Marriage is like a ship sailing on the sea, whether it derails or works normally depends on the ship's navigator.
Husband and wife are the helmsmen of the ship, and in marriage, the way two people interact and treat each other often determines the happiness of the marriage.
When I entered marriage, my original intention was to hope to grow old with the same person, but it is easy to fall in love, but it is not easy to stay together.
To make the relationship better and better for couples, there must be three initiatives when getting along, and the more active they are, the deeper the relationship.
First, take the initiative to communicate and don't hide what you have to say.
My cousin told me that I was with my cousin's wife for a while, and the idea of divorce was particularly strong because the two of us were always indifferent and ignored each other.
My cousin is the kind of person who is more optimistic, likes to joke, and when my cousin is unhappy or doesn't speak, she will try her best to pave the steps for the other party to bear, but my cousin is always expressionless and unwilling to make peace with my cousin.
My cousin felt very tired, and guessed that the other party was even more tired.
Bill Kibbe said
It is said that when two people are together, it is easy to have a heart, but this tacit understanding does not mean that all the thoughts in a person's heart can be read by the other party.
Therefore, in the relationship, the most taboo is to exchange ideas, rather than letting the other party guess their own thoughts, taking the initiative to say something is to make the relationship better and better.
Second, take the initiative to share, you can pay in both directions.
My sister went to her boyfriend's house for dinner and broke up with him when she came back.
It turned out that I needed to cook a lot of dishes in order to entertain my sister, and my boyfriend's mom and mom were too busy to come over, while her boyfriend's dad was sitting on the couch leisurely playing with his mobile phone, with no intention of helping at all.
My sister couldn't stand it and wanted to help, but her boyfriend blocked it, saying that the kitchen should be my mother's business, not only did she not help, but she also didn't let her sister help.
My younger sister feels that she may become a housewife who is taken for granted by her boyfriend in the future, and she is a little scared.
Running a relationship requires a two-way street, and if the roles of both parties are unbalanced, the person who always gives will sooner or later feel wronged, and then become disappointed in the relationship and don't want to continue to be silent.
A marriage of good fortune is definitely not one person who pays and the other enjoys, but the husband and wife will take the initiative to share each other's pressure and responsibilities, and both become the protagonists in the relationship.
3.Express yourself and let the love flow.
Euripides said:
When love is expressed, a person who feels the other person's genuine care will be touched and will give the same love.
In the beginning of winter, it was very cold, and when I rode to the studio, I always had a headache from the wind, so I walked to work.
But walking to and from work was time-consuming, and I was still on my way home every time I had dinner.
When my husband came to pick me up, I refused, telling him that I would rather walk to work than ride a bike because of my health.
The next morning, when he went out to work, he drove away, and he said that in order not to let me get cold, he decided to drive my car to pick me up and go back to work.
In this way, people really enjoy and can feel that they love each other deeply, so I have to work harder to give him a better wife.
Marriage needs feelings to pave the way, and in a lucky marriage, two people will take the initiative to express their love to each other, so that each other feels loved and cared for.