Impulsiveness is the devil, delusion is the devil.
Many times, we can remember some pieces of advice, and we can also be catchy, but on the spur of the moment, we have forgotten them.
Then, you start to regret it.
There are many medicines in the world, but there is no regret medicine, and regret under impulse is destined to be a looming injury.
On the other hand, our lives are already happy enough, but such and such shit, tearing life to shreds, does not know the happiness in happiness.
Sooner or later, you'll find that losing control of your emotions is the greatest drain on happiness.
Emotions are out of control, and the family suffers.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Liu Yan, the minister of Shu, had no merit or hard work, and followed Liu Bei for many years.
After Liu Bei's death, Liu Yan became a general and lived a prosperous life.
Once, Liu Yan's wife Hu went to the palace to pay New Year's greetings to the Queen Mother.
When the Queen Mother saw Hu, she liked him very much, and stayed in the palace for more than a month, chatting and eating every day.
When the Hu family returned home, Liu Yan was furious - he thought that Emperor Liu Chan was a womanizer and might let his wife sleep in the name of the Empress Dowager.
Hu had nothing to say, and Liu Yan immediately insulted.
To make matters worse, Liu Yan gathered more than 500 soldiers and slapped his beard in the face with the soles of his shoes.
Soon, Zhuge Liang and Liu Chan learned about this and decided to let Liu Yan show it to the public to warn all residents to respect women.
"Romance of the Three Kingdoms" commented: "Please take responsibility for the disaster, and do your best." ”
Under emotion, if you look at a person, you will find that all people are ugly and hideous.
When dealing with people from afar, you can't reach the whip, and when dealing with outsiders, you are afraid of three points.
The last person you hurt is your family because your family is closest to you and within the confines of your "fists and swearing".
Even if you get injured in a fight with an outsider, you will bring your emotions home and cause the family atmosphere to deteriorate;You're really hurt, you're in the hospital, those who take care of you, those family members, those people who love you, or.
When the family is broken, the blessed person will naturally be gone;Life, without a home, is all wandering.
If you lose your temper, you will suffer.
The principles of action and reaction tell us that when we yell at others, we are also working on ourselves.
When you hit something with your fists, your hands hurt.
From any point of view, emotional loss of control is a person's internal friction, and it is the beginning of making outsiders "wary of you everywhere and embarrassing you everywhere".
Many people will "return a tooth for a tooth", and what you do, others will double back for you.
Mang Gutai was the son of Nurhachi, the emperor of the Qing Dynasty, and should inherit the throne.
His mother, who was not a woman, had an ambiguous relationship with the Great Belle Daishan, and when his father found out, he filed for divorce.
The reason for his divorce from his wife was also mild - possession of property.
Manggutai longs to become a prince, so he tries to express himself, and on impulse, he kills his mother and goes to his father for honor and rewards.
His father was so disappointed that he thought Manggutai was a beast and gave up his plans to succeed to the throne altogether.
Without the hope of becoming an emperor, Mang Gutai was in extreme mood, and he was ready to rebel and pull out a big sword in front of the emperor.
In the end, the Qing Dynasty pursued Mang Gutai for rebellion, and his descendants were deposed as emperors.
As long as you do it under the premise of losing control of your emotions, no matter if you win or lose, you will lose in the end.
For a while, an embarrassing incident happened in the women's toilet of the Harbin subway station, and everyone was very concerned.
A girl named Xiaoxin saw a boy walk in and casually said, "You're a boy, you can't go to the women's bathroom." ”
When the boy's mother heard this, she immediately began to scold;Hearing this, the boy's father came and shouted again.
In the end, the boy's parents were taken to the police station to be punished.
Things that hurt people are essentially "self-harm", and there are no exceptions.
Besides, you get angry every day, eat delicious food, sleep in a mansion, and you are unhappy and unlucky.
Managing emotions is the best self-discipline for adults.
Emotional intelligence shows that by controlling emotions, managers can be good leaders.
Emotions are something that lingers, but they're not scary. The key is to recognize them and control them.
As an ordinary person, you must first have a deep understanding of emotions - there is no good or bad emotion, emotions are divided into positive emotions and negative emotions. Its roots lie in man himself, and both good and bad are the result of man's own creation.
Then, constantly observe and remind yourself why emotions are there, what they are useful for, and what the consequences will be.
After that, express your emotions appropriately and don't be brutally restrained. For example, talk to your parents, talk to someone you love, find an empty spot, and yell at it. Integrate yourself into the social family and adapt to the environment.
Finally, recognize other people's emotions and don't do stupid confrontational things that habitually refuse to respond. As a result, they can improve their relationships and learn to listen and accept.
Different age groups have different worries and will come into contact with different people. In any case, you can hope for the best and abandon narrow-mindedness.