house belong to my friend, the sons will not be able to fight. If the old couple is sick and has less money, they will pay for it, and if they have more money, the child has to pay for the medical expenses. He also wrote a written "separation form", found relatives as witnesses, signed them, and each of the three parties held a copy.
It seems that the man is quite wise, so that the sons do not find fault, and my friend agrees. The next few years got along well, the children came back on weekends and New Year's holidays, my friend and her husband cooked and entertained, and the children were polite Aunt and grandmother called short, I think it's very good.
As a result, some time ago, the man suffered an acute cerebral hemorrhage, and his life was saved at that time, and the children also came. I was discharged from the hospital and went home to recuperate for less than a week, and I didn't save my life this time.
It stands to reason that the old man is gone, and after dealing with the aftermath, everyone lives in peace. When the child comes, he will entertain him, and if he doesn't come, he won't be picky, it's not a kiss. But after dealing with the old man's funeral, before she could transfer the house, two sons and daughters-in-law came to the house and asked my friend to move out, saying that the house belonged to their father and had nothing to do with my friend.
My friend mentioned that family meeting that year, and her two sons asked her to show documentary evidence, but she couldn't find any paper signed by several parties. It was obviously put in a drawer with the marriage certificate, but it was gone. Later, she guessed that it was the old man who let them take it away during his illness. She went to find the witnesses of the year, who were all relatives of his family, and did not admit to participating in their separation. At this point, my friend was dumbfounded. Then, her things were thrown out and she had to rent a house by herself!
The two sides are currently in a lawsuit. It stands to reason that the evidence is gone, and as a legal husband and wife, she can also get the corresponding share of the inheritance. However, in that area, the house is 90 square meters, tens of thousands of square meters. The two sons didn't want to give her a single one.
She regretted it, regretted that she didn't transfer the house to her name at that time, regretted that she was going to the old man's conditions, and she had been married for a few years in name only. In the end, she was fascinated because the old man was kind to her, and she didn't really have a long heart, so she ended up with such a result. I also regret that I haven't been back to my parents' house for a few years after my second marriage, I don't have contact, and now I don't even have a support, my biological child is still young, and I can't follow my father. I cried all morning, and I couldn't help, only comfort.
If she had found someone of a similar age at the time, maybe it wouldn't have been so troublesome. Always thinking about taking shortcuts, shortcuts also come at a price. People have no long-term worries, and she didn't expect this, so she was so passive.
I hope she can win the lawsuit and live a better life in the future!