"You can't get used to living in the city" The daughter-in-law refused her mother-in-law to support the elderly, and the son smiled bitterly and regretted not being at the beginning
Li Lin was carrying a bag of rice, holding flour in her right hand, and she couldn't even hold the key, so she knocked on the door.
My husband opened the door with a blank face: "Isn't there already rice at home?"Why did you buy another bag?”
It's eight dollars cheaper than usual. Anyway, you have to buy it sooner or later, so it's better to buy it now. Li Lin changed her shoes and replied.
Husband: "Bought flour again?"Every time I go back to my hometown, my mother mutters that there is no flour to eat, go back and get it, and the grain she grows herself grinds out without adding anything, and she can eat it with confidence. ”
Li Lin squinted at her husband: "Your mother is just talking, you are still serious." If you really want to give it to you, prepare it in advance when you get home, otherwise, you can send it over. Oh, I forgot, your mom likes to stay at home and isn't used to going anywhere, especially here. ”
My husband muttered: "It's really careful, I have remembered more than ten years of hatred in one sentence, you are not tired when you say it, I am tired when I listen to it." ”
It's not ...... you mentioned first”
Seeing that he was about to quarrel, my husband hurriedly picked up flour and rice and walked to the kitchen: "Okay, okay, what to eat at noon, I'll cook." ”
Speaking of what her mother-in-law did, Li Lin was full of grievances and complaints.
When I was young, I felt full of affection, but now that I look back, it was like water in my brain.
Li Lin and her husband were high school classmates, and they went to different schools in college, and after graduation, they ran around and ended up together.
Before getting married, there were some small disputes between the two families because of the problem of the marriage room.
Li Lin and her husband work in the county seat, and their hometown is a remote township, and Li Lin's parents hope that they will buy a house in the city, both for career development and a better starting point for their children's education.
The most important thing is that at that time, the city had just planned a new area, and the housing prices were very cost-effective.
Li Lin's mother-in-law is a million reluctant, and her mother-in-law means: "It's not easy to train a college student, who still has the money to buy a house, and go to the expensive place in the city." ”
My father-in-law also said this: "If you have real skills, you can be rich and wealthy even if you live in our countryside." ”
Li Lin doesn't think so, big cities have a future for development, and the next generation has better educational resources. Her husband supports her opinion, but if she doesn't have money, she can't get a foothold in her parents' house.
Li Lin was carrying a bag of rice and a bag of flour, and she didn't even have the strength to pick out the key in her hand, so she knocked on the door.
My husband opened the door with a blank face: "Isn't there already rice at home?"How do you buy another bag?”
It's a ** event, it's eight yuan cheaper than usual, and I'll have to buy it sooner or later anyway, so it's better to buy it now. Li Lin changed her shoes and replied.
My husband frowned: "Buy flour again?"Every time I go back to my hometown, my mother always says that there is no flour to eat, go home and get some, the grain she grows herself, grinds out without adding anything, and eats with confidence. ”
Li Lin squinted at her husband: "Your mother is just talking, you actually take it seriously." If you really want it, get it ready when you get home, or she can give it to you. Oh, I forgot, your mom just likes to stay at home and isn't used to going to **, especially here. ”
My husband muttered: "It's really careful, I've been holding grudges for more than ten years, and I'm tired of talking about it." ”
If it weren't for the ...... you mentioned first”
Seeing that there was going to be a quarrel, my husband hurriedly picked up flour and rice and ran to the kitchen: "Okay, okay, what to eat at noon, I'll cook." ”
Speaking of her mother-in-law's various actions, Li Lin's heart was full of grievances and complaints.
When I was young, I thought I was full of water, but now looking back, I feel like my brain is in water.
Li Lin and her husband were high school classmates and were together after graduating from college.
Before getting married, the two families had a small fight over the marriage room.
Li Lin and her husband work in county-level cities, and their hometowns are all remote towns. Li Lin's parents hope that they will buy a wedding house in the city, which will have more advantages for career development and the next generation to go to school.
The most important thing is that the new district in the city has just been planned, and it is relatively cost-effective.
Li Lin's mother-in-law did not agree to buy a house, and her mother-in-law said: "I finally trained a college student, who has the time to buy a house, and go to the extremely expensive place in the city." ”
My father-in-law also said this: "It's gold that shines in **, and if you have real skills, you can be rich even if you live in the countryside." ”
Li Lin disagrees with this idea, big cities have a future for development, and the education resources of the next generation are also better. Her husband agrees with her, but doesn't have enough money.
The in-laws did not agree to buy the house, and Li Lin chose to acquiesce in the in-laws' arrangements because of love. The house can be bought after two people have struggled for a few years.
Li Lin's parents opened a small supermarket in the town, met all kinds of people, and knew that although her in-laws farmed in the countryside, they owned more land. In addition, my father-in-law works on the construction site, how can he not have any savings?
Li Lin's parents ignored her opposition and gave her in-laws two choices.
If you choose to buy a house, Li Lin's family will pay half of the down payment. If you don't buy a house, how much bride price your mother-in-law pays, how much money your mother-in-law will dowry.
