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Yesterday, a friend of mine told me that she wanted a divorce for a simple reason: she didn't like her husband always looking down on her and asking her for money.
In fact, before marrying her husband, she was a very independent woman who was very mature both in work and in life.
However, after a woman falls in love, she grows a romantic brain, her judgment becomes blurred, and after she gets married, she often becomes a full-time housewife.
My husband's family didn't object at first. Because although she is a housewife, she is still able to cherish her family.
However, the human heart is greedy and selfish, and if a woman continues to keep her palms facing up, the people around her will gradually look at her with contempt, and her friends are no exception.
So the days that followed were very painful, and I was either treated as an outsider or turned away in various ways. In the end, she said she wanted a divorce very badly because the lifestyle caused her friends to break down.
In fact, most women face such an embarrassing situation in their lives. If you want to be a competent wife, you have to give up your career, but if you want to be respected by a man, you have to remain independent.
Life is actually cruel, and it's hard to make choices. But no matter what, Lao Yan still thinks that women should be independent in marriage. Because that's the foundation for the rest of your life.
In other words, for a woman to find happiness and respect in marriage, she must first have capital and abilities independent of her husband.
1.Don't get attached to men.
In marriage, a woman is not always attached to a man. Because such a married life makes men depressed and tired.
Moreover, the management of love and marriage is the same. Both require two people to work together.
So, what women must understand is that if they are completely dependent on a man after marriage, then they will not only be in a passive position, but will gradually get tired of him.
Even if this man loves you again, he will be crushed and crushed by your "parasitic" attachment.
Men may also need care and protection.
Therefore, in marriage, women need to remain independent and share the pressure of men appropriately, rather than relying entirely on men.
On top of that, women who are completely dependent on men often fail to receive respect or attention in their marriages. You will find it difficult to be happy at this time no matter what you do.
The most important thing for a married woman is to remain independent so that she does not lose herself at any time, or is despised by men.
When women focus on themselves, they become independent and strong.
The biggest advantage of being an independent woman is that she is not dependent on men. This is not only conducive to the harmony and stability of the marital relationship, but also conducive to the growth and maturity of the man.
Only such a woman can build a truly happy marriage and a happy family.
2.Financially independent and mentally strong.
As a woman, you must have your own career and your own job.
Financial independence is a woman's greatest self-confidence. Nothing could be more important than that.
Whether single or married, women should have their own careers, spend their own money, and be financially independent. Don't be the grass that follows men.
As women, we should have our own careers. Financial independence is the highest respect for oneself and one's family.
Only when a woman has an independent career will she no longer be afraid of her husband's betrayal.
A woman with a strong heart is not pushing herself too hard, but has enough confidence and ability to face various challenges in life.
There is no black and white in this society, and there is not much pure good and evil. Sometimes you have to learn to judge and choose between accepting yourself and accepting reality.
There are many things in life that are not black and white, and there are also many things that can be changed.
When you understand this, you will no longer feel that it is not enough to have one husband in a marriage, or that it is not enough to be treated unfairly in a marriage.
Even in the face of life's events and challenges, we must maintain a strong heart and remain independent.
If you are strong on the inside, you will know that no matter how violent the storm is outside, it will stop.
Women don't have to give up their careers for the sake of family or marriage. Because the only person who can support you is yourself.
3.Learn to communicate.
Men may come home late due to work pressure or going out to socialize. Women shouldn't always ask men questions like, "Are you a**?".Why aren't you at home yet?”
But take the initiative to communicate and ask them if they are tired from work, how their life is going, and what problems they have encountered.
If he says he's tired or having trouble at work, try asking, "Is something wrong?".Please let me know if you are in trouble. ”
Learn Xi the following types of empathy: Men work under a lot of pressure, so you need to learn to be more attentive.
This will make the man feel the warmth and love of home, and he will be happy to return home.
In marriage, both men and women have to learn to think from each other's point of view. Only in this way can we better preserve each other's feelings.
Women can only build happy marriages and families if they have the capital and ability to be independent of men.
With these abilities, you don't have to rely on others or compromise in your marriage.
Marriage is a very important thing in life.
They met, fell in love, got married, and had children, which made them very happy.
However, this process requires a lot of effort on the part of both of you to live a happy life.
A happy married life is often not easy for couples. Because the meaning of marriage is much more than love, and it is not as simple as imagined.
When men pursue spiritual resonance and women pursue material satisfaction, it is difficult for husbands and wives to trust each other.
There is an essential difference between love and marriage. If a woman wants to feel secure in her marriage, she must be independent.
Only a woman who remains independent can provide stability for herself and her husband.