To be successful, wisdom is a hard skill, and socialization is a soft skill.
Social interactions have a huge impact on people.
When you find that you are becoming less and less successful, first see if your ability is enough, and then see whether the people around you have helped you or become a burden.
With the wisdom of development and the freedom to leave the group and integrate into the group, the destiny will be truly good.
At a lower level, everything is an obstacle.
Liu Bowen wrote a story in "Yu Ion".
There is a bird on Xihua Mountain, called the blue feather magpie, the feathers are particularly beautiful, very similar to the phoenix, and the call is also very good.
The blue magpie grew up and flew, its voice resounding through the sky, shaking the caves and shaking the rocks. The trees followed him.
To their surprise, the animals were startled when they saw the blue magpie.
The wild birds in the forest were afraid that the purple magpie would take away its dominant position, so they went to the Queen Mother of the West and complained: "This purple magpie's call is strange and unlucky. ”
The Empress Dowager heard the wind and sent someone to drive away the purple feather magpie, causing its feathers to fall off and lay dying.
The young Liu Bowen was not like the Qingyu Magpie, who studied hard and was admitted to the Jinshi, but the Yuan Dynasty entered the stage of hardship and war. He was never taken advantage of.
After Qingtian became an official, he exposed the ** around him, bullied the people, and was greedy for money, but he was besieged by a large group of ** and had to resign and retire.
If Zhu Yuanzhang hadn't asked Liu Bowen to come out of the mountain, maybe his life would never have come out.
Think about a question in "Hundred Lectures": If a crane stands in the middle of a flock of chickens, is the crane more uncomfortable, or the chicken is more uncomfortable?
Everyone thinks it's a good thing to stand out from the crowd and prove that they are excellent.
The teacher's answer was the law of the chicken.
When a person is very good, but mixed in the bottom group, there is no sense of superiority, but will be jealous, and then there will be all kinds of crushing.
You think you're powerful, but you can't punch four hands. Surrounded on all sides, you are doomed to failure, and if you don't run away, your life will be in danger.
In the flock, the crane is guilty - you have the ability, you are the enemy of everyone;You're good-looking. Everyone knows you're a clown.
It can be seen that many people do not have the day to come out, not because they really have no wisdom, but because they have wisdom but have no way to play it.
There are many similar situations: Xin Qi'er in the Southern Song Dynasty had a husband who was in charge of the family and could get firewood, rice and grass from the fire, but before he could recover his homeland, he was delayed for a lifetime by a group of pacifists;Yue Fei met Qin Hui's accomplices and hit stones with eggs.
It is easy to shake a stone or a mountain, but it is difficult to shake a group of people. The harder you try, the less successful you are.
Only by moving closer to a higher-level group can we take advantage of the trend.
Lu Su of the Three Kingdoms was diligent in running the family business and accumulated two large grain depots.
He was known locally for his generosity and hard work.
The crown prince Yuan Shu established Lu Su as the Taishou of Dongcheng County.
Lu Su was an official for a while, but he resigned and went to join Zhou Yu.
Yuan Shu sent people to stop Lu Su.
Lu Su resolutely left and never looked back. Everyone thought it was funny, because Zhou Yu was just a county magistrate.
Facts have proved that Lu Su's choice is correct, Zhou Yu has soaring ambitions, and Sun Ce and Sun Quan are brothers, and they both belong to the Jiangdong team.
After Sun Quan's rise, Lu Su proposed the "Jiangdong Pair", which laid the foundation for Sun Quan's establishment of Eastern Wu.
After the Battle of Chibi, Lu Su proposed to lend Jingzhou to Liu Bei, and Sun Quan agreed. At the same time, Zhuge Liang and Liu Bei were impressed by Lu Su and promoted Sun Liu's alliance.
After Zhou Yu died, he said: "Lu Su has wisdom and can replace him." ”
After Lu Su died, Zhuge Liang traveled thousands of miles to mourn.
Many years after Lu Su's death, Sun Quan said to his courtiers: "Xi Luzi has tasted this, and it can be said that he understands the situation." ”
If a person has success, he will inevitably witness a sentence: "Good wind, force, send me to the sky." ”
The people around you are elevating you, you are helping the people around you, and after a few interactions, everyone will excel.
If you want to be successful, you have to learn to change the group, and don't pursue anything to "stand out from the crowd".
First, learn to observe and see what level the people around you are at. If everyone is a lot lower than you, you keep a low profile, don't be too conspicuous, and avoid being stepped on.
Second, quietly leave the lower groups, and if the group forces you to stay, turn around bravely. Come to think of it, it doesn't matter if such a group is offended.
Third, we should get close to the high-level groups, learn to help others, and accept everyone's help. Form positive interactions.
Fourth, if you don't have the right group, learn to be alone. As long as you perform well, you will attract some people to work with you.
People, as long as they go to the right group, must use force, and they must also have a platform to promote themselves.
Never get entangled with a bunch of low-level "chicks". Don't stick to one group either. In the development of life, we must adhere to the "one-to-one".