Historically, marriages between large families have always revolved around the two core issues of profit. The most important thing in marriage is to have a good daughter-in-law. People of comparable social status are naturally the best, and no one will despise them. If the door is not right, you will have to suffer a lot of bitter fruits, and you will even be spurned by others, but this does not mean that people have no choice. If you choose to climb high or marry low, then you may encounter misfortune.
Among the four daughters of the Sheng family, Hua Lan is generally regarded as the one who is the most well-married.
The Yuan family is located in the Earl's Mansion of Zhongqin, and its status is several levels higher than that of the Sheng family. No, in this small town, there are such two families vying to marry their daughter. Every member of the Sheng family thought that Hua Lan was well married, and Sheng Hong's judgment in choosing a son-in-law was very wise.
In fact, the marriage between Hualan Gao and the Yuan family has experienced a life-and-death moment.
Although on the surface it seems that the parents are making decisions for their daughters, in essence, they are all related to the interests of the family.
Sheng Hong, a person who is extremely selfish in his heart, always puts his core interests first.
Sheng Hong is very concerned about his career promotion, and with a family relationship like the Yuan family, he will undoubtedly make greater contributions to his future.
Although Hua Lan is only married to the second son of the Yuan family, as the first member of the imperial court, she can undoubtedly provide some substantial help. The Sheng family was one of the most powerful surnames in the Ming Dynasty. It must be admitted that Sheng Hong even did not hesitate to push his daughter into the fire pit for the sake of his own future.
Although the Yuan family came from a prominent family, they were not the kind of reasonable family.
The reason why the Yuan family chose the Sheng family was also because they had no other choice. The head of the Yuan family has a short personality, a bad temper, and rough behavior, and is not an easy person to get along with.
Therefore, those families with the same status as the Yuan family tend to avoid contact with the Yuan family when choosing a suitable husband for their daughter.
For these situations, is Sheng Hong really not aware of them? Despite this, he still insists on marrying Hua Lan to him. After the test of facts, the degree of chaos in the Yuan family this time exceeded people's expectations.
In the first episode, the Yuan family's subordinate appointment made the Sheng family feel a strong sense of authority.
It was an important thing to be hired, and it was a courtesy for the elders to attend, but the Yuan family only sent a few juniors to the Sheng family, obviously looking down on the Sheng family.
What's even more shocking is that the Yuan family actually let Gu Tingye and Changfeng throw pots, intending to make the Sheng family lose their dignity and make Hua Lan their laughing stock.
Faced with such a situation, Mrs. Wang was furious:
Since their Yuan family made such flower heads, why did they find a boat to dock? It's better to turn around and go back right away. When he returned, he told his father that the daughter of our Sheng family didn't care about their Earl's Court. ”
Although it is natural for mothers to care about their daughters, anger does not make much of a difference.
Before she was officially married, she had already humiliated her daughter-in-law like this, and once she was married, her behavior would only get worse. In fact, the head of the Yuan family was prejudiced against Hua Lan from the beginning, and she believed that Hua Lan was born in a small family, so she could not be seen in the public eye.
Considering Hua Lan's relatively gentle personality, she sometimes had to choose to be submissive.
Yuan Wenshao appeared very vulnerable, and in the face of his mother's exploitation of Hua Lan, he did not dare to stand up bravely to defend his wife.
In the eyes of outsiders, Hua Lan is the noble daughter-in-law of the Yuan family, but only she knows that her life is not as good as a pig and a dog.
As soon as Mrs. Yuan became a member of the Yuan family, she put Hua Lan in charge of the family's affairs, although on the surface it seemed to give Hua Lan real power, but in fact she wanted to find out her weaknesses and put pressure on her in all aspects.
Moreover, Yuan Wenshao was not qualified to inherit the title of the Yuan family, and the Hualan housekeeper was only making wedding dresses for others.
Yuan Wenshao is only the second son of the family, and due to the oppression of his eldest brother, he naturally can't get too many benefits. Although Hua Lan gained control of the family, she could not avoid being abused by her mother-in-law.
It is a common behavior to follow the rules and wear small shoes.
In the original, Hua Lan spoke with a sad smile:
It's like this every time, it's like this every time, and a warm home must be lively; I really want to know my mother, what the hell am I not doing well, does she have to look for me? If my mother really can't accept me, she will write me a letter of resignation in advance, and I will go to her personally. Why should I suffer so piecemeal! ”
Hua Lan is in a desperate situation and can't find her way home, but it is also difficult for her to return to her parents' home, so she can only bear her pain in silence.
Hua Lan was suppressed by Mrs. Yuan, and one of the factors was Mrs. Yuan's envy and jealousy of her.
