Mo Yan: People have four things not to say, not to talk about their goals, not to talk about their money, not to talk about their own family affairs, not to say their mistakes, keep these four secrets, avoid disasters, and far from right and wrong.
Mo Yan, a famous contemporary Chinese writer, has won wide acclaim in the world literary circle for his unique literary style and profound social insight. He once put forward the view that "people have four things not to say", that is, they don't talk about their goals, don't talk about their money, don't talk about their own family affairs, and don't talk about their mistakes. There is profound wisdom behind this view that guides us to keep these four secrets in order to avoid calamity and to stay away from right and wrong.
1. Don't talk about your goals.
Everyone has their own goals and pursuits, but not all of them can be easily achieved. Revealing one's goals to others can be unnecessarily stressful and distressing. First, the expectations of others may influence your actions and decisions. In order to meet the expectations of others, you may change your original intention and deviate from your original goal. Secondly, it takes time and effort to achieve the goal, and setbacks and difficulties in the process are inevitable. If you reveal your goals too early, you may feel shameless in front of others when you encounter difficulties, which will increase your inner stress.
Therefore, it is wise to remain silent about your goals. In the pursuit of our goals, we should focus on our own efforts and growth, rather than focusing too much on the opinions of others. When we succeed in achieving our goals, the joy and sense of accomplishment will naturally overflow;If we don't get our way, we can face it calmly because we have done our best.
2. Don't talk about your money.
Money is an important part of people's lives, but talking about one's money often causes jealousy, speculation, and distrust in others. First of all, money is a person's private property, and talking about it too much can lead to covetousness and greed in others. Second, everyone's economic situation and income level are different, and showing off one's wealth too much may cause resentment and comparison psychology from others.
Therefore, we should avoid talking too much about our money. In our dealings with others, we should respect the privacy and dignity of others and not ask or discuss their financial situation. At the same time, we should also learn to maintain a moderate consumption concept and financial management ability to avoid unnecessary waste and waste of other people's time.
3. Don't talk about your own family affairs.
Family is a safe haven and warm haven for everyone, but family matters often involve personal privacy and affection. Talking too much about your family affairs can expose your weaknesses and trigger speculation and misunderstandings in others. First of all, family matters often involve personal privacy and emotion, and talking too much about it can be upsetting or hurtful for family members. Secondly, the handling of family affairs requires skill and wisdom, and if it is too flamboyant or exaggerated, it may cause misunderstanding or ridicule from others.
Therefore, we should learn to keep our family affairs a secret. In our dealings with others, we should respect the privacy and dignity of others and not talk about or discuss too many family matters. At the same time, we should also learn to properly handle problems and conflicts in family affairs in order to maintain family harmony and happiness.
Fourth, don't say that you are wrong.
Everyone makes mistakes, but acknowledging mistakes and learning from them is an important process of growth. However, talking too much about your mistakes can make you feel inferior, frustrated, or lose confidence. First of all, it takes courage and determination to admit mistakes, and talking too much about it can lead to an inferiority complex that you can't extricate yourself from. Secondly, the wrong thing often involves personal image and credibility issues, and talking about it too much may damage your image in the minds of others.
Therefore, we should learn to admit our mistakes and learn from them. In our dealings with others, we should maintain a humble and honest attitude and not avoid or deny our mistakes. At the same time, we should also learn from our mistakes, keep improving ourselves and look forward. This is the only way to truly grow and avoid repeating mistakes.
To sum up, the view that "people have four don't say" reminds us to keep four secrets: don't talk about our goals, don't talk about our money, don't talk about our family affairs, and don't talk about our mistakes. There's a lot of wisdom behind these four secrets: keeping a low profile, respecting the privacy of others, maintaining family harmony, and having the courage to admit mistakes and learn from them. Following these principles will help us avoid calamity, distance ourselves from right and wrong, and move towards a more mature and wise path in life.