Are you also distressed, why do couples who have been together for so many years suddenly don't know how to get along now?
After so many years of marriage, you are becoming more and more uncertain about the men around you, and it feels like the distance between you is getting farther and farther away.
It is normal to have such confusion because even couples who have been together for decades may not have found the right way to get along.
As a result, the man who felt that he didn't understand himself more and more began to panic.
In fact, only this kind of married life is the easiest for men to eat, but many women don't understand it.
1.If you're not sure, you should never assume it.
The most important thing between husband and wife is not love, but trust and tacit understanding. If you lose these two things, no matter how much effort a woman puts in, she can't change a man's heart.
In general, there are very few couples who do not have an emotional foundation, so the man is happy with his wife at first, but why does the marriage become unsatisfactory.
This is because many women, after becoming wives, may be too afraid of losing the happiness they have, so they always suspect that men have something that they don't have.
As a result, marriage is even more helpless for a man, no matter how he explains it, the people around him will always have various reasons to doubt him.
And the most unbearable thing for a man is a rumor about a woman, obviously he didn't do anything, obviously he was working hard for the family, but his wife didn't want to believe herself.
A wise woman does not make such a mistake and does not show any dissatisfaction in front of a man without evidence, even if she has doubts about some of the man's actions.
Sometimes, turning a blind eye can clear up a lot of unnecessary misunderstandings and not hurt the feelings between men.
A man likes a woman who trusts him like this, and he also values the tacit understanding between a woman and him, and will not be easily calculated by rumors from the outside world.
When you need a man's help, don't be reckless.
Even if you're married, do you still like to do everything yourself?
If you really think so, it means that you don't understand marriage at all, since everything can be solved by yourself, then what kind of existence is a man to you, why should you enter marriage?
You always have to understand that if a woman can't confidently and boldly rely on a man, it's a great shame for a man.
Marriage is not only a legal companionship between a man and a woman, but also a place to be able to rely on each other in times of need.
For a man, if his wife is independent, has nothing to help him with, and nothing to ask him to interfere with, the man will have a great sense of frustration.
He will feel in your heart that he is a waste, you don't want to rely on him, you don't want to trust him.
Such a couple, even if your original intentions are good, you don't want to put too much pressure on the man and become a burden to the man, but the man will not think so.
He will only feel that you don't need him, that he is useless to you, and that he will divert his attention in order to realize his worth.
Therefore, if you want to eat a man, don't be afraid to trouble a man, let a man be your right-hand man, it is not a drag on him, but an affirmation and dependence on him, and it is too late for a man to be happy.
Number 3 has both the power to share happiness and the ability to share pain.
As the saying goes, husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and when disaster strikes, they are separated. This may apply to some couples, but it is not representative of all couples.
To be honest, even if the relationship is very ordinary, after being together for a long time, they will not give up on each other easily, this is human nature.
As a woman, you can not only have the strength to share with men, but not the ability to share pain with men.
Most people's lives cannot be smooth sailing, nor can they live a lifetime of glory and wealth, they will always experience hardships, which is the most testing of human nature.
When a man suffers, if you don't abandon a man or even use your own ability to help a man get through it, then your position in the man's heart is irreplaceable by anyone.
But if you can only accompany a man when he is rich and rich, and run away when he needs you to pay, this man will not be in a good mood for you.
People are mutual, and if husband and wife can't help each other and don't share weal and woe, the man and you are not married.
Therefore, if you want to become an irreplaceable woman in the hearts of men, you must not only be able to accompany men to live a good life, but also be able to accompany men to endure hardships.