In Qian Zhongshu's book "The Siege of the City", there is a sobering saying: "Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city want to enter, and people in the city want to come out." ”
This sentence sums up the essence of marriage very well and understands the true meaning of marriage.
When you are in love, you are in love, like glue, and it is difficult to give up;When you are newly married, the candles in the cave room, you and I are very happy;After giving birth to children, firewood, rice, oil and salt are as plain as water, and passion is no longer there.
At this time, some couples can tolerate each other and have a stable marriage and familySome couples do not agree on the three views, dislike each other, and have different dreams in the same bed;Some couples can't stand the **, and they are in Cao Ying's heart in Han.
When the conflict between husband and wife is irreconcilable, there is only one way to divorce and break up.
On December 3, a netizen in Shanxi recorded a middle-aged woman and her husband wiping tears when they were queuing up for divorce procedures at the Civil Affairs Bureau. It's really emotional, and it's embarrassing.
In front of the service window of the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce procedures, there is a group of couples who have come to go through the divorce procedures.
Among them, a middle-aged woman who was waiting in line for divorce procedures kept wiping her hand with tears on her face!
Looking at her expression, she looks lonely, helpless, painful and sad!
Maybe she didn't expect that when people reach middle age, they will come to the point of divorce!
Maybe she's thinking, why is her life so hard, she is getting old, and a good family is scattered like this!
Maybe she was deeply hurt and had to go to the step of divorce!
According to common sense, for a middle-aged woman, she will generally not go to the step of divorce unless she has to do so.
Because, a woman of this age is no longer young, and if she does not have independent financial ability, her future life is also worrying.
Because, the divorce of a woman of this age, in most cases, is destined to be a tragedy for herself, destined to be an incomplete ending.
Nowadays, although divorce is nothing new, people have long been Xi to it, and they feel that it is not a big deal.
However, divorce is not a good thing after all, let alone a happy event. Even if the husband and wife break up happily, the result can only be regarded as a tragedy.
Because, when divorcing, one party will definitely fail the other. The original promised alliance, the original promise of growing old together, and the original agreement to hold hands for a lifetime, at this moment, have all become lies, lies and duplicity, and go with the wind.
Someone was puzzled and said that this middle-aged woman had already come to go through the divorce procedures, why was she still crying so sadly?Isn't it a good thing to leave a negative man?
is not an insider, no matter what is right and wrong. If you are not a person in authority or a person in question, you have not experienced what others have experienced, so don't talk about right and wrong. Because, you don't know what is right and wrong.
is about to go through the divorce procedures, and after this divorce, she will legally cut off all relations with her husband, and she will become the most familiar stranger!Not only is there no love, but there is no even family affection!
At this moment, she may have thought that most of her life's hard work and dedication have consumed her hard work and exhausted her youth. So far, except for this divorce certificate, I have nothing left!
Think about it, how can this situation not make her secretly sad and cry!How could you not let her chill and disappoint!
In her tears, there is too much helplessness, too much sadness, and too much reluctance
Some people say: As long as a man's body does not die, his heart will not be at peace.
Divorce at this age, most of them are men cheating. In this case, which original wife can stand it?
When it comes to divorce, the husband and wife must no longer have feelings. It's better to get rid of each other and start over!
Some people say: The greatest sorrow of women is to live in fairy tales, and the biggest mistake of men is always to think that Lao Tzu is the best in the world!
As a woman, when you get married, you should also think about yourself, and you must also beware of your husband's ingratitude. As a man, don't always think that you are amazing, you have abandoned your bad wife now, and when you regret it, you will not be able to buy regret medicine.
Yan Shu, a famous lyricist in the Northern Song Dynasty, wrote in the word "Huanxi Sha has always been young and limited": "Falling flowers and wind and rain hurt spring even more, it is better to pity the people in front of you." ”
Because, the next one is not necessarily better than the current one, there will always be flaws. Becoming a husband and wife is a kind of fate, and we should cherish this hard-won relationship with each other, and don't know how to cherish it if we don't lose it. Life, ordinary is true.
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