A Zen master once said, "There are three realms in life: to see the mountain is the mountain, and to see the water is the water."Look at the mountains are not mountains, look at the water is not water;Mountains are still mountains, water is still water. ”
This kind of truth is also feasible in looking at the ugly things of others, whether it is true or false, whether it is honest or calculating.
A person's attitude to a scandal is his level.
High-level people know that ugliness can be changed.
No one is perfect", in this world, no one is perfect.
The mutilated places, no matter how you look at them, are ugly. But you can't. You can't hide.
Therefore, high-level people should take positive action against their own shortcomings.
With a strong repair ability, to change yourself, although it is not perfect, but a positive attitude towards life, will definitely come out.
Even things that used to be negative energy will be full of positive energy after change.
First of all, take the initiative to admit your ugliness and know yourself.
Many people are afraid to face their scars, especially those on their faces. Even a birthmark on your face will make you bow your head.
I've seen women cover their faces with long hair because they have scars or birthmarks. I've seen people who, in middle age, have no hair on the top of their heads, and they cover the top of their heads with hair on the sides.
It's okay for a truly confident person to show his ugly face. After all, truth trumps everything.
Lu Mengzheng, the prime minister of the Northern Song Dynasty, served as prime minister three times.
One day, his son said to him, "When you are prime minister, you can keep one side stable, but you are too incompetent." You always delegate authority to your colleagues.
Lu Mengzheng said: "I don't hold power alone, and I am often bullied and refuted by my colleagues, which shows that I can use people and understand people." ”
In daily life, Lumon carries a notebook with him to record the words and deeds of the ** around him, and uses this as the basis for judging personality and ability. Therefore, he is very good at recommending people.
Song Taizong said: "The number of Meng Zhengqi is not as good as mine. ”
Others laugh at you, which is exactly what you need to be positive about. After many observations and actively inviting others to correct them, the social atmosphere has changed, and the impression of others on you has also changed.
Secondly, actively change the ugly, there is no better.
As the saying goes, "If you know your mistakes, you can correct them." ”
If there is an ugly place, correct it again, or be a good person.
The painter Feng Zikai painted two sheep, holding two ropes, which is very vivid.
When an old farmer saw this painting, he smiled and said, "Herding sheep, as long as you lead the sheep, the other sheep will follow." ”
Feng Zikai suddenly realized, immediately worshipped the old farmer as a teacher, and then spent a period of time tracking the life of sheep.
Later, Feng Zikai only used a rope to draw sheep.
If a person is ugly and has experienced the guidance of others, and you have truly accepted it, then you have your own thoughts. Never turn down someone else's advice for fear of being discovered.
The high level of people means that their posture is low. That way people will be willing to help you, and you will be able to fit in and grow.
Low-level people exchange ugliness for beauty.
People are not afraid of ugliness, but of "stubbornness".
In Pu Songling's "Rosha", people regard ugliness as beauty, and the person with three nostrils is named the prime minister.
Maggie, a handsome young man, is considered a monster.
Gu Zhang Fei was forced to play Ma Ji to curry favor with everyone and get an official position.
But after beating Zhang Fei for too long, Maggie found that he had lost himself. As a result, Maggie lost Zhang Fei's mask and left the rakshasa.
Maggie is a reasonable person, but the people of Loshari are still ugly and always think they did the right thing.
First of all, for those who hide the ugliness, there is no silver here.
Put the ugly east **, no one can say. Therefore, I think everything is right. This is the tragedy of self-righteousness.
The snake doesn't know that it's poisonous, it doesn't know it's wrong. In the long run, people are socially ostracized.
It's like a tramp. It stinks and everyone avoids it.
During the Han Ling period, Cui Lie spent five million dollars to buy Situ's seat.
People laughed at Cui Lie: "This official is full of copper smell." ”
When Cui Wo heard this, he chased after others angrily.
Later, everyone stopped talking about Cui Lie's position, but everyone laughed in their hearts.
Low-level people only care about the happiness on the surface, but ignore the ugliness in the heart.
With beautiful clothes, you can hide the ugly body, but you can never hide the ugly soul.
Second, those who make ugly things are shameless.
There are also people who deliberately create scandals in order to improve their reputation.
Ah, the image, the fame, there is a big difference between the two, how can it not be different?
During the reign of Wu Zetian, General Wu Yizong led his army to Jizhou to resist the Khitan army.
The Khitan army charged, and Wuyizong fled in a hurry. Fortunately, the other generals were brave and defeated the Khitans.
Later, a celebration banquet was held in the palace, and Wu Yizong swaggered to attend the meeting, and also boasted of his merits.
Some ministers joked that he was a "pig", and he didn't take it seriously.
It turns out that "no one is perfect, and the world is invincible".
Low-level people, always go to extremes, or that's it - I'm ugly, who am I afraid of;After that, I'm uglier ;Or - I'm ugly, and if you don't say it, say I'll be rude to you.
Ugly people, do not correct themselves, do not interfere with others, laugh it off;When it comes to the interests of others, they are crushed and even brought to justice.