You have to understand that when women become jealous of women, they can accomplish almost anything.
In the original work of "Do You Know", there is also a direct description of it:
She observed that Hua Lan's family background was very good, and Hua Lan not only received the support of her father-in-law, but also the pampering of her husband and the respect of the family. But her mother-in-law seems to be more oppressed than this. Her husband didn't like her, her son didn't like her, and the family's younger relatives had a contemptuous attitude towards her. Hua Lan's life is always better than her, which fills her heart with anger and jealousy, which also causes her to constantly look for trouble, not wanting Hua Lan to live better. ”
The unfair treatment suffered by Hua Lan in the Yuan family is similar to the suffering that Ming Lan experienced in the Gu family.
After Minglan married Gu Tingye, she also suffered from all kinds of difficulties from Xiao Qin's side in the open and in the dark.
The contradictions and conflicts between Gu Tingye and the Gu family, coupled with his inheritance of the title, all undermined Xiao Qin's original intention and plan.
Xiao Qin's jealousy of Minglan was also one of the reasons.
Xiao Qin's family was the old marquis's remarriage partner, but the old marquis had no deep affection for her, and he always thought about the big Qin family in his heart.
Xiao Qin and the old marquis have been married for a long time, but when she sees that the people around her miss another woman every day, she doesn't have the slightest love for herself. Her life was painful, but also full of contradictions and struggles. Her mind is both lonely and full of twists.
Therefore, when she saw the deep relationship between Minglan and Gu Tingye, how could she maintain peace of mind. She knows her heart is in**. Therefore, they continued to suppress and plot, intending to put Minglan in a desperate situation.
For women like Mrs. Yuan and Xiao Qin, even if they live in wealth, their hearts are still empty. They wanted everything, but in the end they got nothing, and in the end they chose to take revenge on the others.
Mrs. Yuan put pressure on Hua Lan, even her children. After Hua Lan gave birth to her first daughter, Mrs. Yuan began to complain that she had no children.
After giving birth to the child, the moth still did not stop.
After Rulan and Wen Yanjing's secret was revealed, Hua Lan returned to her maiden home and wept bitterly to Mrs. Wang.
Mrs. Yuan took Shi Ge'er to her room alone to take care of Hua Lan on the grounds that Hua Lan failed to properly confinement. One day, Shi Ge'er woke up and accidentally knocked over the smoker, almost suffering burns. Fortunately, Sister Zhuang appeared in time to protect him, but Sister Zhuang's body was burned and blisters formed.
In the original work, Hua Lan and Yuan Wenshao both cried and told:
Shao Lang, if I were the only one, then following you would be like eating coarse food, and I would never complain bitterly. I have nothing but pity for those children! They're all very young! ”
In addition to this, Madame Yuan also controls the family's finances, so all the family's expenses need to be covered by Hua Lan, and she has no choice but to compensate with the dowry.
Not to mention destroying the relationship between Hua Lan and Yuan Wenshao, frequently breaking into Yuan Wenshao's room.
Hua Lan faced a dilemma in the Yuan family, only Mrs. Wang and Mrs. Sheng could find a solution for her, but Sheng Hong never cared about it. For Sheng Hong, if her daughter is spilled with water after she marries, as long as her reputation is recognized, then her happiness may no longer be so critical.
Hua Lan became a member of the Yuan family, undoubtedly getting a bad hand, and for 10 years, she experienced intense pain, like being cramped and skinned.
However, Hua Lan did not bow to fate, and she bravely played this bad card into a king bomb. How did she do it? She was able to turn the situation around both thanks to her intelligence and ingenuity, as well as to the support and help of her family.
First of all: the advice given by Mrs. Sheng.
Hua Lan spent her childhood under the guidance of Mrs. Sheng, and it is well known that the children raised by Mrs. Sheng are very good. She is a very good educator. Sheng Changbai's personality is gentle as jade, always hard working, he has both courage and strategy, showing a temperament that everyone can appreciate.
Therefore, Hua Lan inherited the real skills from Mrs. Sheng and carefully solved the problem when she encountered difficulties.
suffered unfair treatment in her in-law's family, and according to the wisdom of Mrs. Wang, she only knew how to go to Yuan's house to make trouble, and only the advice given by Mrs. Sheng to Hua Lan could make her twice as effective with half the effort.
When Hua Lan was in charge of the Yuan family, Mrs. Sheng advised her not to take on this laborious and unrewarding task, but to consider having a boy or girl.
After Hua Lan gave birth to her daughter, Mrs. Sheng invited Mrs. He again, hoping that she could help Hua Lan judge whether there was still a chance to have children. After a series of physical recuperation, Hua Lan finally succeeded in giving birth to a son. This made my mother very happy! In that historical period, mothers were honored by the status of their children, and with children, their social status became more secure.
