Married life is like a big dye vat, and if you put a simple-minded person in it, it will become unrecognizable.
Because marriage is, to put it bluntly, a social relationship of doing business, but the people around you who deal with you call your relatives by name.
The relationship between people is too tenacious, just like a rope without elasticity is easy to break;A really smart woman, when managing a marriage, knows how to stretch and resolutely does not fight a two-sided battle, the more she does not fight, the better.
Don't argue with your husband about right or wrong, discuss everything.
After marriage, she and her husband went to Sanya for their honeymoon.
Since we were traveling independently without a guide, we had a big disagreement on the road to a tourist attraction. He insisted that the left was the right, while I insisted that the right should be the entrance to the next attraction.
The two of us stood in front of the sign and argued, neither of us let anyone, and I felt very lost at that moment.
It seems that the man in front of me doesn't love himself anymore, he suddenly feels bored, and casually admits that he is right, but he didn't expect this kind of admission to make his attitude soften, and he is willing to accompany me to try and make mistakes.
Even if two people have the same heart, when they are together, there will be differences.
Because everyone treats the same thing differently, it is an extension of their own upbringing and life experience, there is no right or wrong, just different.
Therefore, aware of the differences between each other, a wise woman will never openly confront her husband, but will clearly recognize the gap between the two, and will be willing to consider the problem from her husband's point of view and discuss the best answer together.
Not arguing about right and wrong can reduce disputes in the relationship, and if there are fewer disputes, the relationship will not be affected.
Second, don't get into arguments with your mother-in-law and respect each other's boundaries.
Many sisters asked me if I had any problems with my mother-in-law.
I admit that every day with my husband, there are still endless conflicts that need to be resolved, and it is all too normal for mothers-in-law to have conflicts between them. My disagreement with my mother-in-law was mainly over parenting.
My mother-in-law likes to use her older generation of parenting concepts. Although I am a first-time mother and have no mature experience, I have learned a lot of parenting courses compared to the old parenting concepts, and the parenting concepts and methods are relatively new.
The reason for not being paradoxical is that I am not involved in my mother-in-law's way of upbringing.
I know we have different backgrounds in life, so I don't expect her to do exactly what I want.
Let a person do things by himself, or work freely, will not have too high requirements for the other party, otherwise, there will inevitably be contradictions.
After marriage, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is one of the trickier relationships in marriage, and if it is not handled well, it will even affect the sweetness of the relationship between husband and wife, so it cannot be ignored.
Instead of arguing, everything has to be fought with the mother-in-law, it is better to accept the difference between the other party and yourself, keep the boundaries of getting along, and don't interfere.
In a relationship, if you always want to win or lose, it is actually impossible to separate.
If you win and lose the heart of your partner or in-laws, making the relationship between the two parties more and more strained, and there is no way to get along, in the marriage, you are a complete loser.
In the same way, if you lose, you will also lose faith in your marriage, as well as trust in your in-laws, your relationship will still become a sword of a crossbow, and the family will become messy and unhappy.
It's better to give up than to fail.
Giving in does not mean that there is no bottom line for others to bully you, but it is to be aware of the cognitive gap between people, everyone lives in their own value system, and we cannot change the choice of respect.
Do a good job of categorizing, do what you have to do, and let other people's ideas and opinions drift with the flow.