In the family, the communication between mother and daughter often seems more direct, lacking some tactfulness and respect. Daughters often have no scruples about expressing their thoughts and feelings, without thinking about their mother's psychological reaction. This direct way of communication can easily make the mother feel hurt and have a pimple in her heart. If it is the mother-in-law who helps take care of the child, the mother may be more concerned about the other party's feelings and express her opinions tactfully to avoid causing conflicts. However, for the mother, this direct way of communication is not what she expects, she wants to be understood and respected. Considering that the mother left her homeland to help take care of the child, she felt lonely, and if her contribution was not understood by her daughter, then the grievances and unhappiness in her heart could be imagined.
Before getting married, many mothers were the only daughters in the family and were held in the palm of their hands by their parents. However, after getting married, they did not change this mindset and continued to use their mother as a "nanny". Whether it is the raising of children or the sharing of housework, mothers often leave these responsibilities completely to their mothers. After returning home, in addition to playing with the child for a while, the mother spent most of her time lying on the sofa and playing with her mobile phone, without taking into account the mother's psychology and feelings. For a long time, her mother was regarded as a "hands-off shopkeeper", and her efforts were rarely cared for and cared for by her mother. Even if the old man works hard and complains, when his daughter treats him like this, he will inevitably feel aggrieved and unhappy. For the elderly, the task of taking care of children is not easy, and the body and energy are sometimes insufficient.
Compared with grandma with children, grandma with children is more difficult and has more responsibilities. When mothers leave their children in the care of their grandmothers, they often fully believe in the abilities of the elderly and do not hesitate to leave the children completely in the care of their grandmothers. When a child is sick or needs to take a bath, it is often handled by the child's grandmother. This is a bigger worry and burden for grandma. Although mothers also take care of their children with great care, their physical energy is limited after all. For a long time, the grandmother has paid a lot, but she has rarely been able to get the favor of her son-in-law. The son-in-law prefers that his mother come over and help take care of the child. In the family, the relationship between the son-in-law and the sister-in-law often makes the grandmother feel sad, they often ignore their mother, even if the grandmother works hard to take care of the children every day, the son-in-law is not even willing to call "mother".
In the family, conflicts between mother and daughter are usually due to a lack of effective communication and coordination between the two parties. The mother completely handed over the housework and the child's rearing to the mother, and did not have too much communication and discussion. She tends to focus on her own thoughts and does not take into account her mother's feelings and opinions. And the mother did not take the initiative to express her dissatisfaction and needs, and silently took on these responsibilities. Neither side sat down to have a good talk, find a balance, and resolve the contradictions between them. As a result of the lack of communication and coordination, mutual dissatisfaction and contradictions gradually accumulated, which eventually led to an outbreak.
To sum up, the conflict between the mother and the mother is mainly caused by problems such as speaking too directly, calling the mother as a nanny, the grandmother is more tired and worried about taking the baby, and the lack of communication and coordination. To resolve these conflicts, both parties need to better understand and respect each other, change the way they communicate, and establish a good family atmosphere where each other feels valued and included. At the same time, Bao Ma should also care more about and take care of her mother, not only as a nanny, but also care about her feelings and needs. Only by establishing a good family relationship can everyone get better satisfaction and happiness in the family.