As society progresses and develops, people's living standards have improved, and with it, increasing daily expenses, which further increases the economic burden. Parents say that education is the largest expense.
As the saying goes: "Poverty cannot be poor education, and hardship cannot be poor children." When it comes to children's education, parents are willing to provide for them at all costs as long as their children have the desire to learn and Xi. Although the cost of nine-year compulsory education is relatively low, the cost of high school, college and graduate school is also not negligible, and some people estimate that the expenditure basically reaches hundreds of thousands of yuan.
I spent 600,000 yuan for you to go to graduate school, but now you want to cut off relations with me?How much money does it take to train a student from kindergarten to graduate school?No matter how expensive it is, it is all worth it in the eyes of parents as long as the child can succeed.
At present, the popularity of postgraduate entrance examinations continues unabated, with the aim of improving competitiveness in the job market. This desire of the students coincides with the expectations of their parents. However, supporting a graduate student is indeed a huge financial burden for the average family. Most students are mainly "part-time graduate students", and the cost of living and Xi mainly depends on parental support.
Xiao Ang (pseudonym) is a graduate student, and although her family conditions are average, her parents firmly respect her choice. In order to supplement the family income, her mother even worked two jobs at the same time, often feeling exhausted. Xiao Ang lived up to expectations and successfully completed his graduate studies.
With a high degree of education, she is not only favored by employers, but also proud of her parents. Xiao Ang successfully found a good job after graduation, and originally hoped to be able to repay his parents for raising him through his own efforts, but because of his mother's words, he had the idea of severing the relationship between mother and daughter.
Regarding the matter of "Xiao Ang", the comments have a consistent tendency. People have speculated about what caused Xiao Ang to react so strongly, and even became dissatisfied with his parents. Xiao Ang's mother said with tears: "I spent 600,000 yuan for you to study in graduate school, but you want to sever the mother-daughter relationship." ”
In fact, the root of the problem lies in the fact that Ang's mother asked her to raise her brother, who was 12 years younger than herself, on the grounds that the family's money for her education had already been spent, and Ang could not accept this argument.
In terms of the original intention of giving birth to a younger brother, Xiao Ang once objected, firstly because of the poor economic conditions of the family, and secondly, because of the large age gap. However, the parents insisted that not having a son was a cut off the incense and insisted on having a son.
Regarding Xiaoang's matter, I thought that there would be two voices arguing, and netizens also expressed their opinions. Some people support Xiao Ang's decision, while others think that Xiao Ang is a "white-eyed wolf". Because her parents had already spent all their savings to help Xiao Ang finish graduate school, in their opinion, it was not too much to ask her to raise her younger brother.
Surprisingly, the voices in the comment section are tilted to one side. Most people are more inclined to support Ang's decision and consider her mother's patriarchal thinking to be undesirable. Xiao Ang can help raise his younger brother, but he is not obligated to take full responsibility.
If it is exactly what Xiao Ang's mother envisions, then Xiao Ang will become a person known as the "Brother Demon", who will not only be under great financial pressure, but may also be excluded from the marriage market in the future.
Some people think that supporting Xiao Ang to study is a kind of bet made by the mother, and seeing her daughter's excellent decision, she supports her to go to graduate school to ensure that her old age and her son's life are guaranteed. This is obviously not a wise statement, most parents love their children selflessly, and they do not have the idea of asking for it from their children in the first place.
If parents really have a patriarchal mentality, it is a mistake of principle, and it must be understood that such thinking can have a serious impact on children.
What are the negative effects of parents with "patriarchal" thinking on their children?There is a patriarchal mentality, and it is difficult for parents to provide high-quality home education for their children. Parents' thoughts subtly influence their behavior, and it is difficult for children who grow up in such a family environment to develop excellent qualities, and may even affect their future development.
There is a patriarchal mentality that can lead to a child feeling inferior. If parents focus most of their attention on their son and neglect to care for their daughter, their daughter may feel inferior due to her lack of self-confidence. In school and society, she may not be able to express herself, and may even be ridiculed and isolated by her classmates, triggering bullying incidents in school.
Parents are the most trusted people in their children and play a key role in their children's development. Although the state now advocates having two or three children, parents must ensure that a bowl of water is level to avoid serious effects on their children's physical and mental development.
Finally, it is not wrong for individual differences to cause different people to think differently, but it is important to be realistic and abandon outdated patriarchal thinking. There is no scientific basis for not having a son. Descendants should improve the quality of life of their parents in their later years with their own abilities, and the best descendants are those who have filial piety and love.
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