Nowadays, many families have only children, and parents care for their children from daily life to school. However, as their children get older, most parents learn to give more freedom, but there are still some parents who still treat their children as small children, leading to some unusual behaviors.
In the summer after the college entrance examination, students usually choose to get a driver's license, which is their transition to college. Although the students at this time are adults and should be able to take care of themselves, some parents behave very strangely in the driving school class group, which is ridiculous.
Recently, there has been a trend called "parent group", and the content of the group is even a little unbelievable, just like some outrageous kindergarten teachers feel unbelievable when they see it.
When some students come home from driving lessons, their parents ask the driving school instructor strange questions via private message, such as, "Doesn't your driving school have a toilet?".My child said that he couldn't find the toilet and held it for 2 hours. The coach could only explain humbly, but the parents claimed that it was because their children were timid and hoped that the coach would take more care. Such a conversation looks like an exchange between parents of elementary school or kindergarten students, and it is hard to imagine that this is happening between driving school students.
If these students are perceived as introverts, it may be understandable for parents to advise them more, but if they treat their children as kindergarten children, the situation seems a bit odd, and even the coach is speechless.
For example, some parents have been straightforward in giving their coach all sorts of advice, including "reminding him to eat on time, eat plenty of vegetables, drink plenty of water," and so on. It should be noted that the trainees who learn to drive are all over 18 years old, as adults, this self-care ability is not enough?These parents behaved as if they were telling the kindergarten teacher, which was really laughable.
What's more, in order to appease parents and avoid causing trouble, the driving school instructor actually summarized the students' performance in detail in the parent group and reminded the parents one by one. The content of these reminders makes people laugh after watching them.
The coach mentioned some details to the parents, such as the son frequently asking the female student next door for WeChat, or exposing the child's illegal smoking, addiction to mobile phones while practicing driving, and other small things. These trivial things are presented in the driving school parent group, which makes people feel quite funny.
Some people may think that this is just an isolated phenomenon, and there are not many strange parents. However, the actual situation is often more cruel, and some netizens confirmed the content of the coach's complaints, because he has also experienced similar students.
A netizen complained that he once met a 23-year-old boy who was accompanied by his mother to learn to drive, and all the problems were communicated by the mother and the coach, and the mother's explanation was: "My baby is timid and doesn't like to talk much." "Is a 23-year-old still a baby?It's really hard for people to give a clear assessment of this.
There is nothing wrong with the careful care of students by parents, but it is also necessary to distinguish the occasion and do not behave in public. Students are of course the hearts and minds of parents, but excessive concern has gone beyond reasonable boundaries and is manifested in any occasion, which makes this so-called love seem more like an act of self-indulgence to outsiders.
The relationship between the driving school instructor and the student is ostensibly teacher-student, however, considering that the student is an adult, the instructor cannot cover every detail, just as a middle school teacher cannot supervise the student's drinking, eating apples, going to the toilet, etc.
As can be seen from the absurd demands of parents, there is a serious problem with homeschooling. Growing up in such an overly spoiled environment, students may not only develop character flaws but also fail to take care of themselves as well as they should, which may even have a negative impact on their future growth and progress. Therefore, parents should avoid always treating their students in the name of love, when in fact they may be harming them.
This kind of "giant baby" education not only makes it difficult for students to be self-reliant, but also has a deeper impact. These parents' requirements can be said to be a manifestation of doting, and even a category of "giant baby" education. This type of education not only exposes the ignorance of parents, but also may have many profound effects on students.
In this overly caring environment, many students become "stretched out for clothes and open their mouths for food", and even inferior to their peers in basic life skills. Parents should not take too much care of their students all the time, otherwise they may face great difficulties in adapting to university and the workplace in the future.
Lack of self-care skills is tolerable, but excessive attention from parents can be depressing. Some students may conform to this kind of excessive care, which leads to character development problems, and eventually becomes a "mother" who lacks assertiveness, which is detrimental to both career and marriage.
On the other hand, some students may develop a rebellious mentality in an environment where their parents are overly caring. Once free from their parents' bonds, they may go to the other extreme, with a strong desire to leave their parents, leading to a rift in the parent-child relationship. By the time parents want to make amends, it may be too late.
Therefore, the author believes that parents taking care of their students is certainly a sign of love, but they must learn to let go. As students grow, parents need to change their roles and positioning, and they cannot always treat students as children, let alone expect others to accommodate students like themselves.
Topic: What are your thoughts on this situation?