Parent-child communication is both a skill and an art, and if it is handled well, the child will be close to himself
If you don't handle it well, you will run into walls everywhere, and your family will be restless.
In fact, parents and children need to be knowledgeable in communication, otherwise it will be counterproductive.
Talking to children is an art, parents need to be transparent and cognitive, in fact, children are born like a blank piece of paper, parents draw what children will learn from what they draw on paper, and communicating with children has become a university in today's society, parents need to learn.
1.Convince people with reason
In the process of growing up, children can judge right and wrong in their hearts, many times do something that adults do not understand, they will scold the child, and they will not communicate with the parents who can solve the problem in the center of the home.
In fact, children are a little naughty when they are young, we parents can guide correctly, to convince people, and reason with children, because they have their own independent ideas, we have to listen to them and not destroy them.
Put yourself in your child's shoes
When children are young, they like to play, especially boys, who often jump up and down, and often have falls and bleeds.
This kind of communication is what we call ineffective communication, and it will also make children have a rebellious mentality, in fact, parents should consider the problem from the perspective of their children, they like to play at this age, and we must be unhappy to stop them.
3.Treat your child as your friend
Friends will respect each other and take into account each other's ideas, so we might as well treat our children as best friends, talk to them about our hearts, let them let down their guard, listen to their children's thoughts more, and give your children more advice, respect, support and understanding.
In this way, the relationship between the child and the parents will get better and better, and any ideas will be communicated with the parents.
How to correct the attitude of educating children?
Revise your child's expectations
Sometimes parents are too eager to be good people, and they tend to take the standard that they can't do (maybe parents think they can do it, but they never do it!).Go ask the child. You must know that it is normal for children to be active, stubborn, and forgetful when they are young. If parents really want something from their children, they must also consider their children's growth and do not always hold a magnifying glass to see how their children are doing.
Be sincere with your child
Some parents always like to use a blaming or commanding tone when communicating with their children, which is often difficult for children to accept. Mr. Cheng believes that communication between parents and children should be sincere and there is no distance. Parents can be honest about their worries or emotions with their children, letting them know that their actions will make you sad or worried and afraid. As long as the tone is calm and the attitude is sincere, you will find that the child is very willing to be considerate of the parents!
Learn more about children
While busy making a living, parents must find time to understand their children more, communicate more with their children, nannies, and teachers, and try to fully grasp their children's performance in kindergarten and at home. The more you know, the less misunderstood. In this way, once the child is really disobedient, he will be able to better understand how to guide the child.
Educating children is like raising flowers, careful watering, fertilization, and care can be successful, but in fact, not everyone can raise flowers well, and if you don't know how to ask others for advice, learn the experience and art of raising flowers.
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