There is a term in psychology called the law of loss aversion.
It means that when you get something, you will be happy, but if you want to lose it, your heart will be so bad that it will be uncomfortable for a long time.
The same goes for emotions.
It's like a person comes to your life and renders you, but if he no longer loves you and wants to leave, this reality is unacceptable, and the pain of love makes people collapse.
I always thought that I couldn't live without one person in the future, but in fact, before the other party didn't show up, each of us lived well alone.
In fact, emotional changes are the norm, and it is easy to love or not.
If a man doesn't love you anymore and cuts ties with you, it's better to choose to do two words: let go.
If you can't hold the sand, you might as well lift it.
When I broke up with my ex, it got bad.
We have been together for half a year and thought we could get married, but he suddenly said that he never liked me and just used me as a substitute for his first love, and the first love didn't know why he came to him, so he broke up with me in order to give each other a chance.
I cried and scolded him, and then cried to keep him, but no matter how hard I tried, he didn't miss the past feelings, and cruelly deleted all my *** I became a stranger completely.
At that time, it was really sad, there was a feeling of being hollowed out, I was really used to each other's side, and I didn't know what the meaning of survival was in his absence.
It wasn't until I saw my parents come back from the field that I suddenly realized that the original intention of love is to make us happy, and if sadness is more than everything in life, it is better to choose to let go than to cling to it.
What doesn't belong to you, if you keep it in your hand, you're going to struggle all the time.
A relationship that is forced to be together will not be comfortable to get along with, and it is better to choose to let go than to put two people who originally loved each other in an inappropriate relationship.
What's more, we can control our own hearts, but we can't control the feelings of others.
Letting go is a fulfillment of oneself.
Read a story.
A young man, because he wants to open his heart because he is out of love, has no heart to work, so he goes to the wise man to cry.
The wise man brought a pot of flowers, let the young man hold it in both hands, and then said nothing. After a while, the wise man set up a sumptuous feast, and ate alone, while the young man standing beside him could not help but drool despite not looking at it.
Seeing this, the wise man allowed the young man to sit down and eat, but only if he brought a flower pot.
The young man was so embarrassed that he asked the wise man: How can he eat if he can't get the pots?
The wise man replied, "Won't you put it down?".”
Yes, if obsession becomes a stumbling block to your progress, isn't it good to kick it away?
A person, if he just stands still, will never go far.
If you lose your love and always stay at the infinitely beautiful intersection of two people, even if you have broken up, you are still trapped in the memory that you can't extricate yourself from, and you are destined to have no time and energy to do other more meaningful things.
When you close the door for yourself, you also close all the windows for yourself.
In fact, when love is truly a thing of the past, letting go is a kind of self-improvement, and the heart is liberated in order to better accept new people and new lives.
If someone who loves you very much decides to quit your life, don't keep it, the person who really loves you won't leave, and the person who doesn't love you, stay.
Instead of adding sadness to an emotion that doesn't belong to you, let go of memories and let a new life come.