"Passion and Contradiction: The Love Story of Shi Guangrong and Chu Qin".
In the long river of years, the love story of Shi Guangrong and Chu Qin is like a burning flame, warm and unique. They are like a vivid picture of life, showing the contradictions and truths in marriage. Some people believe that their way of getting along is the epitome of a husband and wife in real life - noisy and noisy, and the old party knows that each other is indispensable. However, in depth, is this view really comprehensive?Shi Guangrong's feelings for Chu Qin, is it love or selfish possession?
Shi Guangrong, a brave and fearless warrior, his life is full of the smoke of war. Despite his youthful vigor, he dedicated his passion to his country. It wasn't until he was over 36 years old and after the founding of New China that he really began to think about his life and love. And when he saw Chu Qin for the first time on the streets of Shenyang City, the 19-year-old girl dancing, her smile was like the sunshine of spring, which instantly illuminated his heart.
Shi Guangrong's pursuit of Chu Qin was enthusiastic and persistent, but Chu Qin's reaction was cold and even resistant. Her feelings for Shi Guangrong are full of contradictions and struggles. Shi Guangrong's persistence stresses her down, and she tries to escape from his embrace. Despite this, Shi Guangrong did not give up, and he decided to achieve his goal by convincing Chu Qin's parents.
Chu Qin's parents, a pair of hard-working old men, were both surprised and delighted by the appearance of Shi Guangrong, the head of the regiment. What they see is a mature, responsible man who can bring stability and happiness to his daughter. So, they easily agreed to Shi Guangrong's marriage proposal.
However, behind all this, is Shi Guangrong's selfishness or helpless choice?Is his affection for Chu Qin sincere?Or is it just to satisfy your own needs?Perhaps, only they know the answer.
In the interweaving of love and marriage, truth and contradiction coexist. The story of Shi Guangrong and Chu Qin is not only a love history, but also a mirror, reflecting the complexity and contradictions of human nature. In the midst of passion and contradiction, they try to find the true meaning of life and each other's place. Their stories tell us that love is not only sweet, but also understanding and tolerance. True love is to run in and grow together in the contradictions of life. Chu Qin's parents brought Chu Qin over, and as soon as she saw her parents' looks, she understood. She cried as if she had been wronged, and said while crying, "I don't do it, I don't want to get married." On the day of the wedding, Chu Qin's parents forcibly dragged her out of the house, and she cried and shouted, "I don't, no." However, the matter was out of her control, and she was pushed onto the horse, and with the sound of neat footsteps and feeble cries, she finally went away.
That night, Chu Qin sat in the new house, crying non-stop. Shi Guangrong didn't care, he had already married Chu Qin back home, no matter how she cried, it couldn't change the fact that the two became husband and wife. In the eyes of outsiders, Shi Guangrong's love for Chu Qin is sincere, he can't wait to love her sincerely, and he will do everything he can to marry her. However, in Chu Qin's eyes, Shi Guangrong is selfish. He only liked Chu Qin's young beauty, but he never asked her if she liked him. From the moment they met, her face was full of rejection, but for the sake of his own wishes, he married this beautiful wife and buried her love.
After getting married, Shi Guangrong's various sleeping habits made Chu Qin unable to sleep. His snoring is like thunder, grinding his teeth, farting, and chirping, how can his mother sleep in such an environment?She endured her father's evil deeds and imagined the scene in "Dream of Red Mansions" over and over again. The mother has a deep yearning for that kind of life, where there is the ultimate love and beauty of life. However, the reality made her miserable and unable to sleep.
The living habits and growth environment of the two are completely different. Shi Guangrong is satisfied with this kind of life and can sleep peacefully every day. But Chu Qin lived like a year in this harsh environment. In order for Chu Qin to truly let go of the past, they must face and solve these problems together. In Shi Guangrong's heart, he found a wonderful way, that is, to let Chu Qin have a child. Mother's love is like a mountain, and the child is like a solid bridge, firmly tying Chu Qin's heart to this family.
Kindness to parents-in-law does not necessarily mean love for wives and children. After Chu Qin became pregnant, the big stone in Shi Guangrong's heart finally landed. This child is the crystallization of the two of them together, and it is also the deep bond between them. With a child, Chu Qin's heart can no longer leave this home.