The in-laws are shrewd, and the bride price is only 60,000 or 70,000 at most, plus the dowry is only 100,000. Instead of taking a hundred thousand yuan and attracting the mother's family to take hundreds of thousands, it is better to buy a house for his son directly.
So the in-laws who kept shouting that the poor took out 150,000 at once.
Li Lin sarcastically mocked her husband: "I said I had no money before, did this money fall from the sky and smashed into your bowl?"”
My husband scratched his head and laughed dryly: "My mother said that they were all borrowed, and I also think they really don't have so much money." ”
Li Lin didn't believe this kind of statement at all. has some opinions about the in-laws, if it weren't for the idea of their mother's family, they would definitely be reluctant to give up the money, and they didn't think about them at all.
Li Lin even guessed that if she bought a house after getting married, her in-laws estimated that they would not pay a penny.
Fortunately, the two did not live together, and after marriage, Li Lin occasionally went back to her mother-in-law's house, hurried away, hurried back, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law did not have too many contradictions.
When she was six months pregnant, her husband was on a business trip for a month, and in order to rest assured, she wanted her mother-in-law, who had nothing to do at home, to come over to accompany Li Lin and take care of her by the way.
But my mother-in-law said: "I can't go, I get motion sickness in the car, I'm so disgusting, and I will inevitably have to take care of me when I get there." ”
My husband proposed, "Then I'll drive back to pick you up." ”
During the whole confinement period, Li Lin's husband took leave and accompanied and took care of him throughout the whole process. This new couple, who are new parents, finally survived the hardships of confinement. However, three months later, the maternity leave ended, and they faced the problem of leaving the child unattended.
In order to solve this problem, Li Lin and her husband went back to their hometown, hoping to ask their mother-in-law to help take care of the children. However, the mother-in-law resolutely refused: "No, your father can't handle the farm work at home alone." ”
Faced with her mother-in-law's refusal, Li Lin asked, "Is farm work important or is your granddaughter important?"If you don't come to help, what will happen to the kid?”
The mother-in-law responded: "Then I'm gone, what will happen at home?"Besides, I can't get used to living in your city, it's like a birdcage, it's too suffocating, I can't breathe, and I'll be in it when the time comes. Li Lin could only take the child in the car and leave, and her husband followed the car with a gloomy face.
Li Lin considered letting her mother take care of the children, but her husband found it difficult. The house was originally purchased jointly by both parents, but the husband's parents contributed less. Now his parents are unwilling to take care of their grandchildren, and let Li Lin's mother take care of them, and it is difficult for him to bring it up.
In the end, Li Lin chose to quit her job to concentrate on taking care of her children at home, planning to wait for her children to go to school before thinking about work.
After two or three years, the child gradually grew up, and Li Lin started working again. With no one to help, she lives like a war every day, her children don't go to school on weekends, and the couple can only take turns taking leave to take care of them.
The child was already in junior high school in the blink of an eye, and the mother-in-law began to feel a little anxious. She hinted, consciously or unconsciously, that she hoped that they would have another child, and even said that she could help take care of them in the future. However, Li Lin did not believe her mother-in-law's words, and her husband had no intention of having a second child.
As time goes on, the children get older and the in-laws get older. The noisy children in the neighborhood also make people feel lively, and sometimes even crave this kind of excitement.
However, over the years, my son and daughter-in-law rarely went home except for the New Year's holidays. Even if she came back, her granddaughter was not close, and the old lady had the idea of going to her daughter-in-law's house to care for the elderly.
When I returned to my hometown during the Mid-Autumn Festival, my mother-in-law said to herself: "We are old, and the land can't be planted, so it's time to rest this old bone and contract the land to others, although it makes less money, but it doesn't hurt." ”
Li Lin didn't pay attention, but her husband chimed in: "Yes, I'm old, I really need to take a break." After saying such things a few times, Li Lin felt that something was wrong.
The mother-in-law couldn't help but speak: "We plan to throw the land to others to plant, and we can go to the city to help you take care of the children when we are free." ”
Li Lin smiled and asked: "My child is in junior high school, he walks by himself in the morning and returns by himself in the evening, I can't see anyone for a day, how do you want to take care of it?"”
The mother-in-law rubbed her hands and said, "Cook a meal or something, so that you can work with peace of mind." ”
Li Lin directly refused: "You can't get used to life in the city, so don't come to our house." When you were young, you felt bored, but now that you are older, it is more suitable to enjoy freedom in a spacious place in the countryside. ”
The mother-in-law was blushing by her daughter-in-law's words, and wanted her son to persuade her daughter-in-law, but the son smiled bitterly and said, "Why bother with today." ”
Without the consent of her son and daughter-in-law, the old lady was angry and ashamed, and stopped mentioning the matter.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be based on mutual understanding and help, when the daughter-in-law needs help, if the mother-in-law is unwilling to give first, how can she receive a return?
Of course, a mother-in-law is not obligated to take care of her grandchildren, but equally, a daughter-in-law is not obligated to support the elderly. I want to enjoy the joy of family and refuse to pay for it, how can there be so many cheap things in this world?Friends, do you think this is true?