**Ambiguous relationship between graduate students and teachers.
In graduate education, faculty advisors play a pivotal role in students' studies and lives. They are not only our classmates, but also our seniors and teachers. However, there should be an appropriate distance and scale between the instructing students and the students.
Although communication with teachers is based on academic Xi and research considerations, sometimes graduate students still have a wrong understanding of certain behaviors and behaviors of teachers. This may be due to the graduates' tendency to over-interpret in their nervousness and exhaustion, or to their own emotional needs. Counselors should be especially careful not to send out unclear messages when communicating with graduate students. At the same time, you should pay attention to your own mentality and do not over-interpret what your teacher says and does.
A student posted a post on the Internet that said "I've been there", which immediately caused a lot of speculation. Although the professor's intention was to let him have any problems on the weekend, he would still wait in his office. This kind of misunderstanding is emotional, and the graduate students understand the most subtle movements of the teacher too much, so that they expose their own psychological problems.
In addition, these graduates also described their daily conversations as a very intimate dialogue, which made the misunderstanding between the two even more serious. This appears to be a form of student-to-student care, but it is misunderstood as a form of "**" or "sexual harassment". The teacher touched his bag and asked, "Can I eat?"Originally, his purpose was to check if there was anything to eat in his students' school bags, but when he posted the **screenshot on the Internet, the atmosphere of the whole campus changed. In addition, the teacher did not pay attention to the students, and put the word "stupid" on his mobile phone, which gave people the impression of "saying more and making fewer mistakes", and the boundary between the teacher and the graduate student was broken. Fortunately, however, most PhD students are sensible and do not take this misunderstanding as a joke.
On the Relationship Between Graduate Students and Counselors.
In order to maintain a good relationship between teachers and students, it is necessary to pay attention to the grasp of one's own time and space.
1.Self-awareness: When communicating with teachers, they should show respect and courtesy to their teachers. Appropriate titles like "teacher", "you", and polite language, such as "okay", "how do you feel?"."Wait. At the same time, ask some questions to the teachers, listen to their suggestions, and show your sincerity and humility. In terms of tone and posture, you should try not to grovel too much, not too arrogant, and give people a sense of sincerity, generosity, and modesty. For example, a graduate asks his advisor, "Sir, I don't know much about this, where do I start?""Can you please give me some advice?”
2.Comfort: In interacting with teachers, focus on making students feel comfortable. Don't act too close, speak too casually, and have an appropriate distance. When consulting the teacher about the problem, you should show a strong desire for knowledge and the spirit of curiosity, and do not laugh at or make fun of others with your depressed self-esteem. Also, show that you are a person of integrity and responsibility. For example, you can take a picture of your instructor and stick it with "Submitted|."It's over". When students encounter problems that they cannot solve by themselves, they should also communicate with the instructor and report their progress.
3.Safety: To enhance a sense of safety, students should be proactive in reporting their work to the teacher and show a positive attitude. Be honest and responsible with your advisor's questions. Graduates can send their work** to their advisors with relevant materials. If you have a problem that you can't solve, tell your instructor and tell him about your efforts. "Mentor, the job you gave me, I had some trouble when I was xx, and although I tried, I still couldn't do it alone. "Can you please give me some advice?"This kind of feedback reflects both the respect that students have for their teachers and the positive attitude they have towards them.
My own thoughts and conclusions.
A master's degree is a very critical period in university life, and working well with teachers is like maintaining a delicate piece of work. As a teacher, we play a very key role in the process of learning Xi, so when interacting with teachers, we must have a certain sense of proportion and a certain distance. What you have to do is not only to be respectful and polite in words and deeds, but also to show sincerity and gentleness.
In addition, we need to focus on creating a comfortable and safe atmosphere. Make the teacher feel comfortable with appropriate communication and answers, and don't speak too intimately or casually. In the process of learning Xi, you must report what you have learned to the instructor on time, and show the spirit of integrity and responsibility. When encountering problems, you should actively seek the opinions of teachers, show your diligence, and persevere in answering them.
In short, dealing with teachers is an essential part of the master's degree, and we should pay attention to the degree and distance to maintain professional connections. Through the communication and feedback with the teachers, a reassuring atmosphere is created, so as to form a harmonious working atmosphere, so as to promote the smooth development of scientific research.