Continuous childbirth allowed Chu Qin to give birth to three lively and lovely children one after another: Shi Lin, Shi Jing and Shi Hai. However, the birth of the child did not bring more laughter to the family, but more trouble. Shi Guangrong didn't have much time at home, and by the time he ended his military career and had to stay at home, the children were at their most naughty age.
The children's noise was unbearable for Shi Guangrong, and he often slapped their butts indiscriminately, causing the children's butts to often swell and become too big to sit down. Chu Qin felt sorry for the child and accused Shi Guangrong of not being a qualified father. She believes that Shi Guangrong has not fulfilled his responsibility to take care of the child, has not changed the child's diaper, and has not coaxed the child to sleep. However, Shi Guangrong firmly believed that a filial son came out under the stick, and disagreed with Chu Qin's accusations.
When it comes to dealing with children, Shi Guangrong's rough behavior makes Chu Qin feel desperate. She chose to remain silent, because she knew that no matter how she explained, in the eyes of outsiders, Shi Guangrong was still a good person who was filial and upright. And no one can understand Chu Qin's dissatisfaction. In the eyes of the world, although Shi Guangrong is uneducated, his filial piety to his parents-in-law is obvious to all.
Shi Guangrong has no parents since he was a child, and grew up with the help of the village. He treated Chu Qin's parents as filial as his own parents. When Chu Qin's mother was sick, Shi Guangrong contributed money and efforts to take care of her wholeheartedly. When Chu Qin's father was seriously ill, Shi Guangrong personally wiped his body and waited in the hospital day and night. His filial piety touched the people around him and won the appreciation of Chu Qin's parents.
Chu Qin's father often said that although they had no son, they had a son-in-law who was more filial than his own son. For such an evaluation, Shi Guangrong gladly accepted it. In his opinion, this is where the value of his life lies. As for Chu Qin, although she was dissatisfied with Shi Guangrong's behavior, she could not deny his dedication to his family and filial piety to his parents-in-law. It's just that she still longs for more love and warmth in her heart, hoping to create a warm and harmonious home with Shi Guangrong.
Chu Qin's parents didn't know that Shi Guangrong was good to his parents-in-law, which did not mean that he was good to his wife and children. Shi Lin wanted to go to college when he grew up, but Shi Guangrong insisted that he go to the army and sent him to the most difficult place. This made Chu Qin feel very disappointed and unfair. She believes that Shi Guangrong is derelict in his treatment of children's education, he has never participated in the development of children, but he dictates their choices at the most critical time of their lives. He does not care about the feelings of his children and stubbornly reverses their fate. This practice makes children feel controlled and deprived of their freedom.
However, Shi Guangrong didn't seem to realize that there was something wrong with his actions. He thinks he is good to his family and friends, especially to his brothers and his parents. He always emphasizes that he is a good person, but he fails to take into account the harm that his actions may bring to his family.
Koiwakawa's words remind us that sometimes people overthink one thing and misinterpret or misinterpret the intentions of others. We should learn to look at a person or a thing from an objective point of view, and not easily use some superficial similarities as the basis for judgment.
In short, we need to look at the problem more rationally and objectively. When we encounter contradictions or conflicts, we should try to communicate and understand the other person's position and ideas, rather than blindly blaming or attacking the other person. Only in this way can we build better relationships and create a better future. Rewrite as follows:
For Shi Guangrong, filial piety to his parents-in-law is not just a superficial etiquette, but out of his sincere feelings. Because he did not fully feel the warmth of the family in his original family, he felt deeply indebted to his parents. Therefore, he transferred this regret and love to his parents-in-law, hoping to seek peace and satisfaction in his heart.
His kindness to his parents-in-law and relatives in his hometown is undoubtedly out of the importance and respect for his family. Regrettably, however, this love did not extend to his wife and children. Although Shi Guangrong kept saying that he loved Chu Qin, his love only stayed in verbal expression, and was never shown through actual actions.
Chu Qin has a lot of responsibilities in the family, both working and taking care of the children, and cooking and taking care of household chores when she returns home. However, Shi Guangrong never really shared these household chores, and even when the child was crying, he would only loudly reprimand Chu Qin for not taking the child. In his concept, marrying a beautiful Chu Qin and having a beautiful family is his goal in life. As for how much effort and hardship Chu Qin would need to put in to achieve this goal, he never seriously considered it.
