Zeng Shiqiang said: When it is simple, do not quarrel; When it is complicated, do not worry; When angry, do not speak; When angry, don't make decisions. The weak are as irritable as a tiger, and the strong are as calm as water.
On the stage of life, we often encounter various challenges and difficulties. How to maintain inner peace and sanity in this uncertain world, Professor Zeng Shiqiang gave his advice. He believes that we should adopt different attitudes and approaches when faced with simple and complex situations.
1. When it's simple, don't quarrel.
Many things in our lives are actually quite simple. But often in these simple things, we are prone to get caught up in quarrels and contradictions. Professor Tsang believes that when we are faced with simple things, we should avoid quarrels and contradictions. Because arguing not only wastes our time and energy, but also ruins our mood and relationships.
So, how do you avoid arguing over simple things? First of all, we need to remain calm and sane. When facing problems, do not be swayed by emotions, but should look at problems with a rational and objective attitude. Second, we need to learn to communicate and compromise. When you have a conflict with others, learn to listen to their opinions and suggestions, respect their thoughts and feelings, and then find a solution that is acceptable to both parties.
2. When it is complicated, don't worry.
In life, complicated things are inevitable. When faced with complex issues, we tend to feel annoyed and anxious. However, Professor Tsang believes that we should remain calm and rational in the face of complex problems, and not be swayed by our troubles.
So, how do you avoid getting annoyed by complex issues? First, we need to understand the nature and root cause of the problem. Only by understanding the nature and root cause of the problem can we better solve the problem. Second, we need to take effective measures to solve the problem. When taking measures, we need to consider various factors and possibilities to develop the most effective plan. At the same time, we also need to learn to accept reality and face difficulties. In the face of difficulties, instead of running away and retreating, you should be brave enough to face the problem and find a way to solve it.
3. When you are angry, do not speak.
Getting angry is a common emotional response, but speaking while angry can have undesirable consequences. Professor Tsang believes that you should avoid talking when you are angry, so as not to lose control of your emotions and cause adverse effects.
So, how do you avoid talking when you're angry? First, we need to recognize our own emotional changes and reactions. When you feel like you're about to get angry, learn to control your emotions and take calm measures. Second, we need to learn to be silent and think calmly. After thinking calmly, decide whether to speak and how to express your opinions and suggestions. This avoids impulsive decisions and words and actions when emotions are out of control.
Fourth, when angry, do not make decisions.
Anger is a common emotional response, but making decisions when angry can have undesirable consequences. Professor Tsang believes that decision-making should be avoided when angry, so as not to affect the quality of judgment and decision-making through emotions.
So, how do you avoid making decisions when you're angry? First, we need to recognize our own emotional changes and reactions. When you feel like you're about to get angry, learn to control your emotions and take calm measures. Second, we need to learn to delay decision-making and think calmly. After thinking calmly, decide whether to make a decision and how to make the right decision. This avoids making bad decisions and actions under the influence of emotions.
Fifth, the weak are as irritable as tigers, and the strong are as calm as water.
Weak people tend to be easily influenced and controlled by emotions, showing irritable and impulsive behavioral characteristics. The strong are able to maintain inner peace and the ability to think calmly in the face of difficulties and challenges. Professor Tsang believes that the phrase "the weak are as irritable as tigers, and the strong are calm as water" vividly illustrates the different performances of the weak and the strong in terms of emotional control and coping with challenges.
So, how do you become a strong person who can keep your peace? First, we need to recognize our own emotional changes and reactions. Only by understanding your emotional characteristics and reaction patterns can you better control your emotions and take effective coping measures. Secondly, we need to develop our ability to think calmly. In the face of difficulties and challenges, we must learn to objectively analyze and think about the essence and root cause of the problem, and formulate effective solutions. It is also important to learn the ability to self-regulate and control emotions, and to adopt positive behaviors to cope with challenges and stress. Only in this way can you become a real strong man, calm as water, and face all difficulties and challenges!