I've always heard that the movie "Ten Thousand Arrows Through the Heart" received a whopping 8 on Douban5 reviews, and word of mouth is very good. I was deeply impressed by this film with its unique and wonderful plot and rich connotation. Today's glimpse, indeed, lives up to its name.
As the name suggests, this movie is not only the fate of the characters in the play as if they were hit by countless arrows, but as a moviegoer, there will also be a feeling as if they have been hit through the heart by countless arrows.
The film depicts Li Baoli, an ordinary woman in Wuhan in the 90s, whose life is full of challenges and twists and turns:
Throughout her life, she encountered major events such as cheating, being caught infidelity, her husband's suicide, and the breakdown of family relationships, each of which touched her heart deeply.
It is no exaggeration to say that she incorporates elements of tragedy in reality.
As the saying goes, those who are pitiful always have their hate, and the heroine Li Baoli is no exception.
What is her hate?
Self-esteem is very high, condescending.
Li Baoli's spouse, Ma Xuewu, was born in the countryside, but he was able to stay in the city because he was successfully admitted to university.
Although Li Baoli's cultural attainment is not very high, she does come from the city.
In that historical period, "city dwellers" were seen as a sign of social status and identity. Therefore, Li Baoli believes that she has more advantages than Ma Xuewu in her heart, and constantly oppresses him.
Even Li Baoli's close friend Xiao Jing expressed dissatisfaction with her attitude towards Ma Xuewu, believing that she had made Ma Xuewu embark on the path of disloyalty." "After I married him, he often said that my woman was too ungentle, and he said that it was called an extramarital affair, and I didn't agree!However, Li Baoli expressed it like this:
Once, Ma Xuewu knelt down and begged me to marry him, and considering my appearance, there were many people who pursued me. I married him because he was a countryman, and it was a blessing for him, so why wasn't he nice to me?”
In fact, Li Baoli does not understand that life after marriage means that husband and wife "share honor and shame together". "When my husband and I got married, he was a big guy. "Over time, attractive wallets get older, and the value of identity changes over time.
She chose Ma Xuewu and became a family with him, she should put aside her pride and move towards the same goal.
The higher her status, the more unstable her marital relationship became.
The words are sharp, and every sentence is heart-wrenching.
When I fund, they act as a matter of course. You used to sit silent when you sat on the ground **, but now you're smoking!Do you really think you're working as a waiter in a factory?It's despicable!”
Li Baoli was preparing to move into a new house with her husband and children, but because her husband Ma Xuewu said a few words of praise to the porter, she did not hesitate to reprimand Ma Xuewu in front of the workers.
Suddenly, Ma Xuewu lost face, and the movers looked at him with deep sympathy and said:
Although we are all doing manual labor and manual labor, the wives at home are very virtuous and virtuous, and live more comfortably than you. I have observed that it is really sympathetic to be controlled by such a woman for a long time, even though you are also a cadre in society. ”
Originally, Ma Xuewu was already dissatisfied with Li Baoli, and the words said by the movers added fuel to the fire and deeply touched Ma Xuewu's sensitive nerves.
Ma Xuewu, why don't you want to eat it?If you don't feel like it tastes good, find someone else to cook it for you. ”
After Ma Xuewu ran away from home, Li Baoli still laughed at him in front of her best friend Xiaojing.
Can you do it?”
When a woman says something like this in bed, it is undoubtedly a great insult to men.
Every sentence is like a fatal blade, and every sentence pierces people's hearts deeply.
For men, the importance of face is immeasurable.
Ignoring Ma Xuewu's own weak character, Li Baoli's vitriol words were not only the reason for the end of their marriage, but also the catalyst that pushed Ma Xuewu towards suicide.
In his suicide note, Ma Xuewu did not mention Li Baoli, which also reflected his strong antipathy to her.
I don't know anything about love, but I am moved by my own emotions.
It is not only Ma Xuewu who is hostile to Li Baoli, but also her child Xiaobao.
When Li Baoli's husband chooses to jump into the river to end his life, and her son rushes forward and hits Li Baoli violently and says, "Give me back my father, return my father", this scene is really full of irony:
These two people, who were supposed to love them deeply, unexpectedly became the ones who hated them the most. In my memory, I used to have a happy and warm family, but because of an unfair decision, they lost everything they had ever been. For a woman, this is undoubtedly a huge heartache.
Does Li Baoli have feelings for Xiaobao?
Indeed it is. Li Baoli has made great efforts for the livelihood of the family, and in order to support her youngest son and mother-in-law, she has taken on the role of the family's "burdenman". In the past ten years, this once personable ** has gradually turned into a sloppy aunt, and successfully trained her son to become the champion of the college entrance examination.
However, what she waited for, and what she finally got was Xiaobao's words to her:
Once you drink this glass of wine, the relationship between us is no longer mother and son. ”
Unexpectedly, Li Baoli was too conceited to make sacrifices, and only she really moved her.
There is no doubt that Li Baoli has made great sacrifices for her family. However, what is her love for her children?
She thought about it again and again, and eventually all she could ask was, "What is the number of assignments?"Did you finish your homework?”
Li Baoli uses this to convey her love.
As a mother, is providing material support to your child really the same as deep love?Should it be unconditional?Is this really qualified?Is she satisfied with what she has done?Is the love she gives really what the other person expects?
For these, Li Baoli has never thought deeply.
What's next].
There is no doubt that Li Baoli is a kind person :
She always treats everyone sincerely, and whenever Sister-in-law He encounters difficulties, she will not hesitate to use her savings to help her;
She has the spirit of hardship and hard work, and for the happiness of her family, she chose to become a "burdenman";
After her husband chose to jump into the river to end his life, she gave all the money she earned to her mother-in-law to raise her son and support her mother-in-law.
However, Li Baoli portrayed herself as a "wicked person", living like a tragedy, losing all her relatives and support. This is one of the reasons why she has suffered repeated setbacks in her career. She is bad because she doesn't know how to love herself and others. She doesn't understand the difference between "love" and "hate", and she doesn't know how powerful love is. The kind of "deep love and deep hate" emotion that Li Baoli shows may be her true appearance.
If Li Baoli can let go of her arrogant attitude, respect her husband equally, replace the rain of bullets with soft words, give men enough face, and give enough love to children, then, will tragedy still happen?