In addition to this, Mrs. Sheng also taught her a lot of wisdom on how to build a society.
In the original work, Hualan also mentions:
As my grandmother said, this lady must think more about her life, neither be oppressed in the chaos, nor get angry, angry or angry because of her emotions. ”
Minglan and Hualan were able to move towards a satisfactory ending, mainly because they were quick thinkers, knew how to plan for the future, and understood people's hearts, rather than being swayed by emotions.
The second point: Knowledgeable and rational had a profound impact on Yuan Wenshao.
Yuan Wenshao was originally a filial fool, and when Hua Lan was bullied by his mother, he chose to remain silent. His character determined that he would spend his entire life fighting with his parents. Although Yuan Wenshao is not bad in nature, he is also a self-motivated and hard-working person.
What really affected him was the sacrifice and realization that Hua Lan had made for himself. "I don't want you to die, but I want you to live a better life. "Yuan Wenshao always needs financial support in the ** institution, and the financial power of the family is completely in the hands of Mrs. Yuan, so Hua Lan has to use her wealth to help her husband.
Once, Hua Lan gave her gold collar to Yuan Wenshao, which was a precious gift from the Sheng family to each of their daughters. At this moment, the fragility in Yuan Wenshao's heart was finally lit up.
In the original work, there is such a statement:
Yuan Wenshao realized at this time that Hua Lan now needed to solve the problem for himself through pawning, which deepened his dissatisfaction with his mother. ”
successfully won Yuan Wenshao's heart, which also means that Hualan finally got out of the predicament.
Subsequently, Yuan Wenshao also lost the dowry that Hualan lost.
At this stage, Yuan Wenshao gradually matured into a mature adult, who not only deeply understood Hua Lan's sincere feelings, but also gained insight into the prejudices of family members due to interests.
As he stated:
Now I finally understand that both parents are my siblings, and each brother has his own family. Only you and your children are truly for me. If I don't have a heart with you, who else can I have a heart with you? I won't let you be wronged again. I hope you will all feel at ease and comfortable in the future. ”
Third: Minglan gave a strategy.
Hua Lan successfully defeated Lady Yuan, and Ming Lan's contribution was also indispensable.
Hua Lan was not alone in the Yuan family, and the head of the Yuan family, Jun and his sister, Mrs. Shou Shanbo, both highly appreciated Hua Lan, and they also understood Mrs. Yuan's character.
Minglan suggested that Mrs. Shoushanbo take a concubine for the monarch of the Yuan family. Therefore, Aunt Zhang became a member of the Yuan Mansion, and she was completely different from Mrs. Yuan, not only with outstanding appearance, but also with a gentle and virtuous temperament, which won the love of the lord. The two men had a strong bond and soon welcomed their child.
At this moment, Mrs. Yuan didn't have time to cause trouble for Hua Lan, and she focused all her accusations on Aunt Zhang. No amount of strategy and calculation will be in vain. Since Mrs. Yuan had long lost people's trust, the control of the family eventually fell into the hands of Aunt Zhang.
From then on, Hua Lan no longer had to endure humiliation during his time in the Yuan Mansion.
In the end, Hua Lan lived a comfortable and wealthy life, the elders of the Yuan family also took good care of her, her husband also loved her very much, and she also gave birth to several more children, which made her position in the Yuan family relatively stable.
Hua Lan, as the orthodox eldest daughter of the Sheng family, has a high status and should not have suffered too much pain and suffering. But she wanted to make a wedding dress for this disgraceful family, and her life was full of tragedy. It is a pity that a selfish father is willing to exchange his daughter's life events for the pursuit of his career.
This is true for both Hualan and Minglan.
Fortunately, the daughter of the Sheng family has her own strategy, and with the guidance of Mrs. Sheng, she can live a good life. The eldest lady of the Sheng family embodies a spirit of "not making wedding dresses for others" in her, which also makes her the focus of everyone's admiration. Although the daughters of the extended family are envied by everyone, few people can truly appreciate the bitterness and glory behind them.
Sometimes, they are even less free and happy than the daughters of ordinary families, carrying the expectations of the family from an early age, and even seeing marriage as a transaction. It doesn't matter if you marry high or low, it can't be smooth sailing.
For a woman like Hua Lan, who is both talented and beautiful, going through ninety-nine eighty-one hardships can get closer to true happiness, and even more so for other women.
Minglan once expressed this opinion: "As a man, you may not understand the dilemma faced by women, we are not as good as men, if we are willing to pay the corresponding price, it is easy to lose our reputation." ”