At a parent-school seminar, one parent asked: "In order to ensure the child's mental health, we constantly 'love' the child, take care of his emotions, and not let him be stimulated, so how do we let the child experience frustration?"The parent continued, "The frustration education I understand is not to spoil the child, give the child some criticism and punishment, and let the child suffer from snacks." ”
When it comes to "loving" their children and taking care of their children's emotions, the first thing parents think of is to do their best to create a "barrier-free" environment for their beloved children. This phenomenon of "thousands of pets in one" makes many parents worry about their children's future, but parents often disagree about what is frustration education, and just implement it according to their own understanding. Some parents use beating, scolding, punishment, neglect, closing the black room, and even humiliation as the "educational means" of frustration education. In the eyes of some parents, frustration education is to artificially set up obstacles for their children, compete with their children, let them admit defeat, and even "hit" their children by means of needle-point-to-wheat mang, hoping that through these ways, children can understand how to see rainbows without experiencing wind and rain.
What frustration education should do is only to return life to its original face, and let children understand that there are disobedience and bitterness in life. The role of parents is neither to pave a false smooth road for their children, nor to blindly create bumps in the road, but to accompany their children through his life path. Treat the child as a seed, give him a natural environment to grow in, neither too controlling nor too protective. In this sense, "frustration education" not only does not contradict "maintaining children's mental health", but is conducive to promoting children's psychological maturity. Therefore, it is not difficult to ensure the mental health of your child, just stick to one principle: if you are comfortable, your child will be happy.