As the saying goes, if you want to hurry, you can't get there. The kind of person who likes to rush in a relationship often ends up not getting what they want.
Family affection is not a meal, it is not your love, the other person will listen to you, just like you.
If you want to tease someone, you don't take actual action, and the other person won't ignore you or even think you're a flower.
Pursuing someone you like is like doing business. If you want to successfully sell yourself to others, you must know these four unspoken rules.
Smart people use these rules because they can really find the person they want to find.
Unspoken rule 1: Be proactive.
The beginning of any relationship is inseparable from the word "initiative". If you don't take the initiative, you can only feel lonely even if you have a thousand loves in your heart.
Someone said: "Crush is the most beautiful love, loving each other deeply, and the look of being attentive is the purest form of love." ”
That being said, have you ever thought that if you just put your thoughts on it, you will always be alone.
And if you can take the initiative to say what you like, put aside the other person's feelings about the things you don't talk about, at least you haven't let yourself down.
Second, when you take the initiative, the other person can know your intentions and can respond to you.
Otherwise, even if there is love between you, but because you never take the initiative, you can only watch the happiness around you slowly fade away.
Therefore, the first unspoken rule of any relationship stimulation technique must be "active". Only when you take the initiative will you have a later story.
Unspoken rule 2: Obvious favoritism.
After taking the initiative to break the strangeness and awkwardness between you, what you need to do is "favoritism", the more obvious the better.
The relationship does not end on your own initiative, the initiative is just a stepping stone, and after the initiative is when you really express yourself.
Gentleness and kindness are irresistible charms for everyone, and when you hint at your heart to the other person, you don't need to care about anything else, as long as you have a strong preference for him.
No matter what he thinks of you at first, you just have to try to be nice to him, and even think of him as more important than yourself.
People are influenced by their environment, and when you get used to an obvious preference for someone, the people around you will recognize your relationship.
Even if he still has concerns about you, he will be optimistic about you with the analysis and advice of the people around him.
On the other hand, who said that the superfluous will never pass. When there is no one around him, your long-term preference will become the first reason for him to think of you.
Whether he's out of love or dependence, you've won a small victory and occupied a corner of his heart.
Unspoken rule 3: Be tolerant.
When people are confronted with suitors, even if they have love for you in their hearts, they will hesitate because of uncertainty and ignorance.
At this point, all you need to do is reassure the other person. Make him believe that his life with you will be happy.
Believe him or not, you will be tolerant of him, you will comfort him when he is helpless, and you will tolerate him when he makes mistakes.
As long as you are by his side, he doesn't have to worry about being bullied, and he doesn't have to worry about you being a momentary interest and will abandon him later.
Don't worry that love will make you timid. As long as you show sincerity, the other person will understand your efforts.
Moreover, no one can stand the company of tolerance, and your gentleness and kindness will eventually become his medicine.
So, you have to be as tolerant as possible, let him feel your tenderness, and prove that you are suitable for each other.
Unspoken rule 4: No matter who is right or wrong, admit it first.
When two people have a disagreement, always say it fairly, say it fairly. But if the other party is unwilling to bow their heads, and they can't hold each other like this, the other party will naturally find fault with you.
For the person he loves deeply, he always hopes that he can get the bottomless pit of indulgence from the other party, even if it is his own fault, he will want you to bow your head first.
As a love guru said: "There is no right or wrong in love, if you still want to continue to walk with the person in front of you, you must take the initiative to admit the mistake in your heart." ”
Indeed, how do you conquer each other if you always quarrel over small things and never refuse to be the first to bow.
No one wants to get along with a narrow-minded person, let alone talk about feelings. After all, no one wants to find an old man to support their family.
So, if you want others to rely on you, you have to learn to admit mistakes.