There is a saying on the Internet: "Extramarital affairs are like buying **, everyone knows how to start, but few people can end it safely." ”
Extramarital affairs, it's hard to break clean, this is the reality!
It's easy for a cheating man to start an extramarital affair, but it's hard to break it off completely.
There are many factors that pull a cheating man and make it impossible for him to make a reasonable choice, such as these three common reasons.
The first reason is that the cheating man doesn't want to break it, so he is forced to break it temporarily.
When it is broken, the cheating man's plan is to coax his wife, and she will continue to cheat if she is not in a hurry to divorce.
Many of your cheating men are not clean at all, but they don't want to break off with Xiao San at all.
It's just that for some reasons, such as the relationship of interest, you can't get a divorce, and you need to appease the original partner who wants to divorce.
The cheating man can only choose, temporarily play a big drama with the mistress and break off the relationship.
When the wives believe it and don't continue to divorce, the normal drama will be over.
Is the cheating man planning to cheat on his wife in his heart?
From some of his words and deeds, clues can be seen.
For example, a cheating man may constantly confirm with his wife that he and Xiao San broke up, and his wife will not divorce
Another example is that the cheating man will always hold on, and after the breakup, the wife will not do anything to the cheating man.
They need to make sure that they are acting and making concessions that are effective before they can continue to do so.
The second reason is that the junior is profitable, and the cheating man is unwilling to give up the benefits of running.
Now many juniors are completely different from what everyone saw before.
The juniors are no longer the kind of women who don't have much money, but they are very greedy, so they are juniors for money.
It's like a cheating man who only wants money, and the cheating man loses his mistress, which is not a loss.
The cheating man is found and faces the crisis of divorce, damage to interests, and damage to reputation.
They must have abandoned it decisively, and they didn't like Xiao San very much, so they chose to break the stop loss with Xiao San.
But the current juniors are different, some juniors don't want money, and they are even richer than cheating men.
Cheating men can get certain benefits from extramarital affairs.
and Xiao San had no choice but to break off, but when he thought of the benefits brought by Xiao San, he couldn't help but go to Xiao San.
Therefore, many men choose to actively entangle with the mistress, and many times it is driven by interests.
Because the cheating man lost the benefits brought by the mistress, the cheating man felt a pity.
Or the cheating man has a fluke mentality, thinking that as long as he is well disguised enough, he will not be found again.
As long as he is not discovered by his wife, there will be no more crises, and the benefits of the junior can also be enjoyed.
Cheating men are often greedy and want everything, and they are lucky enough to think that they can get everything
You have to wait until you lose everything before you really start to regret it.
The third reason is that the mistress has the handle of a cheating man, and he is afraid that he will not dare to break off with the mistress!
What many juniors are very good at doing is to get the handle of cheating men.
Maybe many wives don't have this mind, so even if they have been married for many years, they don't know what cheating men are afraid of.
And Xiao San is different, in order to prevent being abandoned, in order to be able to control some initiative.
They are with the mistress, and it doesn't take much time to be able to study the cheating man clearly.
Especially some of the handles of cheating men, Xiao San can hold them tightly.
Therefore, many cheating men are not unwilling to break off with Xiao San, but they dare not at all.
Xiao San felt that he did not get the benefits he wanted, and he did not want to give up the extramarital affair.
If the cheating man wants to break off, the mistress will threaten with a handle, and the cheating man will find a way to coax the mistress if he is afraid.
And why does this handle refuse to tell his wives about cheating men?
Because cheating men are also afraid, in case they tell their wives, and their wives will threaten him with this handle if they find out.
The cheating man has been threatened by the mistress, and it is inevitable that he will have some distrust of his wife.
Therefore, a cheating man will guard against his wife and dare not divorce his wife, but he also does not dare to tell his wife the handle and solve the extramarital affair together.
People's hearts are so complicated, money is afraid of wolves and tigers, and they want to solve everything, but they can't solve it.
The world is not a pure land, each has its own suffering, who does not sell their freedom and exchange it for firewood, rice, oil and salt, who does not take youth as a bargaining chip for the health of their parents.
For the original partner who was cheated, he also needs to take his emotions as his own, and change the child to have a complete home.
All living beings are suffering, and you can only cross yourself.
You need to see the cheating man clearly and understand some of the truth about the affair.
Then protect yourself and be able to fight back against those who hurt you.
If you don't want to be hurt, you have to have the momentum not to be hurt and the ability to fight back against others at any time.
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