The unclear boundary between mother and child has aroused disgust among netizens.
The son avoids the mother, and the daughter avoids the father", which is a common custom in ancient Chinese society, that is, respecting family members and keeping an appropriate distance. Behind this concept is a kind of respect for the boundaries between the sexes, as well as for the boundaries between parents and children. However, in practice, some parents ignore the boundaries of parent-child relationship, making the parent-child relationship beyond the conventional scope, causing some people to feel uneasy and worried.
Recently, a mother had an "intimate" online exchange between her and her child, which caused strong dissatisfaction among netizens. The mother in this ** always uses "wife", "girlfriend" or "tigress" to replace her child, thinking that she is very cute, but she feels very embarrassed. The mother also said that such intimate acts were common, and that she believed that anyone who noticed the anomaly was unclean. In addition, some mothers have also begun to imitate, admitting that they want to kiss their baby, and will quietly kiss the baby's lips while the baby is sleeping, which is called the baby's first kiss. Such a move is worrying, disgusting, and difficult to accept.
The danger of getting too close to mothers.
She thought she was her husband, but it was actually a misunderstanding. Such a mother regards her child as the best in the world, gives him all the love, and does not consider the boundaries between children at all. Such a parent-child relationship is harmful to children and can cause a series of psychological problems.
First of all, such a mother-mother approach is likely to lead to child dependence. In this case, letting a child be protected by their mother's motherhood from an early age and lose their ability to think independently and act independently is not conducive to their growth and learning.
Secondly, such closeness will affect children's interactions with others, and affect their interactions and interactions with the opposite sex, family, classmates, friends, etc. Because they have not experienced it and have no sense of boundaries, they will face chaos and embarrassment when they want to get along with others.
Eventually, too close feelings can have a counterproductive effect on a child's later development. If the child realizes that this relationship goes beyond the ordinary scope, he will have a dissatisfied and fleeing mentality towards the mother, and in severe cases, it will cause the rupture and alienation between the parents and the child.
Establish a good parent-child boundary and provide appropriate guidance for family education.
In the face of such a close mother and mother, parents should change their parenting style in a timely manner, build a sound parent-child boundary, and help children understand and properly cope with the relationship with their families.
First and foremost, parents must understand their roles and responsibilities. Whether it is a parent, or a parent and a child, it is important to clearly define one's status. Parents should fulfill their parental responsibilities and refrain from trying to meet their own needs through interaction with their children.
Second, create an atmosphere of mutual respect. Parents should respect their children's private space and not interfere too much with their children's freedom. In addition, children should be taught to respect their parents' authority and boundaries, and develop good relationships with those around them.
Fourth, strengthen parents' educational concepts and attach importance to parents' nurturing and development of their children. Parents should communicate effectively with their children on a regular basis, truly understand their children's emotions and needs, provide appropriate care and help for their children, and help them understand the boundaries between men and women and between parents.
My own thoughts and conclusions.
In family life, there is a close bond between parents and children. There should be appropriate intimacy and boundaries between parents and children, so as to better promote the development and healthy development of children. Whether it is a father and a child, or a brother and sister, they all have their own positions and boundaries, and we must respect and maintain these boundaries to prevent excessive dependence and unhealthy intimacy. Parents should establish a good concept of parent-child in the process of education and provide appropriate guidance to them. Only in this way will young children be able to learn more about the interactions between men and women during their growth and development, thus laying a solid foundation for their future development.