Those who block you after a breakup are often the ones who really love you and are also easier to get back.
Why?At this time, there are many people who don't understand at all and wonder why the other party is still in love. Isn't that a sign of ruthlessness?
In fact, people's hearts are complex, and many times people will do some extreme things when they are emotionally impulsive, but this does not represent the real thoughts of the other party.
We need to see through the phenomenon to the essence of the problem, and not be blinded by some illusory things.
Today's article will be written in detail from the two aspects of the reasons why the other party is blocked and how to get back together with the other party.
Part 1: The essential reason for the other party's blocking.
To a certain extent, when a person chooses to block you, the other party wants to stay away from you, at least temporarily. It may be that the other person feels pain and sadness, and needs a period of time to relieve their emotions, but this does not mean that they will deny you.
Generally, the other party blocks you, and there may be several reasons:
1. You need your own space.
When there is a conflict, many people like to pester each other, keep calling **, texting, such behavior has affected the other party, and it is impossible to start a normal life. At this time, the other party blocked you in order to reserve some space for yourself and give yourself some free space.
2. Avoid escalating contradictions.
There may be some contradictions and conflicts between you at first, and the other party chooses to block you in order to avoid escalating the conflict between you. This is also an instinctive way to protect yourself.
3. Completely cut off the connection.
Sometimes the best way to forget someone is to stop contacting them. The other party may have thought about not getting back together with you, or that the other party has been disappointed in this relationship, since they will not be together in the future, it is better to completely disconnect with the other party.
When you understand these reasons, you should respect the other person's decision and give the other person some space and freedom.
If you want to win back the other person, it shows that you still have a strong emotional investment in the relationship. It's easy to understand, because you don't want to lose the other person. But in the face of the current situation, it is not that there is no hope between you.
Every relationship has the possibility of getting back together, but sometimes you don't really understand the other person's thoughts.
Part 2: How to get back together with the person who blocked you?
1. Disconnect for a period of time.
The other party blocks you, it may be to ease their emotions, it may be temporary freedom, you don't need to ask more, just respect, take the initiative to keep your distance from the other party, you can disconnect for a period of time, and give each other some space.
Disconnection means that you completely disconnect with the other party, including not updating your own news on any social platform, completely disappearing from the other party's world, not disturbing the other party too much, and not creating any pressure on the other party.
Disconnection can temporarily dilute the other party's negative impression of you and make the other party feel a sense of loss, which can allow the other party to return to you and create more opportunities.
2. Love yourself.
Don't doubt yourself, and don't feel like you're not good enough, you're good. During the disconnection, you can do something to make yourself happy, try a new life, and learn new skills, such as: running, drawing, fitness, reading, etc. Enrich your life again. Meet new people, build new social circles, and maintain good habits.
3. Rethink the relationship.
When disconnecting, you need to rethink your relationship.
Do you want to get back together with each other?
Do you want to save your relationship?
Can we get back together after getting back together?
Try to think about the relationship, whether you think the relationship is likely to continue, you can start by listing the strengths and weaknesses of your time together and evaluating the value of your togetherness.
4. Avengers build feelings.
After calming down for a while, you can reconnect with the other person and slowly warm up the relationship between you.
Icebreaker Avengers. Seed letter: You can write a seed letter to the other party and let them add back the other party's ***
How to write a seed letter?
What to include in the seed letter:
Sincere apologies;
Accept the fact of the breakup;
Express your mistakes;
I hope I can continue to be friends in the future;
The seed letter doesn't need to be too long, the most important thing is your attitude. The purpose of writing a seed letter is just to let the other party let down their guard, restore your ***, and pave the way for the subsequent reunion action.
Mutual friends: You can find mutual friends between you, invite each other out, and find the right opportunity to reconnect with each other. When chatting with the other party, you should be generous, don't let the other party be submissive, twist and pinch, and make the other party think that you are meeting the other person with a bad purpose. Just treat each other as friends, and then take the opportunity to tell each other to add back***
Initial contact. After adding back ***, you should start to try to establish initial communication and contact with the other party. At this time, it is important to say something to the other person.
It is not a wise choice to talk directly about feelings with the other person, because the other person does not fully trust you, and talking about feelings too early will only cause the other person to resent it.
This is where you can start with some small topics:
1) Ask for help:
You can ask the other person for help in the area they are good at, and the other party will generally not refuse your request. You'll be able to chat with each other and learn about their recent lives.
For example, if the other party is a teacher, you can consult with the other party about choosing a school or filling in the application form
The other person is a doctor, so you can pretend to ask someone close to you about the disease
2) Common Recall Method:
There will be a lot of good memories between you, and these are great ways to reconnect your feelings.
You can find some things that you remember deeply between you and take the initiative to mention them to each other.
For example, if you have been to a place for the first time and you happen to be there again, you can mention this time to the other person.
Remember that when you start chatting with each other, it's best not to mention your feelings, don't ask if the other person still likes you, and don't ask if you can still be together.
You're just friends, not partners, and if you make it clear from the beginning that you want to get back together, the other person will be very resistant to you coming into contact with you.
Warm up feelings. When you can maintain basic communication with each other, you need to warm up your feelings through chatting.
l Understand the needs of the other party: If you want the other party to communicate with you, you must first give in to their preferences and make the other party willing to communicate with you. You can talk about topics that the other person is interested in, listen to the other person's ideas first, and focus on the other party's needs.
l Invest in emotions and materials: Building feelings is not only based on words, but also depends on real investment. Invest time, money, material things, energy, etc., these are all things you need to understand.
l Establish a comfortable mode of getting along:
The joy at first sight will never get tired of it for a long time. We will meet a lot of people and like a lot of people, but in the end we will all choose someone who is happy to get along with, and in this relationship, everyone can be comfortable being themselves. Therefore, if you want the other person to choose, you must learn to establish a comfortable mode of getting along. For example, when encountering problems, they will communicate seriously, rather than evading and cold war;
When you master a certain method, you will feel that it is not difficult to feel emotional. Love is difficult, true love is to constantly revise oneself, I know that love is destined to be difficult, but I still have the courage to face it with you.