Read a sentence from Teacher Chen Guo: "Make friends because you love him." "If you love him, don't make trouble for him, don't let him worry too much about himself. ”
When I was younger, I always thought that if you messed with a tall guy, he would pull and you would be able to roll over.
Of course, it also troubles many people, but the probability of success is not high, and most of them get nothing.
As they grow older, they also have certain achievements, and when relatives and friends come to annoy them, they suddenly feel that it is "annoying".
I slowly realized a truth, relatives and friends have a good relationship, don't trouble each other.
Relationships that are too difficult are unlikely to last.
Xu Wenchang, a scholar in the Ming Dynasty, was not proud of officialdom, so he indulged in landscapes.
Once, he stayed at a friend's house for a few days, and he couldn't go far because it was raining outside.
Just as he was hesitating to leave, he saw a note on the table: "If it rains, I won't stay." ”
To stay or not to stay?The answer is uncertain, but the atmosphere of resentment is certainly there.
During the Warring States period, Zhuangzi and Keiko were good friends and often argued.
When they were playing in Hao Liang, they had a philosophy because of a fish.
Keiko said, "My son is not a fish, and do you know the joy of fish?"”
Zhuangzi said: "The son is not me, does Ann know that I don't know the happiness of fish?".”
After the quarrel, the relationship between the two became better and better.
Keiko went to Liang to do Xiangguo, and Zhuangzi planned to visit.
There were rumors on the street that Zhuangzi would replace Keiko and ascend to the position of prime minister.
In order to maintain his position, Keiko sent people to round up Zhuangzi.
Shoko hid from Keiko for three days before seeing her.
Zhuangzi said angrily: "Do you want to use your Liang State to scare me today?".”
Surprisingly, it's impossible for people who revolve around their interests to become friends.
Keiko went out, followed by a lot of guards. When Zhuangzi saw this, he was so frightened that he threw the fish in his hand and hid it.
The troubles in real life are far more than the troubles of being a guest and competing for position, as well as borrowing money, cooperation, future arrangements, social circles, and WeChat chats. There's a lot of trouble.
The most difficult thing is probably "talking about money".
Relatives and friends borrow money from you, or let you invest, and if you don't agree, you will ruin your face, and if you agree, you will ruin your own life.
One of my neighbors, at the end of the 90s, borrowed a lot of money from relatives to grow an orchard, but he lost money.
Relatives and friends came to collect debts, and neighbors had to sell their houses and pay some money back. Then he changed to *** and went out of the city.
Some say he's idle, others say he's desperate.
When the neighbors reappeared, they were already small bosses, and those who wanted to borrow money, and they were not in a hurry, and they also wanted to go to work in the neighbor's small factory.
Anytime you have illusions about others, then your own troubles will come. Asking for help may not be worth the cost;Maybe it's nothing, but I'll never forget it.
Being asked for help may be difficult to complete, or it may be rejected and you are embarrassed;Maybe the money was lent out and I couldn't get it back.
In this life, people need to add bricks and tiles, but they really hate "trouble".
Being separated from friends and family means that you are beginning to mature.
The length of life is limited, with more worries and less freedom;More worries, less happiness;More human, more confused, less relaxed.
So, smart people, let those who are separated separate, let those who meet meet.
Try to live your life and don't get in the way of others.
On Zhihu, a netizen named "Da Meng" said that when he lived in his hometown of Xuzhou, there was a girl in the neighborhood.
Two people can play together and grow together.
Later, the girl's family owed a lot of money, sold the house, and went to live in Lianyungang.
On the day of parting, the girl was afraid that the creditor would find her, so she opened the back door of her house and had a good chat.
But Dayeol didn't see the message in time and missed the opportunity to say goodbye.
Calling for surveillance, Dalie found that the girl was lingering at the back door for a long time, and waved helplessly to the surveillance. Through **, you can find the girl's loss.
Years later, Da Meng contacted the girl again and wanted to catch up.
The girl replied, "Take good care of my sister-in-law, my children, and I am also married."
All the grievances have disappeared, and it is better to miss each other.
We are worried that if we miss it, it will be for life. Every time you say goodbye, be careful. Every hug, a little more time, hold on to the truth.
But we can never stop in time – green bananas, red cherries.
It's spring every year, but this spring, not that spring.
When you're separated from friends and family, you can truly walk alone and be brave enough to be yourself.
When you are no longer dependent on anyone, you really have strength, at least a strong heart.
In addition, not bothering others is the consciousness that every middle-aged person should have.
When people reach middle age, everyone is difficult, and you always feel sorry for causing trouble to others. It looked like he was forcing me.
People who are willing to help you will naturally help you, and it's a simple task. Deliberately helping you, mainly to figure out what interests you have, not to simply bother you.
* Farewell, don't even say hello, get used to it and rest assured.
What kind of relationship is the best?
Take care of yourself, don't bother others, relatives and friends are at ease with you, that's another kind of "love for each other".
Refuse the trouble given to you by relatives and friends, and for a while, the other party will be sad, but they will gradually become independent and learn to be strong from then on.
If you're capable, then you can do the same – get closer when friends and relatives are in trouble;When friends and family are happy, go farther.