Harvard mom taught her daughter to chase only the first one .

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Goal There is such a girl, when she was young, because of her weak body, she fell behind in every physical education class running.

This made her very competitive and even afraid to go to physical education class.

At this time, the girl's mother comforted her, "It's okay, you are the youngest, you can run last."

However, child, you remember that next time your goal is:Only chase the first one

The little girl nodded, remembering her mother's words.

When she ran again, she struggled to catch up with her classmates in front of her. As a result, she surpassed the penultimate and exceeded the penultimate one.

III. The fourth ......

Before the end of the semester, her running performance was in the middle of the stream, and she was slowly enjoying physical education class. Next, mom putOnly chase the first oneThe concept is extended to her Xi, "If you have more than one classmate in each exam, then you are very amazing!"”

In this way, under the guidance and education of her mother's philosophy, the girl graduated from Peking University in 2001 and was admitted to Harvard University with a full scholarship, becoming the only Chinese undergraduate graduate admitted to the Harvard School of Education that year. She is Zhu Cheng!

In a word

Change a child's life

More and more Chinese children are getting more and more bored with Xi, not because they really hate Xi, but because they are disgusted by their parents' way of educating them.

And British parents never use forced means to let their children Xi, never say "you must do this question", or "don't eat if you can't get the top three" and other mandatory requirements.

Steven, a man from the United Kingdom, always lamented how much his father played a role in his upbringing.

Steven's mother was killed in a car accident when he was very young, and his father was very busy with his work, often working overtime or traveling.

He only saw his father once a week. This left Steven with more "freedom", and also created his mischievous and playful character.

Although his father was very busy with work, he did not ignore his son's Xi, and he would always find time to go to school to see how Steven was doing.

When the father learned that Stephen's Xi grades were at the upper middle level and he was a "manufacturable material", he talked to Steven once, and although they hadn't seen each other for a while, the father still wanted to give his son a cordial feeling.

"Dear Steven, we haven't talked for a long time, I just happen to be free today, how about we talk?”Seeing his father's kind attitude, Steven obediently sat down beside his father.

The father first touched his head and asked about some things in life, then held his hand and said:"Kid, Daddy doesn't have much time to pay attention to you, and it makes me feel guilty.

In terms of Xi, I think you are a motivated child, and the teacher also told me that you have good grades. As long as you use a little more dim sum, it is not difficult to go to a prestigious university in the future.

But DadIt's your body that cares about the most, pay attention to the combination of work and rest, don't tire out the body. ”

After listening to his father's words, Steven felt very guilty in his heart, but more importantly, he could feel that his father had absolute trust in him.

So, he secretly made up his mind: he must not live up to his father's trust and love, and he must not let his father down.

His father's encouragement proved to have worked well, and Steven is now an excellent student at Cambridge University.

A word can infect a person, affect a person, and even change a person.

Many children's lives may have taken a major turn because of a word from their parents.

Only chase the first one

The goals are small but concrete

Romain Rolland said:"The most terrible enemy in life is not having a clear goal. ”

Indeed, the goal is the dream you pursue, the expectation of success. When you lose your purpose, you lose your direction, you lose everything.

Japanese marathon runner unexpectedly won the world championshipReporters interviewed him about the reasons for winning the championship.

He said that before each race, I have to take the car to carefully look at the route of the race and draw the more eye-catching signs along the way, such as the first sign is a bank, the second sign is a big tree, and the first sign is a red house. This is done all the way to the end of the race.

As soon as the race started, I rushed to the first target at a speed of 100 meters, and when I reached the first target, I rushed to the second target at the same speed.

The more than 40-kilometer race was easily completed by me by breaking it down into these few small goals.

At first, I didn't understand this, I set my goal on the flag at the finish line more than 40 kilometers away, but I was exhausted by the dozen kilometers I had run, and I was intimidated by the long distance ahead.

The aforementioned Zhu Cheng was finally admitted to Harvard University because her mother asked her to work hard towards the goal of "chasing only the top one".

Through the dialogue with his son, Steven's father encouraged Steven, making Steven ashamed of what he had done before, and in order to live up to his father's expectations of himself, he made clear his goal of studying hard for Xi, and finally was admitted to Cambridge University.

It varies from person to person

Encourage education

The German educator Stowe said:"The essence of the art of teaching is not to impart skills, but to awaken, motivate and inspire. ”

Through the method of motivation, awakening and encouragement, students are educated, so as to achieve the ultimate goal of making students become talents and serving the society.

In many Chinese parents, there is often a scene like this: when the child happily holds the report card and says it loudly"Mom, I scored 80 points this time, which is 5 points higher than last time."

Chinese moms tend to say:"It's only 5 points higher, and you still have the face to shout, the little fat man next door scored 90 points this time, and you only scored 80 points, what is there to show off!”

This often greatly hurts the child's subjective initiative, making him feel that a 5-point improvement is nothing, and his parents will not pay attention to it, so he simply gives up on himself and allows his grades to decline Xi.

Of course, encouraging children to learn also needs to be XiIt varies from person to personSometimes it doesn't make sense with a single truth, and it should beSpecific problems are analyzed on a case-by-case basis

If your child is particularly naughty and playful, you as parents should take advantage of the situation.

For example, if your child is sweating profusely, you can say to him at the right time"Take a break, do your homework, and have more fun when you're done. ”

If the child's personality is comparedIntrovertedEvery day, as soon as school is over, you should encourage him to play with children more, so as to reduce the psychological burden brought by the pressure of Xi.

For example, after your child has finished his homework, you can say:"Now that your homework is done, you can go out and play with the kids for a while, relax your brain, and have more energy to learn Xi tomorrow!”

Every child's personality is differentSome children are impatient, while others are quiet.

Children with different personalities have different ways of educating them, and we need to guide them through their own development.