After marrying Shi Guangrong, Chu Qin gradually lost herself. She originally had a bright future and her own stage dream in the art troupe. However, consecutive births prevented her from continuing her beloved stage career. When she finally had the opportunity to return to the art troupe, her slender figure and sweet voice had long since disappeared, and she could only engage in some chores. This huge psychological gap is unacceptable to her.
When she complained to Shi Guangrong, he thought that her demands were too high. In his opinion, as a woman, it is their duty to have children, and as the pillar of the family, he has the ability to support the whole family without Chu Qin going out to work. This kind of incomprehension made Chu Qin's mood more and more depressed.
As Shi Hai described in the original book, her mother Chu Qin ended her artistic career prematurely, and she blamed all her resentment and hatred on her father, Shi Guangrong. At the age of twenty-nine, her world had changed completely. Mother still harbors many ideals and pursuits for life. However, Shi Guangrong couldn't understand Chu Qin's thoughts. He threw himself into the war from the age of nineteen and fought until he was thirty-six. When the people finally lived in peace and contentment, he felt at a loss as to what to do with his future. Chu Qin hopes that he can focus more on his family, after all, home is a place to live, not a battlefield. In Chu Qin's view, Shi Guangrong is like a soulless and emotionless submachine gun, and his way of thinking has always stayed in the war years, failing to keep up with the development of society.
Every time Chu Qin bent over and mop the floor at home, Shi Guangrong would squint at her with disdain. In his eyes, Chu Qin's small things such as taking care of children and doing housework cannot be compared with his work of reading the sand table and drawing maps at home. The housework done by Chu Qin is not on the table in his opinion, but what he does is the greatest and most worthy of praise.
Not only Chu Qin, but even the people around him began to accuse Shi Guangrong, thinking that he should not indulge in the glory of the past, but should look forward. However, Shi Guangrong has always been stubborn and unmoved. Therefore, Shi Guangrong and Chu Qin in their later years chose to separate. But as he grew older, Shi Guangrong's physical condition began to decline, and he had to rely on Chu Qin's care. At this moment, he finally learned to bow to Chu Qin and life.
One day, Chu Qin asked him, "What did you fight for?"Shi Guangrong replied: "In order to live a good life." Hearing this answer, Chu Qin smiled sadly: "Isn't it to please a good wife and have children to pass on the lineage?"This question made Shi Guangrong suddenly feel ashamed, and he realized that he had sacrificed Chu Qin's pursuit of life and happiness in life just to realize his dream. Although he realized the dream of his wife and children to have a hot kang head, he never really cared about whether Chu Qin was happy.
Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "A person's biggest shortcoming is not selfishness and amorousness, but paranoid love for someone who does not love himself." This sentence could not be more appropriate to describe Shi Guangrong's love for Chu Qin. In this marriage, he enjoyed Chu Qin's youth and body under the banner of love, but never gave the corresponding return. The two have been together for decades, and Chu Qin has never experienced what it is like to be loved by her husband. Since marrying Shi Guangrong, she has been constantly dedicating herself to this family, but she has never been rewarded endlessly. In this marriage, the nobility or selfishness of the person is revealed. Marriage is one of the most important commitments in life.
A noble marriage is a partner who is willing to give for each other and does not care about anything in return. They are willing to care for each other with their hearts, respect each other's feelings, support each other, and work together to get through every stage of life. Selfish marriages, on the other hand, are those who only think about their own interests and are indifferent to their partner's feelings and needs. They are self-centered and pursue their own interests and pleasures without regard for their partner's feelings and needs.
Shi Guangrong's marriage can be said to be a complex union. His marriage had both happy and unhappy sides. His happiness comes from his love and concern for Chu Qin, but his misfortune also comes from his calculation and control of Chu Qin. He used the so-called love to bind Chu Qin and control her life. He built his happiness on Chu Qin's pain, without taking into account Chu Qin's feelings and needs.
In old age, Chu Qin faced the pressure and helplessness of reality and had to compromise with life. In her life, she has never lived for herself. Who can truly understand her pain and helplessness?Her life was bound by Shi Guangrong's love and could not break free. Her pain and helplessness can only be felt by herself.
Therefore, we should respect everyone's feelings and needs, especially those who have been neglected and hurt in marriage. We should advocate a noble marriage, respect the feelings and needs of our partners, care for each other with our hearts, and spend every stage of life together. At the same time, we should also be wary of selfish marriages, oppose any form of control and calculation, and pursue true freedom and equality. Only in this way can we have a truly happy married life.