Waiting is the most draining, because you don't know where the end is, and you don't know what the final result will be.
But in the field of love, there is often such a wait, so that you can give your sincerity, but you can't get it.
People who can't wait for a reply, who are easily frustrated, can't help but think that it's not that the other party doesn't love enough, but that all the news is not worth mentioning.
In fact, not all non-contact is not love, and men do not contact you, which is such a psychology.
I didn't think clearly about our relationship.
Reader Qingqing told me that they liked a man, but found his attitude strange.
I think I like myself, but I don't reach out to her;Qingqing admonishes herself not to be sentimental, but when getting along with men, the other party's attitude can easily make Qingqing misunderstood.
Every time they meet, Qingqing can feel a man's special relationship with her, even if he doesn't say anything suggestive, but he shows hospitality and is not fooled at all, Qingqing doesn't even have a man's attitude towards her whether it's bad or bad.
I suggested that Qingqing take the initiative to confess and try, but I didn't expect it to be successful.
It turned out that this man had always liked Midori, but he broke up with the former soon after, and he didn't know if he liked Midori or wanted to get rid of loneliness, so he didn't dare to take the initiative.
In some people's perceptions, it is logical to do anything, even in love, and if you want to contact you, you need to convince yourself that contacting you should happen.
Second, fear of rejection and reluctance to take the initiative.
After graduating, I want to go my own way, and I suddenly receive a confession from a male classmate in my class.
I was a little curious and asked him why he didn't come earlier, the confession of graduation was destined to be fruitless, which was equivalent to a confession of love.
The boy told me that when he was in school, he didn't dare to take the initiative to confess to me, for fear that his love would not be reciprocated, that he would not dare to look up at him, or even that he would not dare to be friends.
However, they all graduated, and if they didn't say something, they wouldn't have a chance.
Even if you are rejected, you are not so afraid, confession means goodbye, it is equal to saying goodbye, after being rejected, you will never meet again, and you don't need to think about it.
In fact, it takes courage to admit that you love someone, and when you fall in love with someone, what you can determine is your own mind, and what you can't determine is the other person's mind, and seeking certainty in uncertainty is a kind of adventure in itself.
If you are afraid that the result is not what you want, simply do not face the way of self-deception, but have peace of mind.
Don't want to take the initiative, waiting for you to take the initiative.
I read a short paragraph**:
The man and the woman met while reading a book in a coffee shop. They chatted happily the first time they met, and they added each other's ***
When she got home, the woman received an invitation message from the man in anticipation, only to open her phone for several days and her inbox was silent.
Women want to take the initiative to ask men what they are doing, they want to take the initiative first, and they are afraid that men will joke, so they have to keep all their emotions in their hearts and endure them silently.
Until they tossed and turned and missed each other for a month, they finally met tacitly in the café.
This meeting, like an old friend for many years, the woman couldn't help it and joked that the man didn't remember him.
Men don't want to suppress their feelings, they blurt out, they don't take the initiative but don't dare to take the initiative. At that moment, the door of love was opened.
In fact, in love, men are sometimes like cowards, afraid to take the initiative, afraid of recklessness and slightly inappropriate behavior, which will completely destroy the relationship with each other, so they take the initiative to give up the "initiative".
In fact, love is not absolute, and if a man ignores you, he may not necessarily love.
There is no way to guess how complicated a person's heart is, and people who love you will not